I am having a shit day. My OB referred me to a maternal fetal medicine specialist, who I saw today.
I want to smack that bitch and my OB for referring me to her. The first thing she said to me was "So how many weeks pregnant are you?" Um I'm not fucking pregnant. Read my chart. Then she proceeded to tell me that there was nothing she would recommend for me. That my loss is a risk of pregnancy with a bicornuate uterus. I asked some questions about a suspected fibroid that was seen on my last ultrasound and she told me that was a gyn issue and they only do tests on pregnant women.
I'm so angry and confused. I have no idea why my OB referred me to this woman. I am going to have some choice words for her when she calls me back. So now I don't know what the fuck to do.
Re: Horrible Dr. Appt
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
Me: 32 DH: 32
BFP #1: 4/1/2010 DS born: 12/3/10
TTC #2 since 5/2014
BFP # 2 : 6/16/14 EDD: 2/25/15 Missed Miscarriage discovered 7/10/14 D&C 7/17/14 Pathology results normal
BFP #3: 10/21/14 EDD: 7/6/15 11/24/14: Saw heartbeat!
TTCAL January 2015 Siggy Challenge: Animals in the snow
Scumbag Penguin
I imagine that seeing the MFM was to come up with a treatment plan when you do get pregnant again. Because bicornuate uterus can cause issues with preterm labour maybe the goal of this appointment was setting up a solid treatment plan.
((((HUGS)))
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
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IUI#3 brought us our dragon baby Z
TTCAL January 2015 Siggy Challenge: Animal Snow Interactions
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN ,
10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
9/20/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d
10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
Agreed.
I'm fucking horrified that there was no mention of cervical monitoring.
As Pink and a few others have said, I can see the reasoning for the MFM referral versus the RE considering the 2nd tri loss and a successful pregnancy. I was referred to one for a consult since my issue doesn't seem to be getting pregnant but staying that way past 16 weeks or so (both of my losses were cleared for the bulk of genetic issues that cause pregnancy loss). Unfortunately, your MFM just absolutely fucking sucked. My visit did walk through some various reasons of what could have gone wrong with my 2 losses but mainly a few ideas of what we could do next time as preventative measures.
I don't know enough about fibroids and would defer to others experience on if something like that should be managed by an RE, but I would think a new MFM and RE consultation might be in order. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that- no doctor should think that's an acceptable way to manage someone's care. Good luck in finding some new resources!
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
Like someone mentioned, the same thing happened to me where my OB made an appointment for me to see the high risk Dr but I was supposed to see an RE. The high risk Dr said some stupid shit to me too that pissed me off
I think our situations may be a bit different though, as Pink mentioned.
I hope it works out soon for you *hug*
Me-27 DH-29
TTC#1 January 2013
BFP February 27th 2014, MMC ended in D&C
Working on our rainbow!
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BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
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I am sure your gyn could do a saline sonogram just fine. Where you want to be careful is when it comes to potentially being prescribed Clomid (though I don't know if that is likely to be suggested given that you have not historically had challenges becoming pg). If that is suggested high tail it to an RE for monitoring. Regarding the fibroid, in my experience gyns and mfms do not distinguish between the different types of fibroids. Their approach seems to be "wait, monitor, and see." 2 of the 3 types of fibroids are not likely to cause an issue with pregnancy (and they account for about 95% of fibroids) which is probably why gyns and mfms do not react much to the knowledge that there is a fibroid. Submucosal fibroids, on the other hand, can act like IUDs and prevent an egg from implanting or can rob nutrients from an egg and cause it's demise. Therefore I suggest if they do confirm a fibroid that you find out the type and seek the opinion of an RE.
The long and the short of it is: OBs specialize in making sure you deliver a healthy baby, MFMs make sure you navigate a difficult pregnancy as safely as possible, and REs specialize in getting people who are having fertility challenges pregnant.
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Good luck and sorry you got a bad doc!
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!