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August 2015 Moms
newdisneymom
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Baby's father isn't around
newdisneymom
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So my ex and I were together 2 years. He cheated on me and started dating someone else(not who he cheated on me with) a week after we broke up. When I told him he said "can't you just get rid of it?" So now I'm alone and this is my first child, I'm 20. Anyone have any advice?
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Re: Baby's father isn't around
Naming the Father: How to Establish Paternity
The best way to establish the father’s paternity is by naming him on the baby’s birth certificate. Under U.S. Department of Health and Human Services regulations, all states must offer unwed parents an opportunity to establish paternity by voluntarily signing an acknowledgment of paternity, either at the hospital or at a later time. In many states, as a result of political pressure to reduce the number of mothers on welfare by ensuring that there is someone else with an obligation to support the child, hospital personnel will make every effort to get the father to sign the acknowledgment.
In some states, including California, the only way that an unmarried father’s name can be placed on a child’s birth certificate is if the father signs a voluntary declaration of paternity. If the father is not present at the hospital following the birth, the mother will not be able to list him as the father on the birth certificate in his absence—the father and mother will instead have to sign the voluntary declaration of paternity at a later time, and have the father’s name added to the birth certificate later. A voluntary declaration of paternity signed by both parents has the same legal effect as a court order, so once it is signed and submitted to the appropriate agency, the father’s paternal rights are firmly established. If you live in a state that requires a voluntary declaration of paternity before placing an unmarried father’s name on a birth certificate, and you and your partner split up before the baby is born, you may have to bring a legal action to establish paternity if your ex-partner won’t sign the voluntary declaration.
Me-31, H-27
**Loss 1-Cycle 7(June 2013) at 5w6d-CP**Loss 2-Cycle 11(October 2013) at 5w4d-CP**
**Loss 3-Cycle 14 (January-February 2014)-M/C dx 2/10, EP dx 2/24, MTX 2/25**
Beta Hell--hCG finally down to 0 - 6/20/14
SA normal. Genetic testing normal. Hormonal testing normal.
HSG 6/30/14 - found blocked left tube and 2 'bubbles' on uterine wall.
Hysteroscopy/Lap--8/4/14 - Tubes unblocked. Polyps removed from uterine wall. Septum removed.
9/30/14--Off the bench! Unmedicated TI through December 2014
BFP 12/14/14!!! Beta #1, 12/16: 990 Beta #2, 12/18: Over 2000! Beta #3, 12/22: over 8000!
U/S #1, 12/23: gestational sac, possible heartbeat
U/S #2, 12/30: HEARTBEAT! 128bpm, measuring right on at 7w EDD: 8/19/2015
U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
If you're all working together is there any way you can find a new job or work for another department? Or have your shifts switched? I know that it's not fair for you to be the one to do that but this time is stressful enough without having to deal with this at work. You shouldn't try to talk to him about this at work and if they're in any way harassing you, keep a journal of the events days and any witnesses. You definitely can't afford to have this impact your work.