Intro..stillborn at 40 weeks 5 years ago..

fuss444 · January 2015

Newbie here! Not sure that I really belong on this board, but looking for some Insight. My daughter was stillborn 5 years ago.. 2 days before she was due...heartbeat could not be detected so they did an ultrasound and I was told there was hardly any amniotic fluid left and I must have been leaking over time. They of course immediately induced me, and my daughter was born with an extra long umbilical cord wrapped around her neck. What actually went wrong, I still don't know. I still feel very in the dark about the whole thing-probably because I was young and in shock at the time and just didn't probe my dr for answers. Now, I'm 12 weeks pregnant again..using the same OB. However, I just requested an OB transfer because I feel like she isn't really on top of things. I guess I'm really not sure if I even have a question or a point ...wondering your thoughts on this. Freak accident? Or I may be high risk this time around? I know you all are not docs by any means and can't tell me one way or another..and speaking with new dr soon. Thanks for reading my ramble...and best of wishes to everyone.

Crossposted..not sure where I belong.

kate6214 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy! If you are uncomfortable with your doctor then look into changing. I don't have knowledge about late losses, but you should be comfortable with your doctor no matter what.

smcniff · January 2015

Hello. You belong where ever it is you feel comfortable. We are happy to have you here.

I don't have any good advice for you other than that you should have a doctor that you feel comfortable with. If you need to be monitored a bit more closely in order to stay sane, then find a doctor who is willing to do that for you.

Congrats on this pregnancy!

fuss444 · January 2015

Thank you guys !

MrsSnyder124 · January 2015

Congratulations and welcome . So very sorry for your previous loss .

heathersf11 · January 2015

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your little girl. I'm sure you would feel much better being closely monitored this time around, especially toward the end. I hope you can find a doctor who will do that for you. You are definitely welcome on this board. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

mrsjg2013 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. Congratulations on this little one and best wishes for a happy, healthy 9 months!

CheesyPeas · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think this is a great place for you but also recommend that you take a look at the loss board. It's a board for late loss moms and there is a weekly check in for those that are pregnant to talk about their pregnancies.

You absolutely need to feel comfortable with your doctor and the amount of monitoring you're reciving. I'm going to receive a lot of extra monitoring with this pregnancy, largely for peace of mind. My doctor plans some extra monitoring around my loss milestone and then will have me in twice weekly for NSTs starting around 30 weeks and possibly an early induction. Your doctor should be accommodating to the level of monitoring you feel you need at ye very least

mingaling2 · January 2015

Congratulations and welcome!

I am sorry you did not find the answers you were hoping for with the loss of your daughter. Our daughter's stillbirth was somewhat similar - heart just stopped beating. No explanation or any test results showing anything. The hardest thing I had to come to terms with was that almost half of stillbirths show no underlying cause.

You will most likely be considered high risk just because of your loss. Hopefully your new OB will be more reassuring and allow for more frequent monitoring.

fuss444 · January 2015

Thank yall for the quick input! Hoping my new dr will take this a little more seriously. And I am also very sorry for all of your losses as well...there's so many of us out there.

dawnstar898 · January 2015

Welcome and congratulations!

shandorfml2 · January 2015

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I lost my daughter in 2013 at almost 37 weeks, they never found a cause for her death either. This time around I am considered high risk (though my pregnancy with my daughter was perfect until her heart stopped). I will be getting increased monitoring towards the end of my pregnancy, and I also recommend having a doctor you are comfortable with. I will also be having this baby a tad earlier, somewhere between 37-38 weeks. Good luck! I also reccomend the loss board in addition to this board.

sandj918 · January 2015

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm so sorry for your loss, that would be devastating. Welcome to the board.

Mel&John2013 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss, but am sending congratulations on your new pregnancy!

I agree with PP that your comfort level with your OB will be a big player. I'm technically not high risk but my new OB has made sure to see me more often and do extra ultrasounds just to make sure I'm feeling ok and staying calm. It's helped a ton.
Best of luck with this pregnancy, I hope it's uneventful and boring!

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