Weight Question

kjahkdbouabf · January 2015

So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me). I haven't been counting calories or anything like that- and not limiting myself. Just trying not to eat junk. Also, i have been very very sick- kidney stones, had surgery on a strangulated hernia, you name it. This pregnancy has been a nightmare. BUT I am pretty excited that I haven't gained any weight. Ive actually lost about 5 pounds since my first doctors appointment. Im pretty overweight to start with- I'm 5"6 and right now at 30 weeks I weight 198. Has anyone experienced this?? Am I gonna drop a bunch of weight after I deliver, or is that just wishful thinking?? I feel like with the weight "gain" of the baby, and placenta and all that, that maybe I'm gonna drop a bunch of weight in the months after I have the baby. buy maybe thats wishful t thinking. Hahaha

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marthah05 · January 2015

You may lose weight during delivery, since you are not only carrying the fetus but the placenta, and amniotic fluid. You also may gain several pounds in the next ten weeks or so because the fetus will be gaining pounds rapidly. Keep eating healthy things and not limiting things that are real food. My theory is if it grew on this earth eat it, if it has more than 5 ingredients in the package you cannot pronounce throw it away. I make my own bread so I know what's in it.

noodlienoodles · January 2015

marykatezachary said:
So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me). I haven't been counting calories or anything like that- and not limiting myself. Just trying not to eat junk. Also, i have been very very sick- kidney stones, had surgery on a strangulated hernia, you name it. This pregnancy has been a nightmare. BUT I am pretty excited that I haven't gained any weight. Ive actually lost about 5 pounds since my first doctors appointment. Im pretty overweight to start with- I'm 5"6 and right now at 30 weeks I weight 198. Has anyone experienced this?? Am I gonna drop a bunch of weight after I deliver, or is that just wishful thinking?? I feel like with the weight "gain" of the baby, and placenta and all that, that maybe I'm gonna drop a bunch of weight in the months after I have the baby. buy maybe thats wishful t thinking. Hahaha

Cool - I've gained almost 40 lbs so far! I feel like I'm a sausage fitting myself into casing every time I get dressed! Congrats on your no weight gain!!!!111!!!11!!

peeppeeppeep · January 2015

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kjahkdbouabf · January 2015

Wow. You people are unbelievably wretched. I am so sorry that this came across as "bragging". It wasn't intended that way at all.

I almost died and lost the baby from a strangulated hernia. Ive been in the ER with kidney stones 4 times. I have a 14 month old son, and I gained plenty of weight when I had him- HENCE my question. Im so sorry that you all are so miserably unhappy that you instantly responded this way.

Also- I accidentally posted on the other forum, and count figure out how to delete it- thats why it was posted twice.

Happy New Year, and good luck with all of your pregnancies. Sorry you were so easily irritated and offended.

kjahkdbouabf · January 2015

To those of you who were not unkind, thanks for the tips and comments. I will continue to eat healthily and hope for the best. Like I said, I gained quite a bit with my first pregnancy that I was unable to get off. So, hoping for a better ending this time.

CoozieInMyPurse · January 2015

OP, you have to realize that anytime you talk about weight gain with a bunch of pregnant ladies, it will pretty much not go well, especially the "yay me" and talk about not eating junk. If you had been around, you would know that we have moms fighting gestational diabetes and plenty of people who could only keep down junk during first tri, despite best intentions.

I'm sorry for your illnesses during this pregnancy and hope for the best for you. But the person to talk to about weight concerns is your doctor. I know that pregnant women who are overweight or obese are generally encouraged to gain less, so you are likely just fine. Has your doctor said anything yet?

Hoping to turn your pregnancy into some magical weight loss pill at the end of it is really just snotty and was never going to go over well.

melleasndrs · January 2015

CoozieInMyPurse said:
OP, you have to realize that anytime you talk about weight gain with a bunch of pregnant ladies, it will pretty much not go well, especially the "yay me" and talk about not eating junk. If you had been around, you would know that we have moms fighting gestational diabetes and plenty of people who could only keep down junk during first tri, despite best intentions.

I'm sorry for your illnesses during this pregnancy and hope for the best for you. But the person to talk to about weight concerns is your doctor. I know that pregnant women who are overweight or obese are generally encouraged to gain less, so you are likely just fine. Has your doctor said anything yet?

Hoping to turn your pregnancy into some magical weight loss pill at the end of it is really just snotty and was never going to go over well.

