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May 2014 Moms
Helmink0804
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New Year's Eve dinner turned bad... LONG
Helmink0804
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Nothing like being ganged up on by extended family while out to dinner...
Here's a little history- my mom has a 3 sibs: two brothers and a sister. The one one brother- we'll call him Uncle F doesn't get along with Aunt B and Uncle G- since they don't get along Uncle F's family distanced themselves from everyone else and doesn't do family functions anymore. I don't agree with it- it kills my 93 year old grandmother that her kids aren't getting a long.
Last year we went out to dinner for my grandmas bday and my Uncle F's family didn't go- my Aunt D took a picture of my grandma with her grandkids and posted it on Facebook- the picture kind of caused issues with how she worded it and that my Uncle F's family wasn't includes so my cousin from that family wasn't included. It was embarrassing to have it out there on Facebook with family drama- posted by an adult.
We went to dinner this year and bc of last years picture- I told my mom a week or more ago that I refuse to be any grandkids picture- they post it for the wrong reason. Well sure enough they wanted to take pictures at dinner and I kept my word and refused to be in the picture and boy did my one cousin and two aunts not like that.
My cousin was yelling at me and my Aunt B started to chime in and my Aunt D wasn't happy and had some more mellow words for me while all out in public!! Adults yelling and ganging up on me bc I didn't want to be a part of their Facebook drama!! My cousin when I was defending my reasons kept telling me to shut up and stop talking- I told her to shut up and drink another one- she's the family drunk.
I was so embaraased and felt so ganged up on that I started crying! My husband asked for the check and we left as soon as possible- only saying goodbye to those that left it alone!
All my aunts and cousin had to do was just say ok don't be in it and acted as adults! It's my choice and it wasn't hurting anyone! I told my aunt it would be different if the picture was to be used to be put in a frame rather than a Facebook picture game!
Now tomorrow- or today since it's after midnight- we have to go to my Aunt B's house- if we don't go my mom and grandma can't go bc we have to drive them since my mom can't due to knee surgery! How awkward is this going to be?! I called my mom and told her she better check and see if I'm still welcome over there!
I feel so hurt by my family ganging up on me over just refusing to be apart of a picture. Like I said I don't agree with my Uncle F and his family not being there- they should bea my grandma just turned 93- we're lucky she's going this strong.
Sorry so long- I couldn't sleep as I lay here in bed my mind just keep reeling.
Here's a little history- my mom has a 3 sibs: two brothers and a sister. The one one brother- we'll call him Uncle F doesn't get along with Aunt B and Uncle G- since they don't get along Uncle F's family distanced themselves from everyone else and doesn't do family functions anymore. I don't agree with it- it kills my 93 year old grandmother that her kids aren't getting a long.
Last year we went out to dinner for my grandmas bday and my Uncle F's family didn't go- my Aunt D took a picture of my grandma with her grandkids and posted it on Facebook- the picture kind of caused issues with how she worded it and that my Uncle F's family wasn't includes so my cousin from that family wasn't included. It was embarrassing to have it out there on Facebook with family drama- posted by an adult.
We went to dinner this year and bc of last years picture- I told my mom a week or more ago that I refuse to be any grandkids picture- they post it for the wrong reason. Well sure enough they wanted to take pictures at dinner and I kept my word and refused to be in the picture and boy did my one cousin and two aunts not like that.
My cousin was yelling at me and my Aunt B started to chime in and my Aunt D wasn't happy and had some more mellow words for me while all out in public!! Adults yelling and ganging up on me bc I didn't want to be a part of their Facebook drama!! My cousin when I was defending my reasons kept telling me to shut up and stop talking- I told her to shut up and drink another one- she's the family drunk.
I was so embaraased and felt so ganged up on that I started crying! My husband asked for the check and we left as soon as possible- only saying goodbye to those that left it alone!
All my aunts and cousin had to do was just say ok don't be in it and acted as adults! It's my choice and it wasn't hurting anyone! I told my aunt it would be different if the picture was to be used to be put in a frame rather than a Facebook picture game!
Now tomorrow- or today since it's after midnight- we have to go to my Aunt B's house- if we don't go my mom and grandma can't go bc we have to drive them since my mom can't due to knee surgery! How awkward is this going to be?! I called my mom and told her she better check and see if I'm still welcome over there!
I feel so hurt by my family ganging up on me over just refusing to be apart of a picture. Like I said I don't agree with my Uncle F and his family not being there- they should bea my grandma just turned 93- we're lucky she's going this strong.
Sorry so long- I couldn't sleep as I lay here in bed my mind just keep reeling.
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Re: New Year's Eve dinner turned bad... LONG
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BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
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Meant yikes and hope today goes better and that you get an apology.
T 2.12 | W 5.14
We had a very nice day with them and dinner. No one brought up last night.
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FWIW, I was moved by your story. I'm not really religious but it's so hard when family doesn't respect or support your choices.
Thanks! It's hard when you're the odd man out in a situation and have a group of people at you for something you believe. I pointed out to them that I would and have never done that to them and it has made a difference. Not as many comments for sure!