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Post adoption support

MagickalNarwhalMagickalNarwhal member
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I'm livid. We picked our agency based partially on post adoption support for birth parents, which was communicated to us as "lifetime counseling" - that was incredibly important to us. I just talked to our son's birth dad and he told us his "ran out". I asked our clinician about it and it sounds like it's at the birth parents' social workers discretion? This is complete and utter BULLSHIT. He has been dragged through the ringer with this process and he is really struggling. We decided to pay for a few sessions with his counselor who he loves and who knows the back story but I just can't believe it. 

What kind of post adoption support is typical for birth parents? Am I crazy?
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Re: Post adoption support

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I don't know if there is a typical. I know our SW mentioned going to early coffee with a birthmom who was struggling. At the very least they should be pointing him to resources he can use. Hugs to you and him
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  • CarolinaGirl2014CarolinaGirl2014 member
    I agree that it's BS. This is my largest qualm with agencies. Mine advertised the same and the counseling consists of being able to call the director (who is great but NOT a counselor and not warm and fuzzy) when needed. They didn't even point me in a direction. I could maybe connect him with A's birthdad if you think it would help to have someone to talk to who gets it. I have a few resources I've found for counseling as well through my journey. Pm me if you're interested in either!
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  • maryoosamaryoosa member
    Wow. That's a crock of shit. I'm so sorry. A few things to consider: 1. Was he not working on what the social worker thought he needed to be working on? I've been dropped by therapists when not *doing* the work that *I* needed to be doing.
    2. If #1 is not the case, I'd call the director of the agency, remind them of exactly how much money you paid them for their services  (And remind them if you've made any referrals to other adoptive families about them) and demand that he be transferred to a new social worker who will work with him the way he needs.


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  • Rachel7181981Rachel7181981 member
    Exactly what @maryoosa said! Not threatening them with a smear campaign but you can tell them you are very active on adoption forums and IRL would never recommend anyone if they don't rectify this situation.  I will be asking my agency about this, I would have thought lifetime counseling would mean counseling. So many counselors work on sliding scale so although its not your "job" maybe you could do some footwork for him. 
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