^^^wss. I lost too much weight in the first tri and haven't gained it all back yet at almost 31 weeks. The last few months I've been the same weight. I struggle everyday now being diagnosed with gestational diabetes. My little one is weighing 4lbs already and two weeks ahead because of it, yet I haven't put on weight. I would not brag about my lack of weight gain because some women are struggling like me. Overweight or not I know I'm still supposed to gain weight in third tri and I'm a little scared because of it. Maybe your question could have been worded differently and not made to sound like bragging. How about...."STM how much weight did you end up losing after baby? Did you have issues and what worked if you didn't?".....

lisap0924 · January 2015

Sorry for your illness and good for you for minimal weight gain, but please think about what you post.
"Yay me" is very braggy for many moms who a. Struggled to conceive and b. Struggle with GD and/or their weight

djoliet · January 2015

I'm sorry to hear about your complications.

However, I've gained little weight either but it's definitely not something I'd like to brag about. I've been gestational diabetic since 14 weeks which has slowed my gain and I wish I had the option to eat junk if I wanted to honestly. Also my weight gain slowed with my last pregnancy and my son was IUGR even though I was diabetic with him as well and 'm not sure the two are even related but it still worries me.

chelseeea · January 2015

Don't know why you're bragging about not gaining weight. There's a reason you're supposed to gain weight. Sucks that you've been sick, but pregnancy shouldn't be a time to be proud of not gaining anything. I'm proud of every lb I've put on because I know it's all for baby. Not to mention, I'm sure a lot of us are feeling pretty large and uncomfortable at this point, and don't want to hear about how "lucky" you are.

jack12trip · January 2015

happymamax2 said:

kjahkdbouabf said:
Wow. You people are unbelievably wretched. I am so sorry that this came across as "bragging". It wasn't intended that way at all.

Um, definitely sounds like you're bragging.
kjahkdbouabf said:
So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me).
Anyways, sorry for your condition but this isn't the place to brag about the lack of weight gain & calling us wretched bc we don't share in your excitement doesn't help your case.

Is it just me, or does this post seem very deja vu?

We had a post last week too from someone bragging about how they had barely gained any weight and then wanted us to give her advice on how to conquer fear of labor.

MrsPope1770 · January 2015

kjahkdbouabf said:
So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me). I haven't been counting calories or anything like that- and not limiting myself. Just trying not to eat junk. Also, i have been very very sick- kidney stones, had surgery on a strangulated hernia, you name it. This pregnancy has been a nightmare. BUT I am pretty excited that I haven't gained any weight. Ive actually lost about 5 pounds since my first doctors appointment. Im pretty overweight to start with- I'm 5"6 and right now at 30 weeks I weight 198. Has anyone experienced this?? Am I gonna drop a bunch of weight after I deliver, or is that just wishful thinking?? I feel like with the weight "gain" of the baby, and placenta and all that, that maybe I'm gonna drop a bunch of weight in the months after I have the baby. buy maybe thats wishful t thinking. Hahaha

So, I'm 28 weeks today, and I have gained 50 pounds! And I started at 115! Yay, me! WTF. This entire post was such a brag/AW that it makes me sick. I'm sorry that you've had complications, but I have too--along with a ton of other ladies on this board. Yeah, we're not wretched or miserable. We just don't entertain BS.

I have tried so hard to watch what I eat and I still have gained this much this early. I struggle worrying about it so much. People like you make it worse. THANKS!

ajacot924 · January 2015

I'm sorry you've had complications but you should have expected the response you got. As other posters have said, many of us on here struggle with weight. I generally take these kinds of posts with a grain of salt, but I have a pre-existing health condition that would make excess weight gain very dangerous for me and baby. Every week is a struggle to keep my weight under control. These types of posts come off as very insensitive to those of us with weight struggles and I imagine very annoying to everyone else. P.S. Apologizing and then telling everyone they are "miserably unhappy" defeats the purpose of the apology.

happybabe123 · January 2015

@MrsPope1770‌ I'm right there with you.

OP, it's a struggle for me too as someone who worked very hard to get fit prior to this pregnancy to listen to how little others have gained even when I am working out 3-4 times per week and trying to watch what I eat.

Even my husband is smart enough to not talk about weight and not allow me to obsess about it. He reminds me that I AM GROWING A HUMAN! Each body is different and if my dr is ok with it then I should be too.

