So, I have been ready to try for a while, but there was always a reason why we couldn’t – debt, career, couldn’t afford it..etc. Now, we are FINALLY at the point where we can afford it and are excited about it. (!!) My husband is a great man. He is considerate and loving, he helps with all the chores, and he is a funny guy. He is terrified that he is going to disappoint me when he have a child, and says he loves our relationship and is afraid a child is going to come between us. Any advice on how I soothe his fears…unti la baby comes and he can see that we are going to be a great team as we are parenting just as we are now. We have been together for 9 years and married for 4.
Re: TTC - Husband Fears
I think keeping an open communication with each other is helpful. It's important to know others are feeling nervous or confused. Do you have any close male friends/family that have recently become parents? Talking to them may be a great help to him as well.
I can see how a child could come between a couple. Stress levels and self doubt are high. DH and I have said a lot of cruel things to each other during fights due to sheer exhaustion and stress. It's important to be honest and take time for your relationship. Good luck!