Hi All,
I was just curious but is anyone's baby actually sleeping through the night? My baby turns 7 months old on Wednesday and he still wakes up several times throughout the night. I don't know about anyone else, but I honestly have not gotten used to this sleep deprivation thing. I find it so difficult to function most days and it truly affects my concentration at work, makes me feel less social, and I often feel short-tempered. While my husband and I do think it will be in the best interest of our child to give him a sibling someday, I often wonder how I will be able to manage doing this roller coaster all over again. I've been told that I probably feel this way as I had a long and rough delivery with my baby that took me months to recover from, the baby had some initial health issues with a dairy allergy (however, this has been resolved with his Nutramagen formula). Also, I get told that the fact that my husband and I do not have any family help where we live is probably playing a part in how I feel about everything. However, I often wonder how true it is that having family help would make a difference in feeling less burnt out? At the end of the day, your child is your child and they are your responsibility, right? For those who do have family support where you live, do you feel burnt out or like you were able to actually recover much quicker from childbirth and feel slightly more balanced? I'm sincerely curious about this.
Also, as the new year approaches I've been thinking about how I want this year to be different (naturally). While 2014 was all about the birth of my son and one I'll never forget, it was honestly a very difficult year and one I'll be happy to put behind me. I really want 2015 to be a happier year overall. I don't want to feel so stressed out anymore and I want to just feel healthy and not like I'm simply trying to survive my everyday life.
Anyways, not sure where I'm going with this rant, but I guess I just needed to put my thoughts into writing and see if hopefully I'm not feeling alone. Thank you for listening.
Re: Please tell me I'm not alone in feeling this way
I realize it's a personal choice and not for everyone, but have you considered sleep training? I would strongly suggest you check out the thread. A lot of good tips and support in there!
I hope 2015 is a great year for you! Hang in there, mama!
My baby does not STTN, she doesn't sleep longer than 2 hours at a time and sucks on my boobs all night long. Starting sleep training very soon because I can't keep this up much longer.
My MIL comes on Sundays to watch him so I can go to yoga and my mom comes Wednesday mornings so I can run errands. It helps, but 4 hours off a week do not make up for the complete lack of sleep. I haven't slept 3 hours in a row in months - that's just not healthy! And I can feel my body giving up on me by the day. You know that tired headache thing with pain behind your eyes you get when you're really exhausted? I wake up like that and then down some advil so I can function. That headache is my constant brain state. Now add a whiney baby (whiney all the time becuase he doesn't sleep enough/ properly).
Anyway, you aren't the only one! I'm pretty much burnt out all the time and we're definitely one and done since I hate being a mom so far. Everyone says it get better, I'm sure it does. But I'm not willing to spend another 7+ months (who knows when it will get better for us) being miserable for whatever the "better" is. Doesn't seem worth the trade off, especially considering the rough delivery my son had to endure. There is NO WAY I'm doing this again. Ever.
1st BFP-8/17/12! Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13! Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By early June, progesterone plummeting. Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14
1st BFP-8/17/12! Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13! Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By early June, progesterone plummeting. Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14
I found that in the middle of the night, I was immediately going I to P's room as soon as I heard him fuss. Usually I would put him in bed with me and nurse. I started giving him a few minutes when I first heard him and found that 50% of the time he would put himself back to sleep. For the other 50% (after 5-10 of letting him fuss), I would go in and make sure he had his paci and that he was warm (readjust jammies, blankie). After a week or so of this, he just started staying asleep for 10 hours. It has been magic. Obviously every baby is different, but just wanted to share my experience.