PSA to all the FTMs. And STMs. Moms in general.

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

Other parents can be assholes. Like woah.

Basically, you're raising your kid. You are. And guess what? You aren't a bad parent. At all. Giving your child juice or letting them watch Umizoomi while you hide in the bathroom to pee for five minutes alone =/= bad parent.

Sincerely,

A mom of a toddler who forgot that moms could be serious bitches until today.

Unrelated: anyone have any chocolate? Peanut butter? Cheese?

WafflesFriendsWork · December 2014

((Hugs!!)) I'm enjoying some gelato and trash tv if you'd like to join!

Definitely not looking forward to dealing with judgement and mommy-cliques. You do you. I bet your LO enjoyed that juice and show just as much as you enjoyed your 5 minutes alone. 5 minutes alone can make or break you.

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

kristhegirl said:

I have Christmas treats, come on over.

I knew I loved you.

Seriously. I just...who has time for that crap? I'm lucky I get her dressed with socks AND shoes. Let alone if I "should be starting to home educate her to avoid her falling behind."

She's two.

mrstutus · December 2014

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got one. I feel like mommyhood has made me immune to what people think. I kind of, sort of used to care before. Not anymore. If we are in public and someone stares at me/my DD disapprovingly, I will give them the death stare and make them so uncomfortable until they look away.

Also, I have Nutella to share!

RWPhoenix · December 2014

All children are different, all parents are different. As long as your LO is happy and healthy, that is all that matters. I don't judge you and neither should other moms. *hugs*

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

kristhegirl said:

Oh, lord. Might as well start on the second one now or you'll never catch up! Never mind the under developed sensory organs and brain, your fetus should at least be able to read Latin by birth. Don't ask how, if you ask how, you're already behind.

This woman has a nine month old that is already being "taught" Shakespeare. I shit you not. So really, I should consider the source. But STILL.

forevergraceful · December 2014

So annoying. My husband has a "friend" who somehow manages to tell him how bad we are at parenting every single chance he gets. It is hard to let it go, because it is about someone you love more than anything else in the world. Hugs.

intensivepurposes · December 2014

I have a really hard time believing that a parent who is "teaching" her toddler Shakespeare has any fucking clue what she's reading. Ughhhh this topic is making me so stabby.

traceyos · December 2014

Awhile back there was a thread where someone let their DD have a sip of coffee in line for Santa and some woman gave a look. Who are these terrible people and why can't they mind their own business? You are the parent and the kid learning Shakespeare will be screwed up as an adult.

PS there is an episode of sex sent me to the ER where two actors playing Romeo and Juliet have sex during intermission and she zips his business by accident. When they get to the ER they are still in character. It's creepy. I imagine their parents started them on Shakespeare at 9 months. So there you have it. You can know Shakespeare and still not know how to do a zipper without ending up in the ER. Not that I wish that on this child.

TeresaWE · December 2014

If that's terrible parenting, I'm lucky my children are alive.
I have the chocolate filled wafers in a cute Christmas tin, googling Italian cookie recipes and Hungarian Kiffles.

squeakyfrog15 · December 2014

Did I miss something today? Shakespeare?

Mamamads · December 2014

People can take their judgment and shove it far up somewhere. Me no care what you think bitchy moms of the world. Sorry you had a mom bitch encounter!

squeakyfrog15 · December 2014

Mamamads said:
People can take their judgment and shove it far up somewhere. Me no care what you think bitchy moms of the world. Sorry you had a mom bitch encounter!

No offense, but what is your problem? You seem to constantly tell people they don't have to comment, and are always getting in arguments, but then you comment on stuff when maybe you should ignore it? That was quite rude too!

Young_Love · December 2014

People who think Shakespeare is so highbrow crack me up. It's all poop jokes and sex jokes.

And I seriously hate most other people. I know having a kid is just going to make this so much worse.

Mamamads · December 2014

squeakyfrog15 said:

Mamamads said:
People can take their judgment and shove it far up somewhere. Me no care what you think bitchy moms of the world. Sorry you had a mom bitch encounter!
No offense, but what is your problem? You seem to constantly tell people they don't have to comment, and are always getting in arguments, but then you comment on stuff when maybe you should ignore it? That was quite rude too!

What? I was agreeing with the op that bitchy moms who judge your parenting styles are the worst. How is that rude?

Also, always getting in arguments? Umm no.

squeakyfrog15 · December 2014

Mamamads said:

squeakyfrog15 said:

Mamamads said:
People can take their judgment and shove it far up somewhere. Me no care what you think bitchy moms of the world. Sorry you had a mom bitch encounter!
No offense, but what is your problem? You seem to constantly tell people they don't have to comment, and are always getting in arguments, but then you comment on stuff when maybe you should ignore it? That was quite rude too!

What? I was agreeing with the op that bitchy moms who judge your parenting styles are the worst. How is that rude?

Also, always getting in arguments? Umm no.

