@spotts13 Oh. Em. Gee. Especially the boob comment. This makes me so thankful I don't have a MIL to deal with because I know she would be BSC like this (H cut her out of his life years ago because of her BSCness).
So, I have nothing that rivals some of the things on here, but my MIL (who I love dearly) drives me a little crazy sometimes. The following comments are made ad infinitum ad nauseum with every baby that comes along:
MIL (to sleeping baby): Oh, you lazy bum. What a lazy bum.
MIL (to hungry/eating baby): You little piglet!
MIL (to crying baby): Oh, what are those horrible people doing to my baby?
It's all said very lightheartedly, and affectionately, but... UGH.
The first time MIL came to see Elly, her very first comment is "How could you put a blue hat on her?" Well, maybe because I like blue, maybe because it's the same hat that each of her brothers wore when they were first born, maybe it was just the first one that came to hand... maybe because it doesn't flipping matter? She wants to turn this baby into a little pink doll with ruffles and ribbons, and I am mentally hissing like an angry cat at the idea, lol. She just let me know that she's hunting for the perfect Christmas dress for baby... and I'm just like, dude. Christmas is for wearing pajamas alllllll day. I'm not going to cram my five week old daughter into an uncomfortable frilly dress while the rest of us are lounging in fleecy comfort. So I suggested cute Christmas pajamas instead, but... of course, that's not as fun for her, so I'm guessing we're going to end up with another frilly dress that will never get worn until baby is about to grow out of it at which point I'll put her in it for ten minutes to take pictures.
Oh, then there's my fella's aunt who keeps telling me how her babies just wouldn't sleep at this age and she finally figured out if she gave them some applesauce they wouldn't get so hungry at night. Just give 'em some milk, some applesauce, and then put the crib out in the hall so you don't hear 'em cry.
@MuchlyGen I do the same thing with ugly clothes we are gifted with for the babies.
Oh god, I hate the ugly clothes. Mostly our families have good taste, but there's some stuff I've been given (not with this baby, but with DS), that I thought "I don't know which is worse: that a company made this, or that people actually bought it!" There are some fugly baby/kid clothes out there.
I swear I love my MIL but a lot of the things she does that annoy me seem to be hitting ten fold lately towards the baby. She's definitely very mine mine mine. She uses the fact that her first grandchild was born out of state as an excuse to be beyond obnoxious with my son. Oiy.
@MuchlyGen I do the same thing with ugly clothes we are gifted with for the babies.
Oh god, I hate the ugly clothes. Mostly our families have good taste, but there's some stuff I've been given (not with this baby, but with DS), that I thought "I don't know which is worse: that a company made this, or that people actually bought it!" There are some fugly baby/kid clothes out there.
I'm definitely with you on the ugly clothes, there have been a few where I struggled to keep a straight face when they were given to me. I was actually shocked by some of the things MIL picked out - she is someone who has decent taste most of the time, wearing clothes that are simple and on the conservative side, so when she gives me a sparkly magenta shirt for LO with a stupid saying about a princess on it I didn't know what to think... especially since DH and I had expressed a desire to dress LO in a mixture of colors, not just pink, and she had seemed totally on board with that. I must admit though, DH's reaction to the outfit when I brought it home from the shower was priceless, he took one look and said "wow that's really white trash" and was just as shocked as I was when I told him that his mother had picked it. That one was returned very quickly!
I must be the fattest post partum whale because Mil is still on my weight with the comment "huh, you're in no rush to lose that baby weight are you?" My response: fuck off.
I must be the fattest post partum whale because Mil is still on my weight with the comment "huh, you're in no rush to lose that baby weight are you?" My response: fuck off.
OMG I can't believe people say stuff like this to other people! Although, my mom did tell me that my face looks fat in our newborn photos, so yeah...
Went to work to show them C after they've begged me for a week. Got there and the one woman goes " Come on little one. Cry a bit. I want to hear how you sound when you cry. I'm gonna pinch you if I have to" :-O
But officer, I only stabbed her because I wanted to hear her cry.
