**Would you rather**

Re: **Would you rather**

• Into+the+Kitty member

  January 2015

  At this point in my life I'd work a job I hated. It's more important to me that my kids know security. Before kids and when they're out of my house, I'd rather work a fulfilling job that I loved.

  
  
  Suddenly my life doesn't seem such a waste,
  It all revolves around you.
  

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• km_md member

  January 2015

  I have no idea what my dream job would be and I've never had a job that I loved. So I would have to say go for the money. I worked in a factory (until it closed) and the job itself was so boring but I made great money and had some pretty awesome coworkers so in the end it was the best job I've had so far.

  
  

  
  

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• CLLDLL member

  January 2015

  As long as it was a job I could leave behind at the end of the day, I pick the hated job with money.
  
  I've had a job that I loved that required a lot of overtime/being on call. It got to be a drain on all my relationships after a while.

  
  
  
  
   
  
  
   
  

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• Nvywife member

  January 2015

  A job I hated. I like to give my kid the extras I didn't have.

  

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  January 2015

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• CLLDLL member

  January 2015

  I would like to add, my mom was a SAHM and my dad made very little money when I was young. They raised four happy kids who are realatively well adjusted adults. Three of us have at least a college degree ans my bro is two semesters away from getting his.
  
  We ate a lot of co-op food and wore Goodwill/hand-me-downs. But we were barely aware of us being poor. I didn't even realize it until I was in high school. My parents went to our conferences and sporting events and helped us study. I pretty much loved my childhood and I'll tell you what I grew up knowing how to budget and how to appreciate what I had. I'm scared my kids won't have that because we can afford to give them so much more.
  
  **steps off soapbox***

  
  
  
  
   
  
  
   
  

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• Into+the+Kitty member

  January 2015

  CLLDLL said:

  I would like to add, my mom was a SAHM and my dad made very little money when I was young. They raised four happy kids who are realatively well adjusted adults. Three of us have at least a college degree ans my bro is two semesters away from getting his. We ate a lot of co-op food and wore Goodwill/hand-me-downs. But we were barely aware of us being poor. I didn't even realize it until I was in high school. My parents went to our conferences and sporting events and helped us study. I pretty much loved my childhood and I'll tell you what I grew up knowing how to budget and how to appreciate what I had. I'm scared my kids won't have that because we can afford to give them so much more. **steps off soapbox***

  
  I love this. By my WYR I was hoping to imply that the difficulties were regardless of your other money saving choices. Like, you would buy from Goodwill or clip coupons but it would still be a struggle making ends meet.

  
  
  Suddenly my life doesn't seem such a waste,
  It all revolves around you.
  

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• stoneycakes member

  January 2015

  When I was young and single, I would have answered fulfilling job and struggle to pay the bills.  Which is what I chose to do.  Now that I have a family, I'll work a job I hate that brings security.  The stress of not knowing where our next meal is coming from and knowing I won't be the only one who goes hungry is much worse than the stress of a job I hate.

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• violajack member

  January 2015

  I "followed my passions." It sucks. Not only does not making much money suck, but relying on your passion to pay the bills quickly saps all the joy out of the thing you used to love. 

  
  

  I'd clock in, make a crap ton of money, and clock out again. 

  
  

  I have had this same discussion with other fellow music majors a decade out of conservatory, and both the ones who gave up and got a real job and those who are still scraping by as musicians agree that it wasn't worth it. It's a nice thing for me to do on the side while I raise two kids and my husband with a real job pays the bills, but it sucked to be single in a high cost of living area teaching more kids than I could handle, barely performing, with no energy to practice or audition to try to rebalance things. And I was doing way better than colleagues who did more performing and less teaching. 

  
  

  My kids will all play instruments. They will have no illusions of making a living doing it. 

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• unaveragejane member

  January 2015

  I cannot handle hypothetical questions. I need too many details, and I get too worked up thinking it out. Ack!

               

  
  

  

    

      
  

   
  

  
  

   
  

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• Kelly11235 member

  January 2015

  How much do I hate the job?

  My last job made me suicidal....I'd rather be struggling than have a job like that again.

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• sasq09 member

  January 2015

  I'd rather have the time and energy to enjoy my family... Whichever job provided that I'd take. Like, if the job I hated kept me long hours and I never got to spend time with my family, then I think I would choose the job I loved, so long as it allowed me time with my loved ones. It is tough though. we are sort of dealing with this question with my dh's job right now. Its so darn complicated and I hate risk taking...

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