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Just want everyones opinions
thay33
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So, as many of you remember how I feel about my in laws, keep that in mind as I tell this story...
My husband has a older brother who has a girlfriend, they together have a 3 year old son. The girlfriend has NOT gone back on BC since they've had their son. Anyway, before we had gotten pregnant people would ask if she wanted another kid, she would always say "no we have no money" or "no I don't even love him" or "you have to have sex to have another kid" *side note* MH brother cheated on her 3 years ago and when they met up with each other again she immediately got pregnant with their now son. ANYWAY! I am now 18 + weeks pregnant. & on Christmas she kept saying "oh by the way I'm late" or "well this will fit me in a few months if I'm pregnant" but then she would keep saying she was joking. at first I didn't care... I can't stand MHs messed up family as it is so because she would have the newest baby, the attention would go on her and then they can all just get on a big boat out of my life... But the look on my husbands face... It tore my heart apart. Later that day when we went home MH was complaining about it. He would say stuff like "THEY HAD 3 YEARS AND THEY CHOSE NOW!?" Or "I can't stand that attention hogging b*tch"... I think he just really wanted his parents to of course be proud of him... His parents are obsessed AND I MEAN OBSESSED with their grandson, which is not a bad thing, BUT... I think he was hoping for the same attention for our son. As they've already expressed how they are upset it's a boy and they hate the name we chose. It just goes on & on with them, and I believe he hoped it would go away once they held my newborn baby which im sure I would. So very long story short (sorry) how should I react to this? I didn't even know what to say to him or how to react. I was just heartbroken by him being heartbroken I was kind of speechless. Any suggestions on how to comfort him or if I should say something to the girlfriend? I feel pregnancy is a blessing no matter what but I can't help but feel bad that my husband is upset with her maybe being pregnant?
ETA: I spelled stuff wrong
My husband has a older brother who has a girlfriend, they together have a 3 year old son. The girlfriend has NOT gone back on BC since they've had their son. Anyway, before we had gotten pregnant people would ask if she wanted another kid, she would always say "no we have no money" or "no I don't even love him" or "you have to have sex to have another kid" *side note* MH brother cheated on her 3 years ago and when they met up with each other again she immediately got pregnant with their now son. ANYWAY! I am now 18 + weeks pregnant. & on Christmas she kept saying "oh by the way I'm late" or "well this will fit me in a few months if I'm pregnant" but then she would keep saying she was joking. at first I didn't care... I can't stand MHs messed up family as it is so because she would have the newest baby, the attention would go on her and then they can all just get on a big boat out of my life... But the look on my husbands face... It tore my heart apart. Later that day when we went home MH was complaining about it. He would say stuff like "THEY HAD 3 YEARS AND THEY CHOSE NOW!?" Or "I can't stand that attention hogging b*tch"... I think he just really wanted his parents to of course be proud of him... His parents are obsessed AND I MEAN OBSESSED with their grandson, which is not a bad thing, BUT... I think he was hoping for the same attention for our son. As they've already expressed how they are upset it's a boy and they hate the name we chose. It just goes on & on with them, and I believe he hoped it would go away once they held my newborn baby which im sure I would. So very long story short (sorry) how should I react to this? I didn't even know what to say to him or how to react. I was just heartbroken by him being heartbroken I was kind of speechless. Any suggestions on how to comfort him or if I should say something to the girlfriend? I feel pregnancy is a blessing no matter what but I can't help but feel bad that my husband is upset with her maybe being pregnant?
ETA: I spelled stuff wrong
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Re: Just want everyones opinions
I'm sorry to hear your husband is so upset about it. It's your first baby though, and their possible second. I don't think your husbands family's love and attention will be taken away from your sweet one.
Enjoy your pregnancy and don't waste your energy stressing on this! :-)
My boyfriends parents are awful. They are both always drunk or on drugs and only call him when they need something, his aunts and uncles are very into themselves and don't really care much about anyone else...his brother is his best friend and only amazing family member he has and I am so thankful for him. After meeting his family and seeing how they acted we had a long talk about it. I told him that it's his family and if he wanted to spend the holidays and other major events with them then I would support him 100%, but I would also be open to celebrating with just our loved ones and creating new traditions with our family and he chose that and he's always happy. Last year (along with every other) we invited his whole family to our 3 year old birthday party. They all confirmed they were coming and bringing there kids so we rented a huge bounce house and slide...there should have been about 12-15 kids...none of his family showed up...nothing more heartbreaking then watching him cry when his son would ask "when are my cousins coming daddy"...knowing they arent!
Dealing with a spouses family acting negative all the time is really hard. I would suggest just sitting down with him and talking through everything and letting him know you support him and whatever he wants to do regarding his family.
I honestly sometimes wonder how such a wonderful man (my BF) came out of such a screwed up family lol