I am glad you have been able to maintain your weight and your previous pregnancy issues have resolved but don't call this group wretched. Now that's just mean. It's hard to give support to someone calling you names . . .

And now this because I love that I can gif now!

Whitfry · January 2015

OP, I'm sorry people have been so rude to you.

Losing weight like that during pregnancy is actually a serious side-effect of a medical condition called Collin's Syndrome (NOT treacher Collins syndrome, which is a different disease entirely). I would consult your doctor immediately, there are some pretty basic tests your OB can do to determine how severe your case is. Collin's Syndrome doesn't effect your baby, thank god, but it will have very serious repercussions for you.

Aside from weight loss, side effects can include leaking and sore or dry nipples, dry-mouth, and constipation. Typically women who have this end up gaining all their pregnancy weight after the baby is born. Leftover genetic material causes the creation of "ghost babies", masses of extra teeth and hair, that form and grow unchecked inside a woman's uterus.

It could also be dar-kosis causing your failure to gain weight, and that one can be potentially fatal. Captain Trips is also a possibility.

Please talk to your OB and get tested. I'm very worried about your health and safety.

Bostonchelle · January 2015

In reality a "weight" conversation is never ever going to go over well- pregnant or not pregnant it's just not a good topic.

kellbell1982 · January 2015

I'm confused by the "yay me" comment. Is it now considered a bonus to not gain weight while pregnant? Isn't there a pretty obvious medical reason why weight gain is pretty standard? I feel for both the women who are having trouble gaining weight and for those of us, myself included, who feel they have gained too much. Both situations can and do cause worry for the mom to be. I've seen a few posts from moms worried because they haven't put on weight and I completely sympathize with that and never saw anything braggy in those posts. Yours, however was one big brag fest and it was really insensitive. You are no better than a mom who gains 100 pounds, a healthy baby is the end goal for us all. I gained almost 100 pounds with my first and within a year not only had I lost that but my body was in the best shape of my life. So for all the moms worrying about how it will be after the baby comes, take heart in the fact that you can and will lose the weight, it just takes time and effort and for me at least, losing weight was the last thing on my mind when she was born. I took my time, bonded, healed, and when I felt ready I started working on me. Good luck to everyone and wishing you all a happy and healthy delivery

MalVough · January 2015

Weight conversations never go well. I lost 10lbs. in the first trimester and was extremely worried. Once the incessant vomiting stopped, I gained back those 10lbs. but then leveled out. I even pouted when I asked the OB about my weight and they said I hadn't gained anything between appointments. I was seriously worried that LO wasn't getting all the nutrients she needed and that I was doing something wrong. Thankfully, my last appointment showed a 7lb. weight gain (I'm sure the holidays helped!) and I about jumped for joy.

Not gaining weight is not something to cheer about. It's nerve wracking if you truly care about the health of your LO.

ETA: Fat finger hit post too soon.

finallyourturn2 · January 2015

MrsPope1770 said:

kjahkdbouabf said:
So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me). I haven't been counting calories or anything like that- and not limiting myself. Just trying not to eat junk. Also, i have been very very sick- kidney stones, had surgery on a strangulated hernia, you name it. This pregnancy has been a nightmare. BUT I am pretty excited that I haven't gained any weight. Ive actually lost about 5 pounds since my first doctors appointment. Im pretty overweight to start with- I'm 5"6 and right now at 30 weeks I weight 198. Has anyone experienced this?? Am I gonna drop a bunch of weight after I deliver, or is that just wishful thinking?? I feel like with the weight "gain" of the baby, and placenta and all that, that maybe I'm gonna drop a bunch of weight in the months after I have the baby. buy maybe thats wishful t thinking. Hahaha
So, I'm 28 weeks today, and I have gained 50 pounds! And I started at 115! Yay, me! WTF. This entire post was such a brag/AW that it makes me sick. I'm sorry that you've had complications, but I have too--along with a ton of other ladies on this board. Yeah, we're not wretched or miserable. We just don't entertain BS.

I have tried so hard to watch what I eat and I still have gained this much this early. I struggle worrying about it so much. People like you make it worse. THANKS!

Damn if I were you I would have said..."so, I've gained 50 lbs and still way less than you."

