TTC After a Loss

=====Tuesday Crazy Train=====

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Feel free to chime in, offer hugs, give your interpretation of a chart stalk and share your knowledge!

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This is a thread posted daily for any of us who need to get out our frustrations about waiting to O, the 2WW, or vent about our cycles.

If you find yourself checking FF obsessively, MF is getting the best of you, or you just want to pee on all things, let it out here! In order for the conductors to be better able to help you, please make sure you either have a FF chart link in your sig, or make sure you post a link.

Don't chart? You should consider it, not only will it give you a lot more insight to your cycles, but conductors will be able to answer a lot of your questions just by looking at your chart!

To learn more about charting, check out the charting course that FF offers:https://www.fertilityfriend.com/courses/

The CT is not the place to post a BFP. If you have a "squinter" or if you have a line that appeared after the time frame, please do not post about it here. Take a step back from the board, test again with FMU, and good luck!

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Don't forget to punch your ticket and complete the questions below!


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Crazy level from 1-10:

CD/DPO:

Can I just ______ already?!:

Signs/Symptoms:

Explain your Crazy here:


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Re: =====Tuesday Crazy Train=====

  • Crazy level from 1-10: 6

    CD/DPO:2dpo maybe?

    Can I just ______ already?!:fast forward

    Signs/Symptoms: nada

    Explain your Crazy here:

    Can you just reassure me that although not perfect our timing this cycle doesn't automatically mean we are out? Dh had a breakdown yesterday - he cried and cried and cried. We had a huge talk and we've just been off and really feeling the length of this journey which was magnified by the holidays. I really feel for him and I don't know what to do ya know? I can't tell him things will be okay because I don't know they will be. We really didn't "power through" FW this cycle. We just sort of did our thing and if the mood struck we BDed. He's been really down, I've been really down and combined we ended up with 0-1 and 0-3 assuming that my OPKs did what they were supposed to.


    I got another positive OPK yesterday morning - it was SMU and I hadn't had very many liquids so I'm wondering if the positive was the result of concentrated urine. By last night my OPK was very negative again.



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  • furrypaws said:

    Hey Bug! ((hugs)) PC...it sucks dipping into those down times.

    Crazy level from 1-10: 5

    CD/DPO: 27/11

    Can I just ______ already?!: Go get more sticks to pee on??

    Signs/Symptoms: I've been sick with the flu so not sure if my tender boobies are just tender because my whole body has been aching. I'm much better but still am somewhat fatigued and still have a sore throat. :-1:

    Explain your Crazy here: I keep POAS and keep getting BFNs...but my brain knows it could still be too early. Last Pg I didn't get a positive until 17DPO. I guess I'm just holding onto the tid bit of hope I have for this cycle. Charty Linky: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4e7f4a

    FX you feel better soon. Being sick sucks :(

    Also, so many ((hugs)). FX the next few days bring you answers one way or another soon. How long is your LP?
  • Crazy level from 1-10: 6

    CD/DPO:2dpo maybe?

    Can I just ______ already?!:fast forward

    Signs/Symptoms: nada

    Explain your Crazy here:

    Can you just reassure me that although not perfect our timing this cycle doesn't automatically mean we are out? Dh had a breakdown yesterday - he cried and cried and cried. We had a huge talk and we've just been off and really feeling the length of this journey which was magnified by the holidays. I really feel for him and I don't know what to do ya know? I can't tell him things will be okay because I don't know they will be. We really didn't "power through" FW this cycle. We just sort of did our thing and if the mood struck we BDed. He's been really down, I've been really down and combined we ended up with 0-1 and 0-3 assuming that my OPKs did what they were supposed to.


    I got another positive OPK yesterday morning - it was SMU and I hadn't had very many liquids so I'm wondering if the positive was the result of concentrated urine. By last night my OPK was very negative again.





    Your timing is wonderful. Didn't Red once post that o-1 was statistically the best? You know I'm a big advocate for taking away scheduled sex and the forced we must have sex now attitude that most people get during FW. If you are having sex every 3 days or so you will statistically have a chance.

    Yesterday's OPK could be a false positive. My RE was adamant that this could occur when testing in the AM because you get all of the built up LH from the day before.

    You and your H need to take care of each other. And you can tell him things will be okay if you both recognize that okay includes a few different options on how things turn out.

    Lots of ((((hugs)))))

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  • furrypaws said:

    Hey Bug! ((hugs)) PC...it sucks dipping into those down times.

    Crazy level from 1-10: 5

    CD/DPO: 27/11

    Can I just ______ already?!: Go get more sticks to pee on??

    Signs/Symptoms: I've been sick with the flu so not sure if my tender boobies are just tender because my whole body has been aching. I'm much better but still am somewhat fatigued and still have a sore throat. :-1:

    Explain your Crazy here: I keep POAS and keep getting BFNs...but my brain knows it could still be too early. Last Pg I didn't get a positive until 17DPO. I guess I'm just holding onto the tid bit of hope I have for this cycle. Charty Linky: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4e7f4a

    It's still really early to test and with dotted CHs you may be off by a day or two.

    I hope you get feeling better soon and sore boobs are always a good sign!

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  • I'm on the train today and am now a solid 9.0 of crazy. I'm only reserving the last bit because I know it will get worse.

    I'm 8dpo today and got a bfn this am (which I expected.) my LPs are usually 10 days so wishful thinking I guess. I think riding the train and holding all the rest of you on here with me helps a teeny tiny bit. So huge hugs @furrypaws and again @PinkCamino‌ and to everyone else who punches in today!

    Do I need to get the chart out? Odds of a positiveon 8 dpo is very, very low. Hang in there and wait to test again until Thursday!

