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anxiety about being from DD at bedtime

Jmj070211Jmj070211 member
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My DD is almost 13 months old now. She's always nursed to sleep, except for 2-3 occasions when I had to be away from her at bedtime. When I've had to be away from her, she's had a very difficult time falling asleep and has woken up screaming several times in the middle of the night, because her whole routine was different. I have anxiety about being away from her at bedtime and try to avoid situations that force me to be. A few days ago my husband expressed that he isn't happy that we don't get to go out alone anymore. When we do go out, we go to dinner early, so I can be home in time to put DD to bed. I know that it's important for my marriage to have more date nights, but I feel so guilty knowing that my child will be at home screaming and looking for me.
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Re: anxiety about being from DD at bedtime

  • vvvvvfeevvvvvfee member
    your LO is still really young- i think it's perfectly normal that you're anxious about being away from her for bedtime. my DS is 28 months and a bit of night owl, but DH and i still haven't stayed out late enough that anyone else has had to complete his bedtime routine!

    that said, you could try to enlist your DH's help with bedtime. you could nurse her before bed until she's sleepy, and then some nights have him rock her or soothe her until she falls asleep. then at least your LO will get accustomed to having someone other than you be there for her when she falls asleep. this might give you more flexibility-- for going out in the evenings, or for times when you might be under the weather or just need a break.

    keep in mind that in another 6 months or so, your LO's language and comprehension will be much more advanced, and you'll be able to explain more to her about what's going on-- that will make the process of going out that much easier.

    or, just go out for a lunch date! :)
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  • PurplePanda2PurplePanda2 member
    What time does your DD go to sleep?  My daughter is also 13 months and goes to sleep around 7pm.  Could you try to put her to sleep and then go out for dinner?  
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  • Jmj070211Jmj070211 member
    @PurplePanda2‌ I think this is a good idea, but we need to find a babysitter who would be willing to stay later at our house. DD goes to bed around 7:30. My MIL doesn't like to stay up late and refuses to drive if there's even a sprinkling of snow. (We live in Wisconsin, so lots of snow right now) She always wants us to drop DD off at her house instead, but that wouldn't really work. My parents aren't able to babysit right now. My dad just had surgery and my mom has Alzheimer's. We really need to find a trustworthy babysitter that will be able to stay at our house while DD is sleeping.
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  • mshukhmshukh member
    @Jmj070211 I was also going to suggest going out after you put her to bed. I'm in the same boat; we do have a nanny though who we have asked to stay after hours while we go out. It gets expensive, but worth it occasionally.
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