Anyway, I'm thinking this pregnant at 165 you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure you still look great and very healthy.

scrappypom · January 2015

kjahkdbouabf said:
So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me). I haven't been counting calories or anything like that- and not limiting myself. Just trying not to eat junk. Also, i have been very very sick- kidney stones, had surgery on a strangulated hernia, you name it. This pregnancy has been a nightmare. BUT I am pretty excited that I haven't gained any weight. Ive actually lost about 5 pounds since my first doctors appointment. Im pretty overweight to start with- I'm 5"6 and right now at 30 weeks I weight 198. Has anyone experienced this?? Am I gonna drop a bunch of weight after I deliver, or is that just wishful thinking?? I feel like with the weight "gain" of the baby, and placenta and all that, that maybe I'm gonna drop a bunch of weight in the months after I have the baby. buy maybe thats wishful t thinking. Hahaha

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Weight gain depends on your starting bmi, you aren't supposed to gain any weight because you are already obese.

MrsPope1770 · January 2015

finallyourturn2 said:

MrsPope1770 said:

kjahkdbouabf said:
So, Ill be 30 weeks on Sunday,. and I have not gained a single pound. (Yay me). I haven't been counting calories or anything like that- and not limiting myself. Just trying not to eat junk. Also, i have been very very sick- kidney stones, had surgery on a strangulated hernia, you name it. This pregnancy has been a nightmare. BUT I am pretty excited that I haven't gained any weight. Ive actually lost about 5 pounds since my first doctors appointment. Im pretty overweight to start with- I'm 5"6 and right now at 30 weeks I weight 198. Has anyone experienced this?? Am I gonna drop a bunch of weight after I deliver, or is that just wishful thinking?? I feel like with the weight "gain" of the baby, and placenta and all that, that maybe I'm gonna drop a bunch of weight in the months after I have the baby. buy maybe thats wishful t thinking. Hahaha
So, I'm 28 weeks today, and I have gained 50 pounds! And I started at 115! Yay, me! WTF. This entire post was such a brag/AW that it makes me sick. I'm sorry that you've had complications, but I have too--along with a ton of other ladies on this board. Yeah, we're not wretched or miserable. We just don't entertain BS.

I have tried so hard to watch what I eat and I still have gained this much this early. I struggle worrying about it so much. People like you make it worse. THANKS!
Damn if I were you I would have said..."so, I've gained 50 lbs and still way less than you."

Anyway, I'm thinking this pregnant at 165 you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure you still look great and very healthy.

Lol. Thanks. Idk I'm just having a tough time because I also quit smoking right when I found out so that definitely affected the weight gain. It is tough for all of us for our entire body shape to shift and change regardless of the # on the scale--I am not someone who is all crazy about appearance, but it is so hard when you've never been over 130 to be pushing 170. Especially when we are constantly hounded with the "acceptable" amount of weight to gain! But I'm okay! I know that baby girl is doing well and I know that I will just have to discipline myself after recovery. Weight related health problems are very prevalent in my family, so that is where my fears are grounded I think.

lanax24 · January 2015

Weight loss from illness is not something to get excited about. I have suffered from HG this pregnancy. I was fit and healthy prior to pregnancy and now all I hear is how sick I look (thanks, you'd look sick to if you couldn't even keep down water!!). My weight loss has left me miserable, I'm too weak to leave the house most days and am scared of going anywhere alone because I'm constantly fainting. I'm severely dehydrated and my muscle mass has all but gone. The most annoying thing I hear is "at least you won't have to lose the baby weight." That may be true but how long is it going to take for me to regain my HEALTH! IMO health of mother and baby trumps the numbers on the scale any day.

Whitfry · January 2015

EmpireRecords24 said:

Whitfry said:
OP, I'm sorry people have been so rude to you.

Losing weight like that during pregnancy is actually a serious side-effect of a medical condition called Collin's Syndrome (NOT treacher Collins syndrome, which is a different disease entirely). I would consult your doctor immediately, there are some pretty basic tests your OB can do to determine how severe your case is. Collin's Syndrome doesn't effect your baby, thank god, but it will have very serious repercussions for you.

Aside from weight loss, side effects can include leaking and sore or dry nipples, dry-mouth, and constipation. Typically women who have this end up gaining all their pregnancy weight after the baby is born. Leftover genetic material causes the creation of "ghost babies", masses of extra teeth and hair, that form and grow unchecked inside a woman's uterus.

It could also be dar-kosis causing your failure to gain weight, and that one can be potentially fatal. Captain Trips is also a possibility.

