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In case you're bored, interesting WWYD

Emerald27Emerald27 member
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Hi all! Sorry I've been pretty much MIA for the past several days. Been crazy busy with holiday goings on (and having everyone sick!). I'm going to try to catch up on all I've missed.

So here's a question I have for you ladies. Saw this post in my newsfeed on FB, which already had nearly 100 comments, and they were all over the place; tell! don't tell! none of your business! if it was my husband I'd want you to tell!

So here I ask O'14...What would YOU do if this happened to you?

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  • pnwlover12pnwlover12 member
    I'd probably say something to their respective partners if I was 100% positive it was them and I knew them well. If they were just acquaintances I'd mind my own business and not say anything.





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    Emerald27 said:

    pnwlover12 said:

    I'd probably say something to their respective partners if I was 100% positive it was them and I knew them well. If they were just acquaintances I'd mind my own business and not say anything.

    They're close, longtime friends. In the comments this girl said that the woman is texting her non-stop afraid she'll tell. She also said that she wasn't sure what to do so she stammered a "hello. Great to see you guys." and jumped into the elevator...

    I should mention that this was posted in a secret group so it's not like she put it on her wall and her friends are all wondering if it's their spouses: lol!
    Well shit. This changes it for me. If it were my BFF I caught, I wouldn't tell her husband, but I would if I caught him with another person. I know it's a double standard, I guess I would just feel that my loyalty goes to my friend and not her H.





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  • ishknitsishknits member
    I would say something, but I like justice and drama!
    In reality... My mom is dating her married neighbor (whose kids we grew up with as bffs) and I haven't said a word to anyone even though I fucking can't stand it
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    sweetadeline31 said:

    Ugh. If it were a close friend that was having an affair I would ask them what's going on and would probably encourage them to communicate with their partner about issues that are leading them to stray. Basically, encourage them to be honest with him/herself and their significant other. If a close friends partner was cheating I feel like I would tell...but probably after asking some probing questions about how their marriage was going. If the friends were more acquaintances I would probably stay out of it.

    I like this approach. Hold your cheating friends accountable and tell them you expect them to be honest with their spouses.
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  • cmac6186cmac6186 member
    pnwlover12 said:

    Emerald27 said:

    pnwlover12 said:

    I'd probably say something to their respective partners if I was 100% positive it was them and I knew them well. If they were just acquaintances I'd mind my own business and not say anything.

    They're close, longtime friends. In the comments this girl said that the woman is texting her non-stop afraid she'll tell. She also said that she wasn't sure what to do so she stammered a "hello. Great to see you guys." and jumped into the elevator...

    I should mention that this was posted in a secret group so it's not like she put it on her wall and her friends are all wondering if it's their spouses: lol!
    Well shit. This changes it for me. If it were my BFF I caught, I wouldn't tell her husband, but I would if I caught him with another person. I know it's a double standard, I guess I would just feel that my loyalty goes to my friend and not her H.
    This. Thanks for putting it into words for me!
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  • Dani0329Dani0329 member
    This would be tough for me! I had a friend that was just dating a guy for a few years, and found out he had slept with several of our mutual friends. I told her about it and was ostracized for a while until said friend was ready to accept the information.

    So I guess in this situation, if friend came to me I would try to encourage/guilt them into telling. I wouldn't rat out my BFF. If it were the husband caught, I'd only tell of she was hinting at it.

     
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  • MrsL2BMrsL2B member
    I probably only have one or two friends I would tell, just because I know that they would want to know based on prior experience. But in general I like to mind my own business.Some people are happier not knowing, and some people are happier being in denial. 
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  • SaragoeswestSaragoeswest member
    I think it would really depend on my relationship with the people involved. I like @sweetadeline31‌ 's approach. Confront the guilty party and get them to be honest. If I were really really close to the friend being cheated on, yes I would tell them if their spouse refused to.
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    MonstoMommy said:

    I think it would depend on my friend. For example, I have a friend whone husband cheated on her quite publicly, kicked her out of the house, and moved his girlfriend into their home. He wanted a divorce, my friend didn't. Eventually, he took her back. She forgave him and decided it didn't matter that he moved some woman into their home with their children while she lived in her parent's basement. A few months later I found out he was still seeing the girlfriend. I didn't tell my friend because she had made it clear that she wanted to be married to him no matter what. She recently found out he was still seeing the girlfriend. He wants a divorce still, she still doesn't. It's sad. But I think I would tell most of my other friends. I would want to know, so I generally assume other women would want to know as well.

    Whoa. How could you want to stay married to someone who doesn't love you and who disrespects you enough to do those things??? He must have some incredibly amazing redeeming quality/qualities...
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