Oh well I'm sorry I totally misread that, I thought you were calling her that! Definitely time for bed!

I was reading an old thread full of argument! I put my foot in my mouth and I am super sorry about that! Please forgive!:)

Mamamads · December 2014

squeakyfrog15 said:

Mamamads said:

squeakyfrog15 said:

Mamamads said:
People can take their judgment and shove it far up somewhere. Me no care what you think bitchy moms of the world. Sorry you had a mom bitch encounter!
No offense, but what is your problem? You seem to constantly tell people they don't have to comment, and are always getting in arguments, but then you comment on stuff when maybe you should ignore it? That was quite rude too!

What? I was agreeing with the op that bitchy moms who judge your parenting styles are the worst. How is that rude?

Also, always getting in arguments? Umm no.
Oh well I'm sorry I totally misread that, I thought you were calling her that! Definitely time for bed!

I was reading an old thread full of argument! I put my foot in my mouth and I am super sorry about that! Please forgive!:)

Haha Ya I could see how you read it that way definitely wasn't saying any of that towards her. Ya there's a lil drama here and there but I'm definitely not intentionally instigating any arguments. No problem!

mkjbw&+1 · December 2014

We just made Christmas cookies and there is left over cookie dough I am willing to share. When I get glares from strangers or unwanted advice from family or friends I figured out what works best for me. The strangers get huge smiles and if they are close enough I say something sweet like happy holidays! I shit you not they get the weirdest confused look as I laugh and keep doing what I'm doing. To family I say well bless your heart, but this works for our family thanks for the thought. If you are from the south you know bless your heart is really a nice sugary way to call someone a idiot. Lol

mehlaknee · December 2014

I'm a nurse and one time took care of a 6 month old that the mom would take and dangle over the toilet every 2 hrs, and sing their "potty" song so they could train him...I wish I was making this up. Then they got upset when I wouldn't let them pick him up and move him to the toilet when he WAS ATTACHED TO THE VENTILATOR!!
They were mad because he would regress in his training...
To each their own I suppose...

jlbaker08 · December 2014

My girl is super smart (in my totally unbiased opinion), but really, she's already reading sight words and won't be 4 until February... but you better believe we watch cartoons and movies more than I'd like to admit!

Anyone who thinks you can get by without a little help from geo, milli and bot is crazy! Also, if you thought you were doing it all right (like bitch mom seems to think) I'd be happy to share that you're not. No one ever has this parenting thing totally together 100% of the time and if they think they do, epic failure will be upon them soon!

Beachy730 · December 2014

LOfuckingL. "Teaching Shakespeare" to a 9 month old is really easy when they barely move and you can just read to them. Im sure they will be really into it in a few more months when they just want to run and climb and there's no pictures.

UTMissy · December 2014

This post.... so so true.... the parenting advice never seems to end either. Hell, you'll be judged for every decision you make for your entire life. I have a friend that posted about being overwhelmed about the breastfeeding information she recieved from the hospital. Her post blew up with "advice" including advice about formula feeding that even went so far as to tell her that US formula is laced with chemicals so only buy from oversees. Because that was completely relevant to a post about breastfeeding evidently.
I don't even think you have to be a parent to be qualified to give advice either...

squeakyfrog15 · December 2014

UTMissy said:
This post.... so so true.... the parenting advice never seems to end either. Hell, you'll be judged for every decision you make for your entire life. I have a friend that posted about being overwhelmed about the breastfeeding information she recieved from the hospital. Her post blew up with "advice" including advice about formula feeding that even went so far as to tell her that US formula is laced with chemicals so only buy from oversees. Because that was completely relevant to a post about breastfeeding evidently.
I don't even think you have to be a parent to be qualified to give advice either...

This is true! My NON-pregnant friend keeps telling me I need to eat veggies...like everyday it's have you had a veggie? You need to eat a veggie. Last night I kind of lost it and said you know maybe I don't want a veggie! Maybe it makes me sick to think about it! Everyone has an opinion about what to do and how to do it...she was hurt...oh well!

ahsile10 · December 2014

mkjbw&+1 said:

We just made Christmas cookies and there is left over cookie dough I am willing to share. When I get glares from strangers or unwanted advice from family or friends I figured out what works best for me. The strangers get huge smiles and if they are close enough I say something sweet like happy holidays! I shit you not they get the weirdest confused look as I laugh and keep doing what I'm doing. To family I say well bless your heart, but this works for our family thanks for the thought. If you are from the south you know bless your heart is really a nice sugary way to call someone a idiot. Lol

^This

hahahahaha

0ashley · December 2014

Hey, I think Umizoomi's a good show for toddlers! We watch too many kid shows at our house, too. And I put strawberry syrup in his milk sometimes (grandma started it, which annoyed me at first, but whatever). Bigger things to worry about.