How about the older women who say, "I want to hear about the baby! Tell me, how much did he weigh?", then tell me how much they weighed at birth 80 yrs ago, or ask if he's saying any words yet, then tell me (for the millionth time) how their son said his first word at 4 months. *sigh* Let me slowly pull out that old lady pass that you get, bite my tongue, and mumble "hmmmm, really, wow!", a-gain!!
When first meeting out LO, my neighbor(in his 60s) told DH that his son said his first word at 3 months. Yes? 3 months. What was the word you ask? ALLIGATOR. Yup.
Yesterday he sees us outside and yells across the street(he's one of those).. "So what was his first word?" --- insert crazy look here. DH says "we've got a ways to go till that." Neighbor asks how old LO is now so we tell him 8 weeks. He says, "oh two months... Let's cut him some slack.. Im sure he'll have his first word in the next month, & you'll have to let me know what it is!" Hmm ok buddy.
How about the older women who say, "I want to hear about the baby! Tell me, how much did he weigh?", then tell me how much they weighed at birth 80 yrs ago, or ask if he's saying any words yet, then tell me (for the millionth time) how their son said his first word at 4 months. *sigh* Let me slowly pull out that old lady pass that you get, bite my tongue, and mumble "hmmmm, really, wow!", a-gain!!
When first meeting out LO, my neighbor(in his 60s) told DH that his son said his first word at 3 months. Yes? 3 months. What was the word you ask? ALLIGATOR. Yup.
Yesterday he sees us outside and yells across the street(he's one of those).. "So what was his first word?" --- insert crazy look here. DH says "we've got a ways to go till that." Neighbor asks how old LO is now so we tell him 8 weeks. He says, "oh two months... Let's cut him some slack.. Im sure he'll have his first word in the next month, & you'll have to let me know what it is!" Hmm ok buddy.
My mom and sister keep mentioning how much LO looks like my sisters baby picture. I don't know why this bugs me so much. She looks like my baby picture too! I birthed her she looks like me okay?!
My MIL insisted that our niece looks just like my H (her uncle). We all finally called her on that one, because she actually looks like a really good cross between her parents, you know, the ones who contributed the DNA. That shut her up.
I got the "you're so fussy; what is your mommy feeding you" from both MIL and my mom. I let it go, but I wanted to tell them that if they didn't like it, they could start lactating and give it a shot!
My mom and sister keep mentioning how much LO looks like my sisters baby picture. I don't know why this bugs me so much. She looks like my baby picture too! I birthed her she looks like me okay?!
This is funny to me... my niece looked just like me when she was born. My daughter looks just like my sister. Ya know, they both look a lot alike. I mean, we're sisters... could've been a different story had everyone mentioned how much the babies looked like their uncle, eh?
On the subject of who baby looks like; no one is quite sure who our LO looks like.
Before he was born, DH's grandma said if the baby wasn't born blonde she would know it wasn't DH's. Well of course LO was born with a full head of very dark hair. She hasn't said anything since he was born, but I know what she's thinking since both DH and I are fair. It doesn't matter that everyone in my family except me is dark haired and olive skinned and half of DH's family is the same. Because you know two fair people= fair baby.
How about the older women who say, "I want to hear about the baby! Tell me, how much did he weigh?", then tell me how much they weighed at birth 80 yrs ago, or ask if he's saying any words yet, then tell me (for the millionth time) how their son said his first word at 4 months. *sigh* Let me slowly pull out that old lady pass that you get, bite my tongue, and mumble "hmmmm, really, wow!", a-gain!!
When first meeting out LO, my neighbor(in his 60s) told DH that his son said his first word at 3 months. Yes? 3 months. What was the word you ask? ALLIGATOR. Yup.
Yesterday he sees us outside and yells across the street(he's one of those).. "So what was his first word?" --- insert crazy look here. DH says "we've got a ways to go till that." Neighbor asks how old LO is now so we tell him 8 weeks. He says, "oh two months... Let's cut him some slack.. Im sure he'll have his first word in the next month, & you'll have to let me know what it is!" Hmm ok buddy.
I would come up with some obsurd word and just tell him that it's his first word!
