Babies who only want to be held...

alli65 · December 2014

For mamas whose LO only want to be held how are you handling this? I try to wear him in the moby and he is less than impressed. I cant get anything done. What have you been doing? Or find what works?

deevaswani · December 2014

Not 24/7 but there are a lot of times when LO just wants to be held. I'm very short (5'0") so carriers don't feel comfortable...So I just hold her. I've learned to do many things with one free arm/hand.

AnnieRoo13 · December 2014

Honestly I use my Boba wrap for this. I find he struggles a bit at first, but then settles down and relaxes. Sort of like being swaddled.

soulcupcake · December 2014

I hold/wear her. A lot of babies prefer being close to their primary caregiver. My older girls were the same way. I don't mind it at all. If I have to do something I get one of my older kids to hold or watch her. Sometimes she'll go in the RnP for a little bit while I do a few things, but most house stuff can be accomplished by wearing or holding her. After having two velcro babies before I have nearly mastered doing things one-handed or with my free hand/arm.

My ds2, while loved being close to me/held/worn, he wasn't a velcro baby like my girls.

JFH2010 · December 2014

Basically I just don't get anything done, ever. Lol.

KMW08 · December 2014

LO is 6wks and I'm trying to work on this. Right now I think it's mostly a security thing and it's worse when his belly is upset.

What I've started doing is placing him next to me & I'll engage with him or touch his feet/hands/keep my hand on his chest, etc. Also when he seems content I'll try placing him away from me but in sight of me. He's starting to get a little less needy, so I think these things are helping.

Another thing, whenever he whimpers I let him be until it's a full blown cry. Sometimes I'll give the cry a couple of minutes (no more than 2-5) to see if he calms back down -- sometimes he will.

meeshybee · December 2014

Same problem here. Not 24/7, but the majority of the time she wants to be held. The only thing I've figured out so far is that when she's really fussy it means she's tired and wants to be swaddled. Then she's sleep for 10-20 minutes and we're back where we started. Sometimes she likes the swing, but I feel bad letting her sleep too long in it.

She likes the Moby and Mei Tai, and falls asleep within a few minutes of putting her in. Are you wearing him with legs in? Maybe he would prefer legs out? That's the only thing I can think of.

TeeJ526 · December 2014

I'm wearing my LO. She's not impressed with being in a wrap or carrier either, so I rock her to sleep then put her in. She's none the wiser until she wakes up.

stcoppola12 · February 2015

My 3 month old is the same way. I just put her down so I could go to the bathroom and it turned into a full blown crying fit. And she was IN the bathroom with me!!! So it's not like she couldn't see me. I'm typing this with one hand on the computer right now. My mom says I'm creating this monster...but I think our ped said not to let her cry until after 4 months? I try to let her go a couple minutes and see if she'll realize she's ok and can entertain herself with her toy (and that I'm literally right next to her) but it always just escalates so it's easier to pick her up immediately. I have an ergobaby carrier and moby wrap and usually she's ok in those but I can't wear her alllll day long, that just gets uncomfortable. Doesn't help that once a week (if that) when I get out of the house, she gets pissy if anyone else holds her. Oh and don't even think about sitting...you best be standing and moving/dancing or she'll let you know that you suck. My arms are going to fall off!!!

OKbaby · February 2015

I think it's completely normal and okay for baby to be want to be held all the time especially in the first few minths. After all they were held for 10 months in the womb very snug to mom. If your arms can handle it then do it. They do have to be put down once in a while for changing purposes. Try playing with them on the changing table and make eye contact talk to them while holding their hands or feet after a change for a little while and see if that helps at all to transition them out of beig held 24/7

beckerji · February 2015

I feel for all you mamas! We call my LO Miss Independant because she won't let us hold her all that long. She wants to be down where she can kick and play or sitting up (facing all the action) so she can watch.

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