Please talk to your OB and get tested. I'm very worried about your health and safety.
My brother-in-law's sister's best friend had this during pregnancy. They didn't catch it until third tri, so it was extremely difficult to treat. After her DD was born, things were fine for a few weeks, and then she started feeling weird pinching sensations in her lower abdomen. They did an X-ray and found a full formed set of teeth in there, essentially "biting" her from the inside when she bent a certain way. They surgically removed the teeth, but then a few months later found that toenails were growing on her spleen. Again, removed them, but how annoying for her to keep having to have surgery every few months. She's finally starting to gain her pregnancy weight (a year after delivery), so they're hoping this is te final stage of the disease and from this point on, it will just be intensive weight management counseling with yearly scans to see if more tissue has startedto grow. She isn't sure if she should expect to gain the standard 25-35 lbs or more, so she's a little freaked out.

That's awful! At least they caught it early enough to treat it! This is such a difficult disease, and it's one of those conditions that nobody really talks about. So there's a huge lack of education out there.

melleasndrs · January 2015

---- @scrappypom‌
Weight gain depends on your starting bmi, you aren't supposed to gain any weight because you are already obese.

______________
Uh screw quotess today!
That is not correct.

finallyourturn2 · January 2015

melleasndrs said:
---- @scrappypom‌
Weight gain depends on your starting bmi, you aren't supposed to gain any weight because you are already obese.

______________
Uh screw quotess today!
That is not correct.

Actually it is partially correct. If you fall in the obese range you should look to keep weight gain under 15, and a loss is fine.

drudolph11 · January 2015

CoozieInMyPurse said:
OP, you have to realize that anytime you talk about weight gain with a bunch of pregnant ladies, it will pretty much not go well, especially the "yay me" and talk about not eating junk. If you had been around, you would know that we have moms fighting gestational diabetes and plenty of people who could only keep down junk during first tri, despite best intentions.

I'm sorry for your illnesses during this pregnancy and hope for the best for you. But the person to talk to about weight concerns is your doctor. I know that pregnant women who are overweight or obese are generally encouraged to gain less, so you are likely just fine. Has your doctor said anything yet?

Hoping to turn your pregnancy into some magical weight loss pill at the end of it is really just snotty and was never going to go over well.

Thank you and thank you. During my first and into my second i literally could not keep anything down besides Chinese food and ice cream. I actually lost weight and was truly miserable and sick to death that i couldn't get the baby the nutrition that she needed. It sucked so bad and i was so scared that something was wrong. So talking about not eating junk food was just a stab because i literally had to live off of it for 20 weeks and not by choice. This was just lacking a bit of common sense.

melleasndrs · January 2015

finallyourturn2 said:

melleasndrs said:
---- @scrappypom‌
Weight gain depends on your starting bmi, you aren't supposed to gain any weight because you are already obese.
______________
Uh screw quotess today!
That is not correct.

Actually it is partially correct. If you fall in the obese range you should look to keep weight gain under 15, and a loss is fine.

I was trying to write more and gave up on my phone. It is acting up. And taking forever to write in this damn page.

finallyourturn2 · January 2015

melleasndrs said:

finallyourturn2 said:

melleasndrs said:
---- @scrappypom‌
Weight gain depends on your starting bmi, you aren't supposed to gain any weight because you are already obese.
______________
Uh screw quotess today!
That is not correct.
Actually it is partially correct. If you fall in the obese range you should look to keep weight gain under 15, and a loss is fine.

I was trying to write more and gave up on my phone. It is acting up. And taking forever to write in this damn page.

I think it is TB. It was being a pain in the butt for me today as well.

scrappypom · January 2015

melleasndrs said:
---- @scrappypom‌
Weight gain depends on your starting bmi, you aren't supposed to gain any weight because you are already obese.

______________
Uh screw quotess today!
That is not correct.

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I'm sorry, I didn't mean for that to come out harsh, I was annoyed with the OP. By the beginning of the 3rd trimester, it wouldn't be a concern that you hadn't gained any weight of you stated with a BMI of 32 unless your Dr said it was. Someone who started out underweight is going to need to gain significantly more than someone who starts with an 'obese' BMI. It seems pretty silly to have a braggy dear diary post about your weight when you are at a place where you may not need to gain weight at all. Of course, as with all things medical, consult your own Dr.

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