Re: genetics in general, as spawned above. Our daughter has blue eyes; neither of us do... WHAT THE WHAT?! "they" ask. Um, we both have green eyes. It's science people!
Re: genetics in general, as spawned above. Our daughter has blue eyes; neither of us do... WHAT THE WHAT?! "they" ask. Um, we both have green eyes. It's science people!
Re: genetics in general, as spawned above. Our daughter has blue eyes; neither of us do... WHAT THE WHAT?! "they" ask. Um, we both have green eyes. It's science people!
Eye color can still change up to 6 months old. But yeah ppl are cray cray
Very true. My sister's didn't fully set until she was about a year old. Still seem to change a bit with her mood & such.
Re: genetics in general, as spawned above. Our daughter has blue eyes; neither of us do... WHAT THE WHAT?! "they" ask. Um, we both have green eyes. It's science people!
Eye color can still change up to 6 months old. But yeah ppl are cray cray
Very true. My sister's didn't fully set until she was about a year old. Still seem to change a bit with her mood & such.
DD's eyes have darkened over the past year. They used to be this stunning blue green and now they're hazel.
Exactly what my sister's did! Some days now I think they look like a stormy sea.
On the "who does baby look like" subject, we always get that LO looks like her daddy...simply because of her coloring (dark hair and skin tone - I'm super pale) but if you actually look at baby pictures, she looks just like me....but to the ILs, it's like I'm not even a genetic component to this child.
On the "who does baby look like" subject, we always get that LO looks like her daddy...simply because of her coloring (dark hair and skin tone - I'm super pale) but if you actually look at baby pictures, she looks just like me....but to the ILs, it's like I'm not even a genetic component to this child.
Oh I get this too. My SIL will say, "Oh, she looks just like H... Of course she does. She's a "insert last name here"." It annoys the crap out of me.
Whenever someone mentions that they can see a little of me in her I just say thank goodness! I was starting to wonder if she was really mine!
I was questioned again (by someone else this time) if the doctor seemed concerned that she was eating so often/ if her stomach has grown at all. You know, since it's so abnormal for an EBF infant to eat every 2 hours during the day...
Do people really forget what a newborn is like? They sure don't forget how they think things are supposed to be!
So I have read these and have either thought: "Daaaaaang that's crazy!" or "That doesn't seem like such a huge deal..." Then I went home for the holidays. These little things drove me crazy.
From a mom of 3: "She's sleeping AGAIN?!" Yup...she's 10 weeks old. She sleeps. A lot.
When my typically chill baby made any unpleasant noise: "See?! She is a normal baby!" Repeatedly.
When my husband was trying to get her to finish a bottle since we have concerns about her weight gain: "Is mean Daddy trying to make you drink when you don't want to???"
Having said all that, it was a great visit and I just laugh those off.
@Lilwatz obviously people don't think about what they're saying....when our baby cried my dad's cousin kept saying "What horrible things did mommy do to you?"
Um, kept her alive with my boobs & stuff for the past 6 weeks I guess
How are you supposed to react/interact with that kind of comment? Smile and laugh?
If one more person asks me if he's sleeping through the night I'm going to flip out! Where are these magic babies who sleep through the night at nine weeks?!
If one more person asks me if he's sleeping through the night I'm going to flip out! Where are these magic babies who sleep through the night at nine weeks?!
Especially when followed by the recommendation to add cereal to a bottle. Apparently doctors are just fucking with us all and studies are fake! It's totally fine ...and it works! :-@
How about the older women who say, "I want to hear about the baby! Tell me, how much did he weigh?", then tell me how much they weighed at birth 80 yrs ago, or ask if he's saying any words yet, then tell me (for the millionth time) how their son said his first word at 4 months. *sigh*
Let me slowly pull out that old lady pass that you get, bite my tongue, and mumble "hmmmm, really, wow!", a-gain!!
When first meeting out LO, my neighbor(in his 60s) told DH that his son said his first word at 3 months. Yes? 3 months. What was the word you ask? ALLIGATOR. Yup.