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  • Just popping in to give @PinkCamino‌ some hugs. I know how hard it is to be in a position where you need to console DH but not really knowing how. It's so easy to lose yourselves on this journey... But don't lose hope. I know it's important for self preservation to not say the buzzwords "it'll all be ok"... But at the end of the day, you guys have each other and no loss or struggle TTC can take that away. I often have to remind myself of this, so I hope you don't take this the wrong way! I know it doesn't fix the situation, or even necessarily make it easier to go through, but I know for me, I have used our relationship as a distraction for TTCAL when i or MH reach crisis level with this stuff; grabbing a date night here or there, etc. It's a battle to not let loss consume you, and it's a god damn war not to let trying again eat you alive. Keep your head up, lady. Thinking of you.
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    husbter's a 38 y/o smarty pants phD/me? a 27 y/o cat lady extraordinaire
    & we're missing our darling barnacles:
    May 2014 loss @ 9 weeks, MMC, no hb found at first appointment | edd dec 4 2014
    October 2014 loss @ 12 weeks, MMC measuring 10w after hearing hb @ 8w | edd apr 15, 2015
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  • @buggirl72‌ you are wise. I know. Like no chance on 8dpo.

    But as @furrypaws said.........

    I'm totally going to poas tomorrow. I can lie and say I'll try not to. Maybe if it wasn't NYE. That can be my excuse.

    I'm totally for peeing on all things - that's why wondfos exist. As a CT conductor I feel obligated to not feed the crazy >-)

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  • Crazy level from 1-10: 6

    CD/DPO:2dpo maybe?

    Can I just ______ already?!:fast forward

    Signs/Symptoms: nada

    Explain your Crazy here:

    Can you just reassure me that although not perfect our timing this cycle doesn't automatically mean we are out? Dh had a breakdown yesterday - he cried and cried and cried. We had a huge talk and we've just been off and really feeling the length of this journey which was magnified by the holidays. I really feel for him and I don't know what to do ya know? I can't tell him things will be okay because I don't know they will be. We really didn't "power through" FW this cycle. We just sort of did our thing and if the mood struck we BDed. He's been really down, I've been really down and combined we ended up with 0-1 and 0-3 assuming that my OPKs did what they were supposed to.


    I got another positive OPK yesterday morning - it was SMU and I hadn't had very many liquids so I'm wondering if the positive was the result of concentrated urine. By last night my OPK was very negative again.




    I am so sorry you are going through this. Hugs to you. Keep being as strong as you can and then your DH will be there for you. Take your shifts in turns. That's all you can do to get through this time together. We were never meant to be alone on this journey.
  • @PinkCamino‌ , that's great timing for us, since we rarely have more than EOD sex in the fertile window anyways. Hugs.

    Crazy level from 1-10: 7

    CD/DPO: 13.

    Can I just ______ already?!: confirm ovulation

    Signs/Symptoms: my cm is definitely egg white now, and typically I would get a positive opk. But there is barely a hint of a second line on my opks. I've taken a few just in case it was a bad one. So it's either a bad batch, or my body is f'ing with me. I've never had my body gear up and not ovulate, so I'm thinking maybe these opks suck. Luckily I'm tempting, so it'll be confirmed either way. It's still early for me anyhow, so FX I ovulate in the next few days, and DH can keep up with EOD.

    Explain your Crazy here: oops, see above!

    DD 15.07.2012

    BFP #2 01.18.2014, MMC 04.10.2014 15w5d

    BFP #3 07.18.2014, MC 07.31.2014 5w6d

    DX: RPL due to submucosal uterine fibroid. Hysteroscopy 12/16. All clear!

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  • Crazy level: 9

    CD: 4

    Can I just____ already? O...on exactly the 7th...

    Signs/symptoms: nothing

    Explain your crazy: going to be staying on the living room floor at my dads, no chance for anything until the day after my predicted O...I'm supposed to be NTNP but how do I go from a "trying" mindset to that? I don't even know Lol I guess I'm just gonna keep the final decision up to the man.
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  • LauraO11 said:

    @PinkCamino‌ , that's great timing for us, since we rarely have more than EOD sex in the fertile window anyways. Hugs.

    Crazy level from 1-10: 7

    CD/DPO: 13.

    Can I just ______ already?!: confirm ovulation

    Signs/Symptoms: my cm is definitely egg white now, and typically I would get a positive opk. But there is barely a hint of a second line on my opks. I've taken a few just in case it was a bad one. So it's either a bad batch, or my body is f'ing with me. I've never had my body gear up and not ovulate, so I'm thinking maybe these opks suck. Luckily I'm tempting, so it'll be confirmed either way. It's still early for me anyhow, so FX I ovulate in the next few days, and DH can keep up with EOD.

    Explain your Crazy here: oops, see above!


    Are you using wondfos? I don't know if it was posted here but when I was lurking on TTC apperently there are fake wondfos on amazon some where
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  • Puglife83Puglife83 member
    edited December 2014

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    Don't forget to punch your ticket and complete the questions below!


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    Crazy level from 1-10: 9.5

    CD/DPO: 7 dpo

    Can I just ______ already?!: test already ( waiting until at least 12dpo)

    Signs/Symptoms: I have been spotting and cramping since 3dpo. Idk what's going on. I spotted red when I Od and the. 3 days later started spotting pink . Hasn't stopped.

    Explain your Crazy here: every time I go to the bathroom I look after I wipe and I see a slight pink color and it's just driving me insane! I don't want to think anything of it.


    Me: 31 DH:28

    BFP: July 6 2014. Ectopic discovered at 7 weeks. TTC since February 2014





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