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My husband is kissing me too much!!!!

TierraJATierraJA member
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Every woman loves her man's affection and attention. I love it and truly appreciate my husband.... BUT

Since I have been pregnant (7 weeks) my sexual desire is like GONE. I get irritated with too many kisses, I don't have the desire for intimacy and sex, sometimes I can make myself get in the mood but it just doesn't feel the same as being genuinely turned on. I know my husband is a man and he has needs, so I feel bad when I don't want to. Even when I try to explain, I don't think he fully gets it!!

Anyone else experiencing burnt out sexual desire? Is it normal during pregnancy? If so, why? Help! :(

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  • redandblack14redandblack14 member
    Some people experience a decreased sex drive during pregnancy. 

    Me on the other hand.... Sex has never felt so good. DH & I are loving it! 
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  • JubilantSquirrelJubilantSquirrel member
    I lost any desire for sex around 7 weeks and it didn't come back until about 3 months PP. Everyone is different though. For some people the desire comes roaring back in 2nd tri, some never lose their drive in the first place and others and others feel a more intense drive than pre pregnancy.

    Hopefully you can find a balance that makes you both happy but remember it's only temporary.

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  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
    My H is a pretty physical guy anyway, but right now I have no desire for sex. Or kisses. Or cuddles. And I have super smell so I can smell absolutely anything he eats on his breath. Ugh. I do try to be as physically affectionate as I can, and I'm constantly verbally affectionate with him even if I can't stand to be touched.



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  • DucktapetherapyDucktapetherapy member

    This is a difficult transitional time. Try to be patient, and know that it changes. Try to maintain open communication with your DH and keep cuddling! HUGS!

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  • Mills0401Mills0401 member
    I'm sorry and I know how you feel! Maybe you will get lucky and he will come down with a cold and avoid you.  J/K (not really) Maybe you should just talk to him.  Blame it on the hormones and tiredness.
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  • redandblack14redandblack14 member
    sister13 said:


    redandblack14 said:

    Some people experience a decreased sex drive during pregnancy. 

    Me on the other hand.... Sex has never felt so good. DH & I are loving it! 

    I don't even go here, but your response is not helpful and kind of shitty to the OP.  

    "Hey, you're having a problem? Well, I'm not - WOO HOO!!!"



    I realize it could have came off the wrong way, but it wasn't meant to harm. I said sometimes sex drives decrease; however, mine increased. I'm not sure how that's harmful.
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  • BeachBum678BeachBum678 member
    redandblack14 said:

    sister13 said:


    redandblack14 said:

    Some people experience a decreased sex drive during pregnancy. 

    Me on the other hand.... Sex has never felt so good. DH & I are loving it! 

    I don't even go here, but your response is not helpful and kind of shitty to the OP.  

    "Hey, you're having a problem? Well, I'm not - WOO HOO!!!"

    I realize it could have came off the wrong way, but it wasn't meant to harm. I said sometimes sex drives decrease; however, mine increased. I'm not sure how that's harmful.

    Honestly, you didn't need to mention your situation at all. OP wasn't really asking for it, it wasn't particularly helpful, and to me it came off as humble-bragging (helpful-bragging?) I'm sure you meant well but you could have worded it a lot better.

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  • sister13sister13 member
    redandblack14 said:
    redandblack14 said:
    Some people experience a decreased sex drive during pregnancy. 

    Me on the other hand.... Sex has never felt so good. DH & I are loving it! 
    I don't even go here, but your response is not helpful and kind of shitty to the OP.  

    "Hey, you're having a problem? Well, I'm not - WOO HOO!!!"

    I realize it could have came off the wrong way, but it wasn't meant to harm. I said sometimes sex drives decrease; however, mine increased. I'm not sure how that's harmful.
    I didn't say harmful, I said shitty. 

    How would you respond to a post where someone has lost their job and struggling to make ends meet?  "Well, sometimes people do lose their jobs, but I just got a raise and a promotion, I have never had so much money and I am loving it!"  This is not different, just think about it before you respond. 

    I don't have any personal advice to offer OP, but it sounds like the other ladies have had some good suggestions.






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  • redandblack14redandblack14 member
    sister13 said:


    redandblack14 said:

    sister13 said:


    redandblack14 said:

    Some people experience a decreased sex drive during pregnancy. 

    Me on the other hand.... Sex has never felt so good. DH & I are loving it! 

    I don't even go here, but your response is not helpful and kind of shitty to the OP.  

    "Hey, you're having a problem? Well, I'm not - WOO HOO!!!"

    I realize it could have came off the wrong way, but it wasn't meant to harm. I said sometimes sex drives decrease; however, mine increased. I'm not sure how that's harmful.

    I didn't say harmful, I said shitty. 

    How would you respond to a post where someone has lost their job and struggling to make ends meet?  "Well, sometimes people do lose their jobs, but I just got a raise and a promotion, I have never had so much money and I am loving it!"  This is not different, just think about it before you respond. 

    I don't have any personal advice to offer OP, but it sounds like the other ladies have had some good suggestions.








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  • thelittlestbeethelittlestbee member
    I don't go here either but.... I went through the SAME thing during during my first trimester. I never wanted to have sex, most of the time I just wanted to punch my DH in the face (you know, hormones). 

    Anyways, once I stopped feeling shitty all the time and contemplating leaving my DH for stupid reasons... things started to change. I'm half way through the second trimester and I can't get enough of him. I don't know why it happens, but I do think it's completely normal. Growing a human is really hard work and your mind and body are going through so many changes. 

    Try not to worry about it too much, you'll be feeling like your old self in no time. 
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  • jessandandy09jessandandy09 member
    No Desire for sexy-time what so ever right now~ just keep being honest and open with your husband.  It can be perfectly normal for some.  It's really unusual for me, the past 3 pregnancies super charged my sex drive, so I am a little more than disappointed this time.  Hopefully it will pass ;-)
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  • jessandandy09jessandandy09 member
    edited January 2015
    sister13 said:
    redandblack14 said:
    Some people experience a decreased sex drive during pregnancy. 

    Me on the other hand.... Sex has never felt so good. DH & I are loving it! 
    I don't even go here, but your response is not helpful and kind of shitty to the OP.  

    "Hey, you're having a problem? Well, I'm not - WOO HOO!!!"

    Calm your tits pal.  Just because this person is having a different experience than the OP, it doesn't make her comment shitty.  I read it as she was offering the other end of the spectrum.  
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  • koyangi87koyangi87 member
    My thing is that DH kisses my cheeks nonstop and my skin is super sensitive so each kiss grates on my nerves :( I've kinda told him this, since I don't want to hurt his feelings, but yeah. Sex drive is negative right now. Hope we all get it back soon!
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