New Year UO, Anyone?

victoria+james · January 2015

Gimme all the opinions lady's!

victoria+james · January 2015

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

Klavanga74 · January 2015

victoria+james said:

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

..When I had to take it out, my DS who's 10 now used to get his meaty legs stuck between the slats of the crib. I'd have to lube him up with Vaseline to unstick him! He loves that story!

Klavanga74 · January 2015

Not sure if this will be an UO, but I'm sad it's 2015 and my big kids have to go back to school Monday.

vrj0522 · January 2015

victoria+james said:

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

But what's better baby hurting his head or not being able to breathe?

golfingdarwinfish · January 2015

victoria+james said:

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

S does this also, but he's sleeping on his stomach on my shoulder when he does it - a position he will never sleep in in his crib. I've watched him sleep in his bassinet and the thrashing does not occur.

One of my cousins lost her son to SIDS. It's completely unimaginable. In my opinion anything that reduces that risk is worth it. There's no reason to invite trouble.

victoria+james · January 2015

vrj0522 said:

victoria+james said:

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

But what's better baby hurting his head or not being able to breathe?

Yes I do see the logic, and I have a gap between the bumper and mattress if he were to squirm his way to the edge to try to suffocate himself.

And since I've only in the past few days started having him sleep in the crib at night, (before he was in the bassinet and ours is a soft mesh surround) I'm much more comfortable because he's not still tiny newborn status who sleeps through anything and is now uber squirm baby who wakes easily.

ETA: @golfingdarwinfish‌ - M thrashes on his back too sadly, but I can see how that would be confusing. He never sleeps on his tummy in the crib.

TheOtherJacobsons · January 2015

I want it to be Friday so I can confess.

staryb · January 2015

I don't like to help/being helped clean at party's or family gatherings. I hate it when guests want to help clean. If I'm a guest I feel like I'm obligated to help too or I'll look like a jerk. If I'm hosting I'd rather let the dishes pile up so that everyone can relax and I can enjoy the company.

golfingdarwinfish · January 2015

I can't stand people in my kitchen, whether they're cleaning or cooking.

I am not physically able to leave my kitchen dirty or dirty dishes anywhere. I think this goes back to being trained in the lab where your area should be pristine.

I'm so anal that if food is served that means everything I used to prepare it is cleaned or soaking, and anything I'm done using is put away. If I'm about to put cookies in the over that means the spoons and cups are drying or in dishwasher, ingredients are put away (they get put away immediately after they're added to mix ), and bowls are soaking.

cmac6186 · January 2015

I get annoyed when people say they don't want to tell kids about Santa Claus because they don't want to "lie " to their kids. I intend on having Santa in my house and it's fine if you don't but I don't consider it lying to my kid to give her something nice to believe in. She will also know the true meaning of Christmas first and foremost.

MrsSarahRenee · January 2015

I dislike NYE. There is so much pressure to go out, have a party, drink whatever. I have no interest and never have but this is the first year I had an excuse to do nothing. Wahoo!

I do like drinking and partying but for some reason I am anti-NYE parties.

BreandMikewedding · January 2015

I don't like wine, champagne or beer. :-&

pnwlover12 · January 2015

cmac6186 said:
I get annoyed when people say they don't want to tell kids about Santa Claus because they don't want to "lie " to their kids. I intend on having Santa in my house and it's fine if you don't but I don't consider it lying to my kid to give her something nice to believe in. She will also know the true meaning of Christmas first and foremost.

I also laugh at the whole "lying" to kids thing. I lie to my kid all the time. Example, "mom, I want to watch Dora." "Dora isn't on right now." LIE. Dora is always on.

TheOtherJacobsons · January 2015

This is more a rant than an UO, but I will not be doing this Elf on a Shelf shit. A Christmas Tradition my ass. Since when, 5 years ago if that? I don't even know what it is. The elf thing doesn't bug me so much as the marketing aspect. Don't create a tradition and tell me it's a tradition.

pnwlover12 · January 2015

Lol. I think the elf is a cute idea. It's fun having stuff like that with a toddler.

