The H no longer speaks to me except to complain. I can tell exactly what his complaints will be depending on what time of day it is. At 6:30am, a text means he didn't get enough sleep. At 8am. I didn't put DS's clothes out. At 12pm, something is wrong with his lunch. At 7pm, he doesn't want to do anything b/c he was in court all day. At 8pm, he hates his advances being rejected. At 9pm, my parents' presence in our home is intolerable. At 3am, we have the "worst baby ever" and if we lived a 1000 years ago, she would have been thrown in the river, and she's just a "bad baby."
Weekends, of course, are even more fun.
My advice to him after his morning no-sleep text today was: I'm real effing sorry about that. Quit complaining to me all day every day. This is your life. Suck it up or buy a convertible and move to Vegas with a hooker.
It's the soundest advice I have ever given - even if it was to my H.
Re: Another floating SOS (b/c ripping on your SO cannot be confined to one day)
Are you out of town? Or are y'all not talking so he texts you?
If your husband likes Vegas as much as I do, he might just take you up on the offer and then make you pay for his gambling habit
I know the constant complaining would annoy the heck out of me.
@beaubecca I make the same threat!
DH is a total baby in the mornings. He's cranky and rude and it makes me insane. I do mornings and after school even when he is in town, and decided that is changing. So I set out DH's clothes and DH is responsible for dressing him. This has added to the crankiness, but enabled me to work for 30 minutes after the girls walk to school at 7:30, so I will take it. Except this morning he literally complained in my face every two minutes then insulted a deck I was reviewing - super snarky. Just over it.
Karma was present - he was pulled over for an expired tag (on his car, and his responsibility). Let go with a warning, but he wanted to know where the insurance cards are. They WERE on the counter so I could put them in the cars, but SOMEONE moved them....so I don't know where they are now. Karma part two. At least there is an upside.
I exploded an expandofile with the same theory. I think I just suck at addressing items on paper.
- DH shoved literally all the mail in it (including junk mail)
- DH broke the closure thing and it made me nuts that it was not closeable
- DH would move the file and then forget where he put it - which snowballed - things ended up all over the place but SOME things were in the file...and we could never find anything.
- I would forget to do anything with it until I needed something, then would be like, OH what is this $7 strep test bill from five months ago?
@2chatter @Clarypax - DH compulsively put things away that I need. We have a 3 tiered file rack that is separated into: shred, file, pay. I pay all the bills so anything that I want saved goes in there. He knows not to touch that file. He is responsible for filing and shredding. It's working better for us....except for the items that don't fit in the file.
@jlaok I like the rack idea. Our mud room is antique cream wood and chicken wire....so I might try to find something like this and hang it just inside the door so I don't see it all the time. (our mud room is actually a large walk in closet in our great room)
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The kids are well organized here, so thought I would share that solution @beaubecca.
I turned a large walk in closet into a mud room, but you could do this with any entry area, playroom or in their rooms or anywhere that works.
Each child has a large (a couple feet long) wood shelf with two door knobs and two hooks for hanging things - coats, sports bags, library bags, purses, string bags, etc. Library books and weekly homework go on their shelf, along with any random tchotchkes that they simply must keep. Above each shelf is a framed chicken wire holder - also pretty big and I use mini clothespins to attach all of their "stuff" like GS patches, permission slips, play rehearsal schedules, potty training stickers - anything that pertains to them that was formerly in an overflowing basket/on our kitchen counters.
There is also a small (Ikea) desk in there and a chair - they store most of the crayons and markers and paper on the desk.
Now we all know where everything is that relates to kids. There's a bench in there too to store gloves, hats, scarves, etc.