Yesterday he sees us outside and yells across the street(he's one of those).. "So what was his first word?" --- insert crazy look here. DH says "we've got a ways to go till that." Neighbor asks how old LO is now so we tell him 8 weeks. He says, "oh two months... Let's cut him some slack.. Im sure he'll have his first word in the next month, & you'll have to let me know what it is!" Hmm ok buddy.
C makes these grunts and noises. It sometimes sounds like "uh-uh" (as in "no" uh-uh) next time tell him that was the first words hehehe
William has a sound he makes when he cries that I swear sounds like he's yelling "NEIN!" My baby's first word was No in German.
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If one more person asks me if he's sleeping through the night I'm going to flip out! Where are these magic babies who sleep through the night at nine weeks?!
There is another Mommy at my New Mommy group whose LO was born the same day as Will and swears her son sleeps through the night. She is also super skinny with huge boobs and claims to pump 8-12 oz a session. Her baby also has a full head of beautiful dark hair and my baby is bald and has cradle cap.
I told my brother about her over Christmas and he said "Well obviously her baby is an *sshole!" I love my brother.
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I have gotten that N looks like DH since she was born. Now Avery apparently looks like him too. It didn't yard to bother me but it does now. I grew and birthed two babies and neither look like me. Great.
I have gotten that N looks like DH since she was born. Now Avery apparently looks like him too. It didn't yard to bother me but it does now. I grew and birthed two babies and neither look like me. Great.
When DS was born he could have been DH's twin. It was pretty freaky to look at their 1 yr portraits and realize they were taken 25 years apart. Now that DS is older he definitely favors me more, so hopefully your side will come out with time.
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"Is he a good baby?" What does that even mean?????? What is a bad baby?
"Does he even have eyes?" um yup he's sleeping! from people who tend to stop by around dinner time (also nap time most nights).
People seriously do not think before they talk. They have comments that they think are silly and original, well we've heard them 300 times already, not so original and really annoying!
I've gotten the dumbest fucking questions about C's clubfeet. I can't even with the stupidity of some people. It bothers me most when I thoroughly explain her treatment plan and still get the dumb questions.
DH often goes to the gym in the mornings when he's not working. LO usually eats and then sleeps for 45 minutes and then wakes up again, so I use this time to run around, get showered and clean up a little. When DH gets home I'm usually back in my glider feeding or snuggling LO and he always asks "have you been there the whole time?". NO, can't you see I'm clean and dressed and have makeup on? It's like an effing miracle!
DH often goes to the gym in the mornings when he's not working. LO usually eats and then sleeps for 45 minutes and then wakes up again, so I use this time to run around, get showered and clean up a little. When DH gets home I'm usually back in my glider feeding or snuggling LO and he always asks "have you been there the whole time?". NO, can't you see I'm clean and dressed and have makeup on? It's like an effing miracle!
Yep. I feel like maybe we need to make a longer list on the rules of the house sign "if you break it, fix it; if you get it out, put it back" etc. that includes steps to each household chore: If there's a big fucking pile of laundry, by all means wash it. If it's wet, dry it. If it's dry, fold/hang it. If it's folded, put it away.
If there's shit on the floor, vacuum. If there's still shit on the floor, mop. (repeat for, well, you get it)
My husband has just stopped offering any help at all, and has never noticed enough to do anything on his own volition. It's like my clearance by my OB at my 6wk follow up was a light switch that she flipped to turn me back into a miracle working super woman! Did he really not learn anything that needs to be done around the house during those 6 weeks of my recovery??? It's been 11 weeks now, sure, but I still need help!!!
DH often goes to the gym in the mornings when he's not working. LO usually eats and then sleeps for 45 minutes and then wakes up again, so I use this time to run around, get showered and clean up a little. When DH gets home I'm usually back in my glider feeding or snuggling LO and he always asks "have you been there the whole time?". NO, can't you see I'm clean and dressed and have makeup on? It's like an effing miracle!
Yep. I feel like maybe we need to make a longer list on the rules of the house sign "if you break it, fix it; if you get it out, put it back" etc. that includes steps to each household chore:
If there's a big fucking pile of laundry, by all means wash it.
If it's wet, dry it.
If it's dry, fold/hang it.
If it's folded, put it away.
If there's shit on the floor, vacuum.