You could always do the "mensch on the bench" instead!

2goingon3 · January 2015

FamousEa said:
I don't care if it's tradition or not, I love elf on the shelf and I think it goes right up there with Santa Claus, something fun and magical to believe in. Our elf doesn't watch and report bad behavior though, she just does funny things. My kids will learn to behave without some elf tattling on them.

Mine tattles. I'm cool with it. My kids are pretty good though, so there was only once or twice that I warned them that the elf was watching.

I love the elf, but I get that it's not for everyone, so the most annoying part about the elf is when you've got a cousin or something who doesn't do it. Then you have to explain why cousin Jimmy's family doesn't have an elf.

lrobi13 · January 2015

TheOtherJacobsons said:
I want it to be Friday so I can confess.

I can pretend it is Friday...

vrj0522 · January 2015

victoria+james said:

victoria+james said:

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

But what's better baby hurting his head or not being able to breathe?
Yes I do see the logic, and I have a gap between the bumper and mattress if he were to squirm his way to the edge to try to suffocate himself. And since I've only in the past few days started having him sleep in the crib at night, (before he was in the bassinet and ours is a soft mesh surround) I'm much more comfortable because he's not still tiny newborn status who sleeps through anything and is now uber squirm baby who wakes easily. ETA: @golfingdarwinfish‌ - M thrashes on his back too sadly, but I can see how that would be confusing. He never sleeps on his tummy in the crib.

Not to scare you or anyone else but 90% of SIDS incidences happen before 6 months, with the highest number happening between 2-4 months. Even if baby is squirmy, there is something about them not really being mobile that puts them at risk. If the baby was to roll over or squirm toward the edge (and it can happen in a matter of seconds), then by having their head next to the bumper, they'd be at risk.

The interesting thing about it is that I actually think that it's more popular to use the bumper than not. Most women I know IRL put a bumper in the crib in spite of the recommendations against it. I bet if we polled people, most would have a bumper in their baby's crib. So while the opinion is unpopular, the reality is that it is still widely popular to do it.

BreandMikewedding · January 2015

My dd who is 10 years old told me this year that she wanted an elf on the shelf. She was so excited because it moves and does things. I never considered one before.

lrobi13 · January 2015

I've said it before and I cringe when I put my son in some of these but character clothes are so tacky looking to me. I prefer not to have my child have character related clothing and bedding.

But he does rock some SpongeBob bibs that were gifted to us my a child I mentor. Because we go through so many bibs they are very handy.

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TheOtherJacobsons · January 2015

How is this not creepy?

I'll probably do it. What really is getting me is the marketing. Something about creating a tradition just rubbed me the wrong way.

TheOtherJacobsons · January 2015

dredford said:

I HATE the word "selfie". It's obnoxious and makes everyone saying it sound like they're 14.

It's better than an "ussie". I really hope that doesn't catch on.

victoria+james · January 2015

vrj0522 said:

victoria+james said:

vrj0522 said:

victoria+james said:

I think that a crib bumper (the regular padded kind) is a good idea. The way M thrashes his head back and forth... I cringe to think if I didn't have the bumper in his crib. Sometimes he thrashes so violently on my shoulder he smacks his head on my collar bone or jaw and wakes himself up crying.

But what's better baby hurting his head or not being able to breathe?
Yes I do see the logic, and I have a gap between the bumper and mattress if he were to squirm his way to the edge to try to suffocate himself.

And since I've only in the past few days started having him sleep in the crib at night, (before he was in the bassinet and ours is a soft mesh surround) I'm much more comfortable because he's not still tiny newborn status who sleeps through anything and is now uber squirm baby who wakes easily.

ETA: @golfingdarwinfish‌ - M thrashes on his back too sadly, but I can see how that would be confusing. He never sleeps on his tummy in the crib.

