WWYD Christmas gathering

sabby2 · December 2014

We are taking DD to a large (40 ish people) family gathering on Christmas. A lot of my family hasn't seen her much and I know they will want to pass her around.

I'm a little paranoid because Influenza A and croup have been diagnosed in our area. My cousins' kids have been sick too. A couple had hand, foot, and mouth and a couple others had 102 or higher fevers for a few days.

Should I just be crazy mom and wear her?

angeltennis3 · December 2014

You aren't crazy for wearing her!

Our Christmas gathering isn't that large, but I told DH if someone is sick they will not be touching DD. We can use diaper changes, or she needs a nap, etc, as excuses to take her back. I told him we have to be insistent if someone argues with us, otherwise we will be leaving.

I also plan to use hand and face wipes on DD frequently (at minimum with every diaper change) to help with germs. I also have no qualms telling someone to wash their hands before holding DD even if they appear healthy.

Emerald27 · December 2014

I would definitely have baby in the carrier! You are not crazy. :-bd

CNJ4EVA · December 2014

I would require handwashing or sanitizing for anyone holding her. If anyone is exhibiting symptoms, I would have no problem prohibiting them from holding baby. Certainly, your family will recognize those parameters as reasonable.

Personally, I wouldn't completely restrict contact, but you may get a lot of advice to do just that. Ultimately, you have to do what makes you comfortable.

persephonerose · December 2014

You aren't a crazy mom. I personally wouldn't take her at all. I am "that" crazy mom with the hand sanitizer for about the first year.

And no offense to your family but who the hell takes their sick, feverish kid to a holiday gathering.

meggiev123 · December 2014

I think I'd wear baby, but occasionally let people hold him if they're not sick and wash their hands first. But no, you're definitely not crazy!

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bumpuser10309732 · December 2014

Oh God, I'm dreading DH's family get together this weekend. They're catholic so he has 20+ cousins and 19 babies/kids on top of that. I think I'll just tell people I'm feeling stingy with my return to work this week. I don't think anyone will bug me about it. I really AM feeling stingy so it's not a lie. I hate that I have to share her all this week and weekend. I just might baby wear!

sabby2 · December 2014

@persephonerose‌ The same cousins who let their kid go to Sunday school with hand, foot, and mouth and weren't going to tell anyone that the kid had it.

victoria+james · December 2014

I just went to a big ornament exchange last night. I wore M 99% of the time and when I took him out of the carrier I only had one person even try to hold him. When I said I wasn't going to be passing him around quite yet she was very understanding and even commented that I was right there were lots of germs and it is flu season after all.

AmandaJean12 · December 2014

My Christmas will be 50+ and I'm a little paranoid too... But honestly my family would still ask to hold her if I was wearing her. And saying no seems too mean to me. I'm trying to just steer her clear of anyone with actual symptoms and keep my fingers crossed.

persephonerose · December 2014

@sabby2 UGH. I have a friend like that. Annoys the crap out of me and she sends her littlest to day care contagious. I just don't understand why you would do that to your kid and other people.

Klavanga74 · December 2014

I don't think it's at all unreasonable to wear her! I would!

Lindseyione · December 2014

Definitely bring sanitizer. I know it would upset people in my family if I wore LO the whole time and they couldn't hold her. I'm just going to make sure everyone washes their hands and no one who is sick or has been sick recently will be allowed around her.

Jesslynnsell · December 2014

I'm going to my inlaws Christmas get together without DH (he has to work). It is about 20 ppl and I plan on wearing him at least part of the time. Mine is less so about germs (although that is a concern) but more so about the fact that my in laws are crazy. It will piss off my FIL but I don't care.

You need to do what makes you comfortable. Everyone else should respect your wishes.

bsbaumann · December 2014

You aren't crazy. I wore my daughter at a much smaller gathering the other night because my husband and I decided ahead of time that we didn't want her passed around. We plan to do the same at a large Christmas gathering this weekend. No one is entitled to hold your baby. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't allow it. I don't care if people haven't met my daughter yet, if they aren't sick, etc., I just don't want her passed around. It grosses me out then feel like she needs a bath after!!

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