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daycare practice

jenpechinjenpechin member
in October 2014 Moms
So today we had a daycare practice for a couple hours as she starts on Monday. It was horrible and I came home in tears. First, when i gave DS to the caregiver, DS started crying. This is when I expect the caregiver (with over 17yrs experience) so soothe DS. I told her what DS likes and I step out the door and waited for DS to quite. She did not. I go back in 15 min later and ahow her how to soothe DS again. I leave with DS playing happily. I am gone for 1.5 hours to return to DS crying again. When I walked in the caregiver starts apologizing. I asked if she cried the whole time and she said know. that DS played a biy the slept for 40min. She started crying when caregiver tried to give her bottle even though tge bottle was in the fridge. DS does not like taking a bottle and I was hoping this experienced caregiver could help. She seemed lost. I took DS and her eyes were red like she'd been crying awhile not a few minutes.

I was hoping to get a warm fuzzy today about daycare but now I'm more freaked out!!!

Am I overreacting?
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  • lrobi13lrobi13 member

    That sounds really trying.  Maybe baby like a warm bottle.  Can the caregiver try heating bottle in bottle warmer?

    Also, it sometime take a bit for everyone to adjust.  Go with you gut but you might want to give it a few more days just to see if today was a fluke.

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  • jenpechinjenpechin member
    Sorry NOT sure why I typed DS. Tired! She's a she!
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  • starybstaryb member
    We left DD without either of us for the first time on NYE with DH's family. We were only gone 2 hours but she was crying when we left and she was crying when we got back. MIL sent us pictures of her not crying (even smiling) while we were out so I know she wasn't fussing the whole time. Maybe your caregiver is telling the truth about how long she had been crying. You seem like you have high expectations for your caregiver's abilities but little faith in them at the same time. What did you mean when you said you told them what your LO likes? Did you explain how LO likes her bottles or certain toys or to be held in a particular position or to be swaddled, etc? Every baby is different so depending on what details you provided or left out your caregiver really might be at a loss even with many years of experience, especially if this is the first time they are meeting LO. Give them a chance to get to know each other a bit a and for LO to get used to being in a new place. If you still don't feel comfortable with your caregiver after that you might need to look into other options but hopefully it will get better. Good luck.



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  • jenpechinjenpechin member
    Thank you all for the comments. I do have high expectations and should adjust. Its so hard to leave her and i need to relax. As for the bottle. She did take one since three weeks and decided to suddenly refuse. good news.... She finally took one again today!!!
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  • SaragoeswestSaragoeswest member
    Maybe you have to special request a warm fuzzy.
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  • BreandMikeweddingBreandMikewedding member
    I'm sure you didn't know what your lo liked and disliked as soon as they were born and your daycare provider won't either the first day they meet lo. I would say it takes a few weeks even for someone experienced to learn what a child likes and what works best. This also might be different for your daycare provider than it is with you because you are mom. Your lo may calm down if you pat her back but may not calm down if the daycare provider does the same thing. That's just how kids work.

    I also think you need to work on the bottle more. She isn't going to magically take it just because your boobs aren't there. She's just going to scream for your boobs and be hungry.

    Overall, give it more time, communicate with the daycare provider about what is working for both of you with lo and trust your gut. Some environments just don't work for some kids and you have to find the right fit.
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  • AargAarg member
    edited January 2015
    I use to work in a daycare as a Head teacher in the Infant room, and honestly, this sounds like a typical first day for a new baby. I always made a point on the first day to explain all the "norms" you can expect.
    Baby may refuse to eat, may refuse to nap, may not even want to be put down. Yes they will cry! And a lot! It's completely normal! Over time, it will get better!
    Make sure you communicate clearly your LO's daily routine! We requested any and all info, written down, that woul make baby more comfortable.
    I will say though, if you feel uncomfortable or you don't feel that your LO is getting the best possible care, try and find a new center or a private nanny.
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