Not to scare you or anyone else but 90% of SIDS incidences happen before 6 months, with the highest number happening between 2-4 months. Even if baby is squirmy, there is something about them not really being mobile that puts them at risk. If the baby was to roll over or squirm toward the edge (and it can happen in a matter of seconds), then by having their head next to the bumper, they'd be at risk.

The interesting thing about it is that I actually think that it's more popular to use the bumper than not. Most women I know IRL put a bumper in the crib in spite of the recommendations against it. I bet if we polled people, most would have a bumper in their baby's crib. So while the opinion is unpopular, the reality is that it is still widely popular to do it.

Please, scare away! I mentioned this UO because I probably don't know enough about... oh, everything... bumbers, SIDS, my baby's potential inability to move his head when he actually needs to for his own safety. I just may be heading out to research some mesh liners today or might be moving the PnP into his room to use until he's old enough that the bumper isn't a hazard to him.

cmac6186 · January 2015

crawford411 said:

keelyd said:
I don't understand wanting to sleep in a room separate from one's baby. I don't have anxiety about leaving my kid with a sitter, but I do not feel comfortable sleeping if he's in another room.
On the flip side, I don't like when she's in our room. I never slept. I just listened to her breathe all night. It was no good for us.

I needed some space. She was constantly on me almost 24/7. Putting her in her room makes me feel less resentful when I get up to comfort her/ feed in MOTN. I don't think resentful is the right word but too tired to think of an alternative

lrobi13 · January 2015

crawford411 said:

keelyd said:
I don't understand wanting to sleep in a room separate from one's baby. I don't have anxiety about leaving my kid with a sitter, but I do not feel comfortable sleeping if he's in another room.
On the flip side, I don't like when she's in our room. I never slept. I just listened to her breathe all night. It was no good for us.

Yep. I would we him up and he would wake me up. So he has been in his own room with the door closed (to keep the cat out of there) since he was 4 weeks old and I moved out of the living room and back into my bed.

windwithfingers · January 2015

@keelyd‌ I feel that way too. It even freaks me out that he now sleeps across the room from me and not right next to me.

slsl509 · January 2015

I used the breathable bumpers. Are those a no-no too? I bought them when my DD put her leg out of the slat, bent her knee and then hooked her foot back into the crib. Repeat some iteration of this trick nightly with bloodcurdling scream. Took them off when she started building a dam with the wood she gnawed off the crib rails and using the bumpers as a step.

angeltennis3 · January 2015

I don't think working moms should rely on daycare to sort out issues you may have with sleeping unswaddled, in a crib, and further down the line, potty training, etc. I have seen a ton of comments "oh when they start daycare, they will work it out". I am the parent so I don't want it to be daycares problem, I want open communication with daycare so that we can be a team and I am setting my kid up for success from day 1.

golfingdarwinfish · January 2015

I used to obsessively stare at LO while he slept, but I felt way better after purchasing the Snuza. even if it's a false sense of comfort, all it's doing is helping me sleep at night and not hurting him in any way, so I'm okay with it. He will probably stay in our bedroom until 4 months, but the fact that DH is a pretty deep sleeper (and forgets when he does wake up in the MOTN), and that S only wakes up once (at least now) makes it much easier for him to remain in our room.

https://www.amazon.com/Snuza-ILSHER-Baby-Monitor-Hero/dp/B008OJ7C6Y

victoria+james · January 2015

keelyd said:
I don't understand wanting to sleep in a room separate from one's baby. I don't have anxiety about leaving my kid with a sitter, but I do not feel comfortable sleeping if he's in another room.

I thought I would want to have him in his own room back before I had him. Now I'm sad because DH's snoring and an irritating squeak on my side of the mattress wake him up when he's in the PnP in our room and he sleeps so much better in his own room.

ETA: clarification

bumpuser10309732 · January 2015

angeltennis3 said:
I don't think working moms should rely on daycare to sort out issues you may have with sleeping unswaddled, in a crib, and further down the line, potty training, etc. I have seen a ton of comments "oh when they start daycare, they will work it out". I am the parent so I don't want it to be daycares problem, I want open communication with daycare so that we can be a team and I am setting my kid up for success from day 1.