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

This morning I woke up to a voicemail from said friend. "I have some great toddler training tips when it comes to getting that little girl of yours potty trained before the new baby comes. You're running late on that as it is and figured you might want some quick tips to get the job done for good."

And now it's time for chocolate at 11am and possibly just being done with this person except in required company.

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

officedronette said:

ifwisheswerefishes said:

This morning I woke up to a voicemail from said friend. "I have some great toddler training tips when it comes to getting that little girl of yours potty trained before the new baby comes. You're running late on that as it is and figured you might want some quick tips to get the job done for good."

And now it's time for chocolate at 11am and possibly just being done with this person except in required company.

What the ever-loving fuck is that? This person does not sound like a friend at all. They also sound like they are deeply insecure if they feel the need to broadcast just how "great" their parenting is all over the place.

Enjoy your chocolate. My secretary brought me my Christmas gift this morning, which included a giant goblet full of Hershey's kisses. I respect the chocolate before 11AM game. I had to hide the goblet so I couldn't keep eating them.

This girl was awesome before she had her son. Laid back and fantastic. And now she's Organic-Home-Educating Super Mommy and I kinda just want to punch her.

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

officedronette said:

Have you tried just telling her to cool it? Is it possible she's still in there somewhere, completely oblivious to how obnoxious she's being?

damnnit quote fail

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Not quite that extreme but I've made remarks re: her being ridiculous/ease up. Maybe I need to get a little more vocal.

WhiteSun · December 2014

ifwisheswerefishes said:

This woman has a nine month old that is already being "taught" Shakespeare. I shit you not. So really, I should consider the source. But STILL.

Eh. Reminds me of those diaper commercials. The first kid: music lessons! Culture! Second kid she looks all a mess and is letting them bang away on pots and pans. My friends often comment about how with their first kid they were super judgemental. By the time they had two they were like: as long as they're breathing today was a good day. Maybe we all need to perfect the side eye smile and slow, thanks so much.

Then just laugh.

I find the laugh really throws people off. Killing them with kindness

Rose0825 · December 2014

Don't worry about that over the top I'm the best mom in the whole world thing. Heck my mom did it this way and I'm still alive. As long as your child is happy and healthy who cares. Tell your
friend to get the stick out of her ass. Cross your fingers that she has more kids than sit back and watch who's child is eating a cookie so they cook with out burning the house down cause you can't focus from all the yelling.

Well at least I do this lol thank God for snacks

htuzzi324 · December 2014

ifwisheswerefishes said:

kristhegirl said:

I have Christmas treats, come on over.

I knew I loved you.

Seriously. I just...who has time for that crap? I'm lucky I get her dressed with socks AND shoes. Let alone if I "should be starting to home educate her to avoid her falling behind."

She's two.

Wait...kids are supposed to wear clothes? Oops.
Seriously, people are too uptight sometimes. This is probably why I don't have many mommy friends. I do what works for us. And if that means sitting them down in front of the TV eating mac n cheese drinking juice in just underwear and diapers so I can shower or just have a few minutes to myself (yes, I'm the mom that will lock herself in the bathroom so no one takes my chocolate)...so be it.

TeresaWE · December 2014

It's unfortunate that woman has her head up her ass and doesn't realize it takes all types to make the world go round.

SlurpeeLove · December 2014

I think people just need to leave each other alone. It's not my place to judge you or your place to judge me. Worry about yourself. My coworker keeps telling me how my dog is going to start getting jealous when the baby comes and start misbehaving. Not every kid is the same. Not every parent is the same. Not every dog is the same. Worry about yourself.

And if my dog does somehow start freaking out, I'll cross that bridge when I get there. I've got time to figure it all out.

valigrl21 · December 2014

ifwisheswerefishes said:

This morning I woke up to a voicemail from said friend. "I have some great toddler training tips when it comes to getting that little girl of yours potty trained before the new baby comes. You're running late on that as it is and figured you might want some quick tips to get the job done for good."

And now it's time for chocolate at 11am and possibly just being done with this person except in required company.

Hey maybe you can drop your toddler off with her for an hour or two and tell her to potty train your kid. Since she's a miracle mother and all, that shouldn't be a problem for her. While she's doing that, you go home, put your feet up and enjoy your chocolate

picklesandwich · December 2014

Couldn't agree more. Our friends told me this summer that parenting is a piece of cake and the easiest job in the world, when I was having a bad day. They are now expecting their first baby... We are having our third (we're pros! Hahaha)
I can't wait for him to eat his words when they are up all night with a screaming baby. I just can't wait.
Rookie parent assholes at their finest!

kellmoria · December 2014

I hate the whole "my kid is gonna be behind" argument. Beside being a mom, I teach fourth grade. I see burnt out kids at 10, because they've been forced to get ahead, get ahead and never be a KID. I don't disagree with sports or lessons for young kids, if they kids ask for them, or parents have noticed a natural interest. No baby Einstein, baby Shakespeare over here. Lots of TV, some of it questionable in appropriateness...

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