Hi all! I've been struggling with BF since day 1 and it's really stressing me out. I feel like a failure and like I can't give my LO the best possible. I never feel a let down or like my milk has really come in. LO wasn't thriving so we supplemented with formula while I tried to nurse and pump and hope to produce some to feed him. I never pump more than 3/4oz at the most, less if I had nursed 1sr.
I've seen LCs. One did a weighted feed (said LO got 3/4oz in half hour) and was very concerned with how LO was doing (so sleepy, slow to gain weight, very few poop diapers). After adding more formula (at 1-2 weeks he was taking 2oz every 4 hours), he reached his birth weight at 16 days, was much more alert and everyone was happy. The other LO had me rent a hospital pump and hoped I'd have better luck stimulating milk production with that-told me to pump every time he nurses and has formula. She also said some times it takes a month for milk to really come in.
Now he's 3 weeks 2 days and taking 3oz formula almost every 2.5-3 hours. I still try to nurse/pump. He looks to nurse but clearly gets frustrated-roots, pulls back, shakes his head, cries, then falls asleep. He seems to suckle more than nurse, and when he does nurse, he is done before 10 minutes are up, and I can barely express/pump anything afterwards.
He also spits up A LOT on formula, which is what's making it even harder for me to not be EBF, he doesn't spit up much when he nurses. I think he's going through a growth spurt because he's been very demanding to eat more lately, and restless. He used to nurse/take formula and fall asleep. Now he cries and seems frustrated, especially after nursing.
My H is very supportive and tries so hard to help. He buys everything people suggest trying-lactation cookies, mother's milk tea and vitamins. I had said I'd give it a month and re-evaluate. Now we are 5 days away from that "deadline". Part of me wants someone to say to stop BF, here's what formula to use and that would be best. But a big part of me is determined to make nursing successful. I just want to know when to say that's enough and it's not going to work.
I have an appointment with a LC Friday, so I will run all this by her. In the meantime-Anyone have suggestions or "been there" stories??? Looking for both sides-nursing that started off rocky but ended up working or when you decided to pull the plug.
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TTC #1 since October 2012
BFP #1 11/22/12 EDD 7/29/13 MMC 1/14/13, D&C 1/16/13
BFP #2 5/7/13 EDD 1/14/2014 Ectopic discovered 5/21/13, lost left tube
Referred to RE, blood work done August 2013, AMH 0.27, all else normal, HSG clear
BFP #3 12/1/13 EDD 8/8/14, MC 12/24/13
January 2014: RE #2, blood work repeated, homozygous MTHFR c677t, SHG clear
BFP #4 4/7/14 EDD 12/15/14
Our rainbow was born 12/6/14 at 4:26pm!