So apparently Im pregnant - 17(?) weeks - HELP

Ipaddletoo · December 2014

So, I have had irregular periods, forever. I can go MONTHS without one. Normally I will just take a pregnancy text every couple of months to put my mind at ease.

Well, I have been trying to exercise and lose weight and have only been gaining. Also, this week, my nipples started leaking. I have had odd mild cramps in my lower abdomen for a few weeks and have just been expecting my period to start.
This morning on my way to work I bought a pregnancy test and took it here. It was positive almost instantly. i havent had a period since August, nor taken a test. So I could be THAT far along.

I have a good paying job, but no insurance. I just missed the deadline to sign up for it.
My husband is currently out of work. I need to get this checked out, but I dont know where, or how much it will cost me or anything.

How do I explain to my family that Im this far along and had no idea?
What is my husband going to think?? Especially if Im that far along. We were split up for a couple of months and are just got back together 2 months ago. I know its his because he is the only person in my LIFE that I have had unprotected sex with. But what if he doesnt believe me?

We always wanted a kid, but the timing is so wrong. And I really wish I would have known sooner so that I could start taking the write vitamins and taking better care of myself.

I have so many questions and no idea where to begin.

ipumpkin · December 2014

Ipaddletoo said:

So, I have had irregular periods, forever. I can go MONTHS without one. Normally I will just take a pregnancy text every couple of months to put my mind at ease.

Well, I have been trying to exercise and lose weight and have only been gaining. Also, this week, my nipples started leaking. I have had odd mild cramps in my lower abdomen for a few weeks and have just been expecting my period to start.
This morning on my way to work I bought a pregnancy test and took it here. It was positive almost instantly. i havent had a period since August, nor taken a test. So I could be THAT far along.

I have a good paying job, but no insurance. I just missed the deadline to sign up for it.
My husband is currently out of work. I need to get this checked out, but I dont know where, or how much it will cost me or anything.

How do I explain to my family that Im this far along and had no idea?
What is my husband going to think?? Especially if Im that far along. We were split up for a couple of months and are just got back together 2 months ago. I know its his because he is the only person in my LIFE that I have had unprotected sex with. But what if he doesnt believe me?

We always wanted a kid, but the timing is so wrong. And I really wish I would have known sooner so that I could start taking the write vitamins and taking better care of myself.

I have so many questions and no idea where to begin.

Start by calling a doctor and setting up an appointment.

Second, get a pregnancy book

Third, read it

Fourth, relax. It'll all fall into place. You got a long 9 months ahead, so you have time to get everything situated.

As for H, I can't suggest anything there. Sorry.

delujm0 · December 2014

Regarding the lack of insurance, look into whether there is a Planned Parenthood or similar clinic near you. They can offer prenatal advice and testing for little or no cost.

Also look into health insurance NOW. I'm not sure if pregnancy can be considered a preexisting condition but if it can you need to start saving. If your work offers insurance why didn't you sign up for it? Even if you weren't pregnant it's kind of crazy to opt to not have health insurance when it is offered to you by your employer.

janda426 · December 2014

There are always free clinics for pregnant women. In my area we have something called charity care that covers you the entire pregnancy. Find the clinic nearest you and get an appointment ASAP.

Your H shouldn't be surprised or mad at you, if you've been having unprotected sex. You have nothing to explain as he was just as much a part of this as you.

As for the comment above, she may be halfway through the pregnancy. She may not have anywhere close to 9 months.

It is crucial you start getting prenatal care ASAP.

Ipaddletoo · December 2014

Thanks guys, I am looking up clinics now.

charlie+7 · December 2014

Our timing wasn't right either. OH has no job and I'd decided to start my own business 8 months ago and I'm just building up my hours! So pregnancy wasn't ideal but we are just dealing with it all the best we can. Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck with everything.

samiamagirl · December 2014

I definitely agree with PPs. Get an appointment with a doctor or a clinic ASAP. You may find out you're not as far along as 17 weeks, especially if your periods are irregular (you may tend to ovulate pretty late).

Once you have that first appointment set up, start looking into insurance options.

Don't worry about what your family is going to say- you just take care of you and that LO right now. Their reactions will be what they are and I'm pretty sure after baby arrives everyone will be too overjoyed to worry about you "not knowing you were pregnant."

HStrawberry · December 2014

I had a very similar experience. I was coming off a 3 month birth control and was told it could take up to a year to get back on a monthly schedule. I had zero pregnancy symptoms and wasn't worried when I didn't have a period for 3+ months (as it was expected so close to coming off bc). I took a test since I puked randomly and the girls at work kept teasing me. Turns out I was 16ish weeks. I didn't have an ultrasound until 21 since they book so far in advance here so the due date could be out by up to 10 days.

I've been very lucky and have had no complications. It was really nice to be able to tell people right away (I would have waited until in the second tri). The whole pregnancy has gone so fast, I've really enjoyed not having to wait so long to meet our baby (only 2 weeks left until the due date!). I'm in Canada so can't really help with insurance. Good luck!

KonaCoffeeBean · December 2014

Get private insurance, now.

