I refuse to feel guilty (sister rant)

CYBURRCHIC · December 2014

So my sister and I have never been particularly close. We are polar opposites. However, I have tried in the past to keep her in my life and improve the relationship she has not shown any interest other than the surface stuff so people think we are close. She wants gifts for holidays so she can tell people about it but doesn't want to spend time together. Fine. I moved on a few years ago. I send her a birthday present, Christmas present and pics of my DS on occasion. Unintended drama: yesterday I got a big promotion that will require my family to move 400 miles away. It was posted on our internal website and some of my co-workers congratulated me on FB. So, most of my co-workers now know I am expecting as well. I can't recall the last time I talked to my sister and didn't even think but I posted the details of my promotion and BTW June baby coming too. My sister didn't know and it just never occurred to me. So she just posted - Wow...and then went on to post on her wall about how God (she's not religious at all