Can I vent/AW?

jamjoyful · January 2015

So, I'm pretty particular about that is posted about my children on the Internet. I don't post any pictures where they are not fully-clothed. I have shared pictures with family members of them in the bath or something but never with anything showing. I share them with the understanding that they are private and not to be displayed to others.

Until today.

I texted a picture to my mom of DD1 doing "yoga" with her Barbie dolls. She was still in the process of getting dressed so she had on a tunic top and undies. I snapped a picture of her lined up with all the barbies. I get a text hours later that my mom has shared the picture with her Facebook fitness group.

I am completely outraged. There is nothing completely visible but you can still see her underwear. I explained this to my mom and she is no longer responding to my texts. I don't think this was done maliciously but my H and I are still completely offended. Never would we want our 3.5 year old exposed this way.

Tl;dr my mom posted a picture of DD1 in a shirt and undies on the Internet.

jamjoyful · January 2015

Not yet.

lookame3639 · January 2015

Not cool! She is still exposed and what if someone in her group decided to share the picture on their page? I'd ask her to remove the pic...immediatly!

jamjoyful · January 2015

Her reason for not taking it down right away was that she didn't think anyone would pay attention to that. It still bugs me.

We fought it out and she has now taken the picture down. My stomach feels sick.

dogperson11 · January 2015

I understand you're being upset and feel you are totally justified, but I doubt she realized it would bother you so much. A tshirt and undies cover more then most bathing suits, so she probably didn't think anything of it. I would explain why it upset you, reiterate your feelings about sharing pictures, and move on.

jamjoyful · January 2015

I know she did it pretty innocently. I may not have even addressed it if it wasn't in a group of people she doesn't know personally. I guess that is where I was completely shocked.

I definitely won't hold a grudge over it.

jamjoyful · January 2015

Ugh. I feel like an asshole.

Elaina22 · January 2015

I wouldn't feel like an asshole. You're a mom and it's natural to protect your babies. If you feel like you need to, aplogize for upsetting your mom, while explaining why you don't want pictures shared not by just her, but by anyone. Then move on. My mom was all bent out of shape when we had a similar discussion a while back, but she got over it and totally goes with the flow now.

jamjoyful · January 2015

I tried to be polite in my response to her. We are very close and she has always known my views on sharing. It was just scary to have it out there on a very public group.

tamarar5 · January 2015

My mom posted pics of my then 5 year old dd1 without a shirt on while dying Easter eggs. Nothing was showing, it was just shoulders up, but I was still uncomfortable. I told mom to take it down.

Your mother needs to respect not only you, but your child! Call her and tell her to take it down. Then post your outraged comment that she could possibly think it was okay to pay pictures of your child without your approval. I'd continue to stalk her fb until she takes it down. Not only do you tell your mother how upset you ate, but it let's anyone else looking at it know that you did NOT APPROVE.

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