Maybe these mom's think that the daycare ladies are more seasoned, have better ideas, and more knowledge on the subject than they do. I know I think that about my daycare person. It doesn't mean I won't be communicating with her and just tossing my baby at her every morning and running with her at 5 every evening. Since she's with her all day she also needs to have a hand in the same goals. I can't accomplish most of those things in the hours we have together unassisted by her primary daytime caregiver.

bumpuser10309732 · January 2015

Kaylajade8911 said:
I hate valentines day.
Not just the marketing part. But they make it seem like if your relationship isn't good that one day, then you're doomed.

The same shit happens on valentines day, I'd rather love be a little more spontaneous than 'I'm going to ignore that you're being an Asshole because it's valentines'

On the same token it seems like it's turned into oh look what my husband got me. Did you get a big diamond?!

angeltennis3 · January 2015

MrsBabe614 said:

Kaylajade8911 said:
I hate valentines day.
Not just the marketing part. But they make it seem like if your relationship isn't good that one day, then you're doomed.

The same shit happens on valentines day, I'd rather love be a little more spontaneous than 'I'm going to ignore that you're being an Asshole because it's valentines'
On the same token it seems like it's turned into oh look what my husband got me. Did you get a big diamond?!

All holidays are like that. I HATE when people post pictures of their birthday, Christmas, mothers/Father's Day gifts, etc, on facebook. It's soooo materialistic and AW, and so unbelievabley unnecessary. Get off social media and just enjoy the time with your family!!!

bumpuser10309732 · January 2015

angeltennis3 said:

MrsBabe614 said:

Kaylajade8911 said:
I hate valentines day.
Not just the marketing part. But they make it seem like if your relationship isn't good that one day, then you're doomed.

The same shit happens on valentines day, I'd rather love be a little more spontaneous than 'I'm going to ignore that you're being an Asshole because it's valentines'
On the same token it seems like it's turned into oh look what my husband got me. Did you get a big diamond?!
All holidays are like that. I HATE when people post pictures of their birthday, Christmas, mothers/Father's Day gifts, etc, on facebook. It's soooo materialistic and AW, and so unbelievabley unnecessary. Get off social media and just enjoy the time with your family!!!

I have a friend that likes to brag to me about what her husband got her followed by a dollar amount. Super tacky. She posted on facebook that he got her a keurig (don't give a fuck) her mom said oh we have one too and she proceeded to attempt to one up her own mom. What the actual fuck?

2goingon3 · January 2015

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kfitzguerra said:
I know I'm late to the party but I'm torn about Elf on a Shelf. On one hand, it's a cute idea to make them think that the elf is doing things while they aren't looking. On the other, they should be good all year long and not just when the elf is watching. And I do not have the energy or patience or the memory to move that guy every day.

It's so fun though! And my kids remember from the year before, so now we get things like "I hope he makes pancakes for us again!" Because we made mini pancakes.
This year he made a mini gingerbread house the night we had a gingerbread decorating party.....but mostly he just sits in different spots, sometimes with other toys to keep him company.

andrieya · January 2015

TheOtherJacobsons said:

dredford said:

I HATE the word "selfie". It's obnoxious and makes everyone saying it sound like they're 14.

It's better than an "ussie". I really hope that doesn't catch on.

EWWWWWWWWWW! I've never heard anyone day that and I hope I never do!!

silliegirlie143 · January 2015

UO:

I enjoy our MOTN feeding because I get uninterrupted baby gazing time. She's sweet because she's still sleepy and I'm all cozy in bed

golfingdarwinfish · January 2015

SSFC2014 said:

I like to be able to have sex without worrying about waking the baby.

@SSFC2014

So the UO here is that you like to be able to have sex... Right?

I can't wait until I like to have sex again.

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