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GuennieGuennie member
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I've been holding out on you guys for a couple days. I got an unexpected Xmas present. Long story short, I was about to go back on the pill and I got a bfp. I've been completely freaking out as my experience with my daughter was horrible. From the pregnancy to the delivery and recovery to trying to breastfeed and having to exclusively pump... I do not know how I can go through it again. And I'm terrified of being as sick as last time and trying to take care of a toddler. We have no family here to help me. So I am pretty much still in shock. My husband did not take it well. Right now I'm really trying to accept it and move forward to a place where I can feel some joy because I'd like to be able to be excited about giving my daughter a sibling. One day at a time I guess. I'll get there.
Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    Congrats! I'm sorry your H is having a hard time.


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  • emmojessemmojess member
    I'm new here and not familiar with your story but congrats and well wishes that this big news transforms to big joy for your family. I don't think I need to say that men process things differently (and usually less graciously) than us women. Cheers to your news and virtual hugs for a healthy pregnancy.
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  • vettymamavettymama member
    Congratulations! I'm sorry you're having such a rough time and your husband is too. Just take it day by day. It'll get better and your feelings will change. Good luck and I hope everything goes well!
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  • ktibbits1ktibbits1 member
    Congratulations! Hopefully this pregnancy will be easier for you, wishing you the best!
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  • SouthernAcornSouthernAcorn member
    Congratulations! Surprise pregnancies can be very overwhelming, not only for you but for the rest of your family as well. Just take everything day by day. Eventually you won't be able to picture your life without this new little bean! Good luck!


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  • hillgirl322hillgirl322 member
    First, congrats on the BFP!

    I had a hard time accepting my surprise 3rd pregnancy. With my DD (baby #2) I had a very difficult pregnancy and she had a lot of health issues once born so I was terrified and an emotional mess. I was able to eventually move past those feels and began enjoying the pregnancy. I found talking about my feelings with my doctor and close friends very beneficial. Take it one day at a time and I'm sure you'll feel better soon.

    Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!
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  • nolemomma14nolemomma14 member
    Congratulations! I hope your H comes around and you can both share in the excitement of a new sibling for your DD! Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!
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  • GuennieGuennie member
    Thank you very much for the support. A part of me was sad that we wouldn't be giving my daughter a sibling, but it felt like the right decision so that's why I was going back on bcp. I was just too terrified of another painful experience and so was my h. I guess life thought otherwise. The timing is just too ironic. All I can do is hope this pregnancy will be different. I do think I can eventually get excited if I can just avoid all of the difficulties I faced the first time around.

    It's going to be hard on us financially too, but I guess plenty of families find ways to make it work.
    Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
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  • KeeptruckinKeeptruckin member
    Congratulations and remember you have over 9 months to prepare. I don't think my DH was excited for DD until she was actually here.
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  • caybehcaybeh member
    Congrats!
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  • jloveskyjlovesky member
    Sending happy thoughts your way!!! Hoping things go better for your this time around, just try to stay positive-all pregnancies are different!
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
    edited December 2014

    Congrats!!!  Remember that each pregnancy is unique!  Just roll with whatever this pregnancy happens to be, listen to your body at all times, communicate with your care team, and things will work out! 

    With DD & DS I had vastly different experiences.  In some ways DS was easier, and in other ways DD was.  Delivery was a MILLION times "easier" in knowing what I was getting into and not being afraid to be my own advocate (i.e. starting the induction at night so I could sleep through the "easy" stages of L&D...  when I had issues with the epi I had them redo it - which caused the Angel Choir to sing beautifully!  Pushed DS out without feeling one bit of pain "down there" AWESOME!)

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  • mandymackmandymack member
    What a blessing, congratulations!!! :)

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