If there's still shit on the floor, mop.
(repeat for, well, you get it)
My husband has just stopped offering any help at all, and has never noticed enough to do anything on his own volition. It's like my clearance by my OB at my 6wk follow up was a light switch that she flipped to turn me back into a miracle working super woman!
Did he really not learn anything that needs to be done around the house during those 6 weeks of my recovery??? It's been 11 weeks now, sure, but I still need help!!!
Shew, sorry.
So.much.this. The past week or so, my husband has lost all ability to do anything around the house it seems. And he cannot multi-task for the life of him. Like when he's alone with the baby, he cannot do anything else. I asked him to do the dishes yesterday (While I was at a doctor's appointment - not like I was at the fucking spa) and I came home and he did everything but the lids to the bottles. When I asked him why he didn't do them he said that he was "dealing with the baby". Really?! Would've taken another 90 seconds to do them.
I am dreading going back to work. Our house is going to go to shit because there is no way I can do it all.
I got a good one last night. We went to an annual dinner with DH's extended family. When DH's aunt saw me she said "well you don't look so bad!". BIL heard and couldn't stop laughing. We couldn't decide whether she expected me to look worse or whether someone had told her I look bad and she thought I looked okay. I replied with "thanks?", which I thought was totally appropriate.
1. When people cut me off/walk into me because I'm short and my stroller is tiny and then look down at Eliana and coo at her or comment on how cute she is. Um, that doesn't excuse your rudeness. One guy shoved me out of his way and said "cute baby." Screw you, sir.
2. When people get too close to the stroller. I've had like 25 old ladies lean super close to her and coo. SHE HASN'T HAD HER SHOTS YET GTFO. I've taken to calling the sun shield a germ shield and lowering it whenever we go inside. I refuse to cover the carseat in the winter (I put her in a little suit with blankets instead) so she can have exposure to light and fresh air, but that doesn't mean I want people getting in her face. Ugh, so annoying.
3. When people assume she's a boy because she isn't in pink. -_- No comment there.
Re: Stupid Things People Say & Do to new moms and babies.
Yesterday he sees us outside and yells across the street(he's one of those).. "So what was his first word?" --- insert crazy look here. DH says "we've got a ways to go till that." Neighbor asks how old LO is now so we tell him 8 weeks. He says, "oh two months... Let's cut him some slack.. Im sure he'll have his first word in the next month, & you'll have to let me know what it is!" Hmm ok buddy.
I got the "you're so fussy; what is your mommy feeding you" from both MIL and my mom. I let it go, but I wanted to tell them that if they didn't like it, they could start lactating and give it a shot!
Before he was born, DH's grandma said if the baby wasn't born blonde she would know it wasn't DH's. Well of course LO was born with a full head of very dark hair. She hasn't said anything since he was born, but I know what she's thinking since both DH and I are fair. It doesn't matter that everyone in my family except me is dark haired and olive skinned and half of DH's family is the same. Because you know two fair people= fair baby.
I was questioned again (by someone else this time) if the doctor seemed concerned that she was eating so often/ if her stomach has grown at all. You know, since it's so abnormal for an EBF infant to eat every 2 hours during the day...
Do people really forget what a newborn is like? They sure don't forget how they think things are supposed to be!
Um, kept her alive with my boobs & stuff for the past 6 weeks I guess
How are you supposed to react/interact with that kind of comment? Smile and laugh?
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Wait, What?!? - EDD 11/1/19
If there's a big fucking pile of laundry, by all means wash it.
If it's wet, dry it.
If it's dry, fold/hang it.
If it's folded, put it away.
If there's shit on the floor, vacuum.
If there's still shit on the floor, mop.
(repeat for, well, you get it)
My husband has just stopped offering any help at all, and has never noticed enough to do anything on his own volition. It's like my clearance by my OB at my 6wk follow up was a light switch that she flipped to turn me back into a miracle working super woman!
Did he really not learn anything that needs to be done around the house during those 6 weeks of my recovery??? It's been 11 weeks now, sure, but I still need help!!!
Shew, sorry.
I am dreading going back to work. Our house is going to go to shit because there is no way I can do it all.