SarahDawn725 · December 2014

You may qualify for Medicaid

thehills1983 · December 2014

Ipaddletoo said:

So, I have had irregular periods, forever. I can go MONTHS without one. Normally I will just take a pregnancy text every couple of months to put my mind at ease.

Well, I have been trying to exercise and lose weight and have only been gaining. Also, this week, my nipples started leaking. I have had odd mild cramps in my lower abdomen for a few weeks and have just been expecting my period to start.
This morning on my way to work I bought a pregnancy test and took it here. It was positive almost instantly. i havent had a period since August, nor taken a test. So I could be THAT far along.

I have a good paying job, but no insurance. I just missed the deadline to sign up for it.
My husband is currently out of work. I need to get this checked out, but I dont know where, or how much it will cost me or anything.

How do I explain to my family that Im this far along and had no idea?
What is my husband going to think?? Especially if Im that far along. We were split up for a couple of months and are just got back together 2 months ago. I know its his because he is the only person in my LIFE that I have had unprotected sex with. But what if he doesnt believe me?

We always wanted a kid, but the timing is so wrong. And I really wish I would have known sooner so that I could start taking the write vitamins and taking better care of myself.

I have so many questions and no idea where to begin.

OP, what is your deal? In your previous post on Dec 8th on this board you said you were pregnant. The bolded above says you had not taken a test since this morning. Also the 2nd bolded statement conflicts what you said in your first post.

Here's the deal, nobody here can give you good advice if you aren't being straightforward. In your previous post you had many people tell you to go see a Dr, and you still have not, knowing that you've been pregnant for three weeks, to me that is irresponsible.

Go see a doctor ASAP, tell your husband the truth and deal with the consequences. At this point it's not all about you it's also about the baby you are having.

KonaCoffeeBean · December 2014

SarahDawn725 said:

You may qualify for Medicaid

Possibly... But she says she has a "good" paying job, so probably not. Depends on what her definition of good pay is, I suppose.

itsrandiyo · December 2014

Ummm OP, really. Do you not know that people can see previous posts you've posted? This post is a complete lie, or according to your other post it is.

niknak1208 · December 2014

First, breathe. Freakimg out won't help.

Second, tell your hubby. All you can do is be honest. He will probably be as surprised as you are but you have to tell him.

Third, call your doctor. You need to have prenatal care.

Insurance- check the marketplace. There's no pre-existing and premiums are supposed to be affordable.

nurserachel22 · January 2015

thedish0207 said:
I'm confused on the health insurance front, how do you not have it? It's been required in the US since the beginning of 2014 (right?). You'd be fined if you don't have it, from what I understand. Are you outside of the US?

I would definitely start with going to a Planned Parenthood or clinic and get on track with your prenatal care.

Good luck!

I think the fine is only 95 bucks... But is higher each year. But since she's lying, I guess we won't worry about it!

CNYBride05 · January 2015

Posted on Dec 8th

"Soo... I just found out Im pregnant, via at home test. I have been on birth control consistently for years. My period has always been out of whack on it. Well, I got the last one in August, and I was starting to worry so last night I took a test to 'put my mind at ease', then 3 more, all positive like INSTANTLY. A lot of good that did.

My husband and I separated back in May and have now been talking about getting back together and possibly starting a family if things continue working out. Odds are, this isnt his kid. If I really conceived after my last period I am 14-15 weeks pregnant. I drink, I smoke, I eat constant junk.

So Im so worried that I have done tons of damage to this baby with out even knowing it was there.

I dont know if my husband and I can patch things up if I am carrying someone elses child. How would I even tell him that?

I also dont know if Florida allows abortions after the first trimester.... So that may not even be an option.

I'm kind of freaking out here. Any help/advice is GREATLY appreciated."

So either you are lying now or you were lying then. Either way, there is something really wrong with you to lie about this kind of stuff. Get a life.

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nursej519 · January 2015

Wow, OP... How did you go from "this likely isn't his kid" to "he is the only guy I have ever been with"? Sounds like you need to get your facts straight and soon, before you bring a child into this works, involving them into your crazy life.

ipumpkin · January 2015

nursej519 said:

Wow, OP... How did you go from "this likely isn't his kid" to "he is the only guy I have ever been with"? Sounds like you need to get your facts straight and soon, before you bring a child into this works, involving them into your crazy life.

H is the only one she has "unprotected sex" with. If we're going by the OP. BUT, based off contradicting post history, I don't believe shit she says.

SMH

staciecoffey · January 2015

Can I just say, WHAT THE FUCK?! So at first you say it's most likely not your husbands child than all of the sudden he's the only person you've ever had unprotected sex with? There is a flaw in your story there darling. Either way you need to tell him and be honest, possibly look into paternity tests on top of getting health insurance. Pregnancy is expensive even with health insurance.

melissam2cute · January 2015

WEIRD!!!!!

laurendemi · January 2015

I will never understand why people lie about this stuff. How boring must their lives be?

taahira · January 2015

I'm guessing she/he will not come back now to defend her posts. :-q

beemaya83 · January 2015

genepoolperfect said:
I would check with your HR dept about the health insurance. Some companies allow for a special enrollment period based on a "Qualifying Life Event".

This!! Check with your HR for options!