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Empathy vs Sympathy

meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
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@ronniesgirl1981‌ shared this on the Miscarriage Board. I thought it was fantastic. Some have friends and family who could benefit from watching this...

https://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw
TTCAL January Siggy Challenge: Animals in the Snow

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AMA 35 :  DH 33
BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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Re: Empathy vs Sympathy

  • kreardon11kreardon11 member
    Wow. Crying.
    ________________________
    Married my partner in crime 06/11/11
    DH: 29, Me: 28
    Started TTC 10/01/2013
    BFP#1: 03/05/14 | EDD: 11/11/14 | MC: 04/10/14 | D&C 05/01/14 [Molar]
    BFP#2: 10/15/14 | EDD: 06/25/14 | MC: 12/02/14 | D&C 12/04/14 [MMC]
    Current Status: RE appt 01/20/15 & Cleared to TTC
    Plan: Baby Aspirin, More (raw) folate, PNP, Iron, diet
    DX: MTHFR hetero C677T, ANA+ Homogeneous, Anemia. Ige sensitivities: gluten, egg, dairy
    All AL Welcome<3
    “Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
    We will never forgot our angels<3


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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    Oops, sorry for the tears @kreardon11‌
    TTCAL January Siggy Challenge: Animals in the Snow

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    About Me: 

    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

    image

    My Ovulation Chart
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  • kreardon11kreardon11 member
    Totally okay! If I could just get my MILto stop sending me emails saying "at least you can get pregnant" or "I wish I could take away your pain" I would be a happy woman. Hit home!
    ________________________
    Married my partner in crime 06/11/11
    DH: 29, Me: 28
    Started TTC 10/01/2013
    BFP#1: 03/05/14 | EDD: 11/11/14 | MC: 04/10/14 | D&C 05/01/14 [Molar]
    BFP#2: 10/15/14 | EDD: 06/25/14 | MC: 12/02/14 | D&C 12/04/14 [MMC]
    Current Status: RE appt 01/20/15 & Cleared to TTC
    Plan: Baby Aspirin, More (raw) folate, PNP, Iron, diet
    DX: MTHFR hetero C677T, ANA+ Homogeneous, Anemia. Ige sensitivities: gluten, egg, dairy
    All AL Welcome<3
    “Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
    We will never forgot our angels<3


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  • kreardon11kreardon11 member
    PetraStonegirl said:



    kreardon11 said:

    Totally okay! If I could just get my MILto stop sending me emails saying "at least you can get pregnant" or "I wish I could take away your pain" I would be a happy woman. Hit home!

    Send that to your MIL without comment, lady. The only way to stop the shitty comments is to educate.


    Petra....you mind reader you...I was just thinking she needs to see this. I will def be taking your advice and will be sending without comment. The video speaks for itself.
    ________________________
    Married my partner in crime 06/11/11
    DH: 29, Me: 28
    Started TTC 10/01/2013
    BFP#1: 03/05/14 | EDD: 11/11/14 | MC: 04/10/14 | D&C 05/01/14 [Molar]
    BFP#2: 10/15/14 | EDD: 06/25/14 | MC: 12/02/14 | D&C 12/04/14 [MMC]
    Current Status: RE appt 01/20/15 & Cleared to TTC
    Plan: Baby Aspirin, More (raw) folate, PNP, Iron, diet
    DX: MTHFR hetero C677T, ANA+ Homogeneous, Anemia. Ige sensitivities: gluten, egg, dairy
    All AL Welcome<3
    “Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
    We will never forgot our angels<3


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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    edited January 2015
    kreardon11 said:

    kreardon11 said:
    Totally okay! If I could just get my MILto stop sending me emails saying "at least you can get pregnant" or "I wish I could take away your pain" I would be a happy woman. Hit home!
    Send that to your MIL without comment, lady. The only way to stop the shitty comments is to educate.
    Petra....you mind reader you...I was just thinking she needs to see this. I will def be taking your advice and will be sending without comment. The video speaks for itself.

    great idea!

