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When to ask God parents of baby...?

awheeler4311awheeler4311 member
edited January 2015 in June 2015 Moms
Wondering when is the norm on asking people to be God parents to the LO? Before baby is born, after baby is born? Does it matter at all? Did anyone do anything special to ask?

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  • klkonwiklkonwi member
    This is such a hard decision! My own godmother wasn't a very good one and I want whoever I choose to be great! Ahhhh!
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  • ksimo6ksimo6 member
    We already already asked my brother. We have not decided on a godmother yet. With DD, we waited until after she was born. I think it's fine to ask whenever you are comfortable.
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  • effthisnoiseeffthisnoise member
    I guess it depends on when you want to hold the baptism/christening. At my Catholic parish, the priests are pretty adamant that parents should schedule the baptism during the third trimester for about a month after the birth. Their concern, I guess, is that parents put it off and then might forget about it completely--I don't know. In any case, talk to your clergy person about the best time to schedule the ceremony (how long after birth) and when you have a general idea of when you can hold it, ask the godparents. Then you can coordinate schedules to make sure everyone can make it, especially since summer will be full of people taking vacations.

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  • mamayo26mamayo26 member

    With DS1, we asked before he was born, but closer to the actual due date. it varies depending on when/if you are having a ceremony and how well you know the person.

    We are going with different god-parents for this LO and DH wants his sister to be teh godmother, so now we have to figure out the godfather.

    I don't even know who my godparents are so I feel the same way about picking good ones who will be in our sons' lives for a long time. (I guess it is easier when you pick family, but DS1's godmother is my BFF).

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  • gabriellamason93gabriellamason93 member
    I've already suggested to my choices that I may wish for them to be my child's godparents because I was lead to believe that to be a godparent you have to be christened yourself? And I'm not 100% sure they are as it's not always the norm in my area
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  • MrsCaliRNMrsCaliRN member
    My goddaughter's parents asked us at the end of her baby shower. It was a really warm and touching moment (I cried!) DH and I are having a hard time narrowing it down to two people and feel like there may be some hurt feelings in the process, especially pertaining to a pal I've had since college who responded to my announcement text with, "I'm going to be the godmother, right?" I think I want to ask the prospectives at the baby shower to make it extra sweet, but the fear of hurting feelings is making me think twice.

    I'd go with my gut, though, and try to make it special because godparents are special people with a really special role in your LO's life!

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  • awheeler4311awheeler4311 member
    Well we know who, it's his best man and my matron of honor at our wedding. No doubt they are the best people for the job. Just didn't know if there was certain etiquette behind it. I think we will wait until we move home in March/April to ask in person. Leaning towards asking before the baby comes. Thanks for the input everyone!!
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  • awheeler4311awheeler4311 member
    Well both of us are catholic and both of our appointed God parents are catholic, but none of us are really in the Catholic Church anymore. The god mother is very involved in a non denominational church now and still religious but the godfather is not as much. We really would be having them me a mentor in life and guiding our child. Also acting as a legal guardian if something happens to us. My godfather passed away when I was little and my godmother I haven't seen since. I really want them to be involved with our child's life.

    As a side note, I have an older brother that I would love to have be the godfather but he's a real asshole and I wouldn't want him guiding my child or taking care of them. Otherwise, he would have been my absolute first choice bc I do love him to death, just not as a father figure.
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