Announced pregnancy too early?

kjasc21 · December 2014

As soon as we found out we were expecting we wanted to share with family and close friends for Xmas day and they would've known something if I didn't drink.So around the 4-5 weeks mark, is this just too early to announce?

brittanihicks · December 2014

It's really up to you. I told my immediate family and juuuust a few close friends but I plan to announce it officially when I'm at least 12w. I'm only 5w right now

lacideshae5151 · December 2014

With my first baby I found out super early like not quit 4 weeks and I told everyone and I lost the baby about 7-8 weeks so my second time I told family and close friends early and told everyone else at 9 weeks. With this baby I told everyone around 7 weeks. It's personal preference. But just know the possible outcomes and think of it that way. Would you like everyone knowing if you miscarry or do you want to keep something like that private? If so I would at least wait a few more weeks. And if you're feeling ok and dr says everything is fine then I would announce it.

ShellyR · December 2014

Since Christmas Day has come and gone, it seems like you probably already told them which cannot be undone. No sense in having regrets about it.

MarathonHiker · December 2014

^ that. You already announced, so I'm not sure what you're asking. It's really a personal decision on when to announce and everyone does it at different times! Some have already done so and others will wait many months.

I've already told parents, in-laws, siblings and BFF. The rest of the world will wait until around 12 or so weeks.

kjasc21 · December 2014

Thanks ladies feeling a lot better knowing different point of views. We only told our close family and a close friend the rest of the world will know at 12 weeks

ellebxo26 · December 2014

I've also told everyone at 5 weeks. We were just too excited to keep it to ourselves. Also, with my job(I'm a vet tech) I'm going to have to tell them before work on Monday morning because there are things at my job I will not be able to do. We've prepped ourselves since we told everyone early..but we're hoping for the best!

laxdixdar · December 2014

Many people knew we were finally going down the road for infertility... we found out we were pregnant the day we were supposed to start clomid. We couldn't help, but tell our close family right away. We officially told everyone else on Christmas eve, I was 8w4d.

While I had always planned keeping it a secret until 2nd trimester... it was much different when it was finally real. I was so happy to have support and people to talk to. So we have decided no matter what happens to any pregnancy, we will celebrate while we can and embrace our family and their support throughout.

I manage a small facility and have told the 4 girls I work with in it, but I will not tell my bosses at HQ until I go over their Jan 8th for my evaluation. My drs appts have become chaotic and they need to know at this point. PTO every week probably has them wondering anyway.

luna0803 · December 2014

Every family dynamic is so different, and when to tell is such a personal decision. I told my mom immediately (3w5d) because I tell her everything and would be able to lean on her if anything happened. I told my stepdad the same day. We told his parents at 4 weeks because his mom had several losses and, again, we could lean on them if anything happened. I haven't told my dad and stepmom yet and won't until I have my ultrasound. That's also when I will tell grandparents and close extended family members. A lot of my coworkers know because of some safety issues with pregnancy and my job. The rest of the world will know around 13 weeks...we are planning a Valentine's Day announcement.

katehenton623 · December 2014

We didn't tell hardly anyone last time and the I miscarried and no one understood why I was suddenly depressed. This time we started telling people right away because we wanted people to be able to share in the joy and not be insensitive if something happened. I think it's a personal decision. Whenever you want to tell, just do it.

ancp27 · December 2014

With my son I waited until I was about 6 weeks to tell my parents, 12-13 weeks until I told my family and 24 weeks when we told the world. This time I told my family when I found out and some friends and more family when I was around 8 weeks. I am not sure if I'm going to announce on facebook yet, if I do it will be around 24 weeks again.

soulpilot · December 2014

Best advice I heard: if you're comfortable sharing the news of miscarriage then you should tell family and close friends whenever you feel comfortable doing so. We shared our news at 9 weeks because we wanted it to be in person and the holiday made it convenient.

traepiece · December 2014

We told close family and friends when we found out around 4.5 weeks. Wanted to tell only a few people that we would feel comfortable explaining a miscarriage to (god forbid if that happens). Will tell everyone else about 12 weeks. It's a personal preference. I like the idea of having some support now so figured close family and close friends were good to tell.

Jenkayb · December 2014

This is a personal decision. I have only told people who I would be comfortable telling if something happens. I think that's the general rule of thumb. No one can really answer this for you.

cuebaby15 · December 2014

Originally we were going to announce it to everyone Christmas Day however DH announced it to his whole family at his mothers birthday celebration December 12 sooooo it was only fair to tell my side that weekend also . We did wait and announce it to our children on Christmas Day since that was one of their requested Christmas gifts. I'm 9 weeks today

mrslampert · December 2014

The best response I've heard to this type question is "Who would you be comfortable telling a loss about?"

I know my close friends and family would be very sensitive, understanding and supportive if we did have a loss. But, I work for a VERY large company. There are people I talk with, but don't socialize with. I don't want to have to face that every day if it came to it.

Who you tell and when is really a personal decision. Like others have said, it's past Christmas so my response is probably a moot point.

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