    ETA: I posted it on FB
    TTCAL January Siggy Challenge: Animals in the Snow

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    About Me: 

    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

    image

    My Ovulation Chart
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  • LittleDuckyLittleDucky member
    Thanks for sharing this video. DH needs to watch it - he is always trying to "fix" things when really I just need him to be there when I'm upset.
    Married to DH since 6/30/2007
    Me: 32  DH: 32
    BFP #1: 4/1/2010 DS born: 12/3/10
    TTC #2 since 5/2014
    BFP # 2 : 6/16/14 EDD: 2/25/15  Missed Miscarriage discovered 7/10/14 D&C 7/17/14 Pathology results normal
    BFP #3    : 10/21/14 EDD: 7/6/15  11/24/14:  Saw heartbeat! 
    Missed Miscarriage discovered 12/22/14 at 12w0d D&C 12/23/14 Pathology: Partial Molar Pregnancy/Triploidy
    ~~Currently benched following PMP~~ 
    **all AL welcome**



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  • Puglife83Puglife83 member
    kreardon11 said:
    Totally okay! If I could just get my MILto stop sending me emails saying "at least you can get pregnant" or "I wish I could take away your pain" I would be a happy woman. Hit home!

    Mine tells me maybe it's time to stop "working so hard" and to "slow down". I finally had to explain that my job was not the cause of my ectopic and I found her comments very insulting.

    Me: 31 DH:28

    BFP: July 6 2014. Ectopic discovered at 7 weeks. TTC since February 2014





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  • kreardon11kreardon11 member
    Puglife83 said:


    kreardon11 said:

    Totally okay! If I could just get my MILto stop sending me emails saying "at least you can get pregnant" or "I wish I could take away your pain" I would be a happy woman. Hit home!




    Mine tells me maybe it's time to stop "working so hard" and to "slow down". I finally had to explain that my job was not the cause of my ectopic and I found her comments very insulting.

    God that irritates me. My own mother says he same thing. You work too hard, you need to lose 30lbs before having a baby. Really ma?

    All that to say your not alone and that in my experience people try to help in fucked up ways.
    ________________________
    Married my partner in crime 06/11/11
    DH: 29, Me: 28
    Started TTC 10/01/2013
    BFP#1: 03/05/14 | EDD: 11/11/14 | MC: 04/10/14 | D&C 05/01/14 [Molar]
    BFP#2: 10/15/14 | EDD: 06/25/14 | MC: 12/02/14 | D&C 12/04/14 [MMC]
    Current Status: RE appt 01/20/15 & Cleared to TTC
    Plan: Baby Aspirin, More (raw) folate, PNP, Iron, diet
    DX: MTHFR hetero C677T, ANA+ Homogeneous, Anemia. Ige sensitivities: gluten, egg, dairy
    All AL Welcome<3
    “Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
    We will never forgot our angels<3


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  • mcodea88mcodea88 member
    This is such a good video. I have heard a few too many "at least you know you can get pregnant" responses and honestly when people say it, I typically respond in a way that reflects their cold statement back to them... Like, "yeah that's great and all but I would have preferred to keep the baby and learn that lesson at the same time." Just enough to make them think about how dumb their responses are. My one friend, a guy, who I just told recently (he did t even know I was pregnant but knew we were trying) said it best... He said something like "I want to say a lot but know most of it will come out wrong so I am just so sorry"... Like, that's all we need people! Internal filters! Grrrrr

    Married April 13, 2013

    TTC #1
    38 years old
    1st BFP 11/11/14 (EDD 7/24/14)
    1st loss 12/22/14
    Off Loestrin FE 24 since 6/9/14
    Irregular, short LP, low progesterone
    Diagnosed with PCOS Feb 2015
    Started IVF April 2014
    1st retrieval May 2015 - 30 retrieved, 29 fertilized, 1 normal
    2nd retrieval June 2015 - 27 retrieved, 22 fertiziled, 1 normal
    Implantation date August 12, 2015
    BFP 8/24/2015

    ALL WELCOME

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  • Nikolie93Nikolie93 member
    I was finally able to watch this and I <3 it.

    @CharlieFox30‌ I heard you can block it from certain people seeing things but I think you have to set them up in a group or something?
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



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  • Nikolie93Nikolie93 member
    CharlieFox30 said:

    @Nikolie93 I totally figured it out :) You can customize your post and put in specific people to block - sorry ILs, not sorry!

    Sweet! Thanks for reporting back :)
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



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