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Can we talk about Bed Sharing? Sorry for bringing up sleep again.

kaitm22kaitm22 member
in August 2014 Moms

I did a search and wasn't liking what I was getting so I thought I would start a thread.

We bed-share and I don't hate it, but I obviously don't get the best sleep that way, although I do love the snuggles with LO. I would love to hear stories from STMs about how bed-sharing went for them, how transitioning to the child's own bed went, etc. Are you glad you bed-shared? Would you do anything differently?

Right now, I start with LO in the RNP, but he is getting to big for it, and we just started to transition to sleeping in the PNP and it is not going well. He will come into bed with me when he wakes up to eat, which is anywhere between 3:00 and 6:00 lately. We do go to bed late, he usually is asleep between 11:00 and 11:30. I have tried to change that too, but he has been a night owl from day one. LO loves to be touching me  CONSTANTLY. He rarely naps on his own, an if he does, it is in the swing. When he is in bed with me, he fusses unless my arm is laying across him, his side is up against me, or I am holding his hand. He also wants to be held for all his naps. I wouldn't mind if I could stay home with him all the time, but on the one or two days a week that I am away from him for 4-7 hours he is not a good baby for DH or my mom. Like, will fight a nap for an hour.

I guess my big question is, will he some day sleep more independently? Some days we barely get off the couch. I love the snuggles, but some days I have to get work done! I would love to hear your stories.

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Re: Can we talk about Bed Sharing? Sorry for bringing up sleep again.

  • cdsenocdseno member
    With DS1 we ended up bed sharing as a way for me to get more sleep. At 9 months I was scolded by the pedi for not allowing H and I to have alone time and she told me he had to CIO. It was awful for two nights then he started sleeping better in his own bed. He would still end up in our bed some nights, but putting him down in his own bed was easier than it had been. He is almost 3 now and there are still nights he wants to sleep with us, but for the most part he has been in his own bed since 9 months. Unfortunately he never learned to nap on his own, but he did outgrow needing me to stay with him the whole time. He would fall asleep on the couch or in our bed and then I could leave and he was fine. He never napped in his own bed though, for some reason I just couldn't get him to sleep in there. We got lucky that LO doesn't like to be snuggled for naps so I can put him down and he will fuss until he falls asleep. But at night he is in our bed most of the night. After his first wake up I just leave him with me. I know in a few months I will probably have to do CIO with him, but I know he won't be in my bed forever. For right now I do it just to get a couple hours of sleep.
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  • kaitm22kaitm22 member

    thanks @weeklyplanner! this baby has made me a much more patient person, as far as baby things go anyway (I can't say the same for my road rage and impatience in long lines).

    If only he didn't scream like a banshee when I try to put him back in his own bed after he eats. This little boy loves the snuggles.

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  • arcarpe2arcarpe2 member
    I swear I could of written this post exactly! Following because I would like to know there is hope for reclaiming our bed. I just don't understand why he needs contact 24/7???
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  • mmsweeney1mmsweeney1 member
    I also had DD in bed with me for a good portion of every night. I would start her in RnP next to me then bring her in bed to nurse. I would usually drift off to sleep and when I tried to put her back she would wake up. I didn't sleep well but at least I didn't have to get up. I liked sleeping with her and it felt really natural, but eventually my body felt all kinked from curling up around her, and I just wanted to stretch out in my own bed.

    A couple weeks before Christmas we went on vacation and it kind of helped us transition. I think she forgot about the RnP while we were there because she used to never sleep flat unless it was with me. I set her up in a portion of our bed that was just for her so she got used to sleeping flat but near me still. (I didn't hold her anymore.)

    She loved being held tightly and kind of squished while she slept. Not safe, I know, but if she was napping in my arms she would burrow her face down into me. I think that's why she liked the RnP since it kind of cuddles her.

    To transition her into her crib, I put two pillows under the sheet. She sleeps between them, and they kind of act like the sides of the RnP. We had to take away the swaddle and I couldn't keep her from startling and waking up when I nursed her to sleep and tried to put her in the crib. I had to do short sessions of CIO (checking on her every few min) to get her to fall asleep in there. It has worked so much better than I ever expected and now she's in her crib in her room all night.

    Sorry this got so long, apparently I have a lot of advice!

    first son stillborn 7/20/13 at 39 weeks due to Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy
    It's a girl! Baby Anna was born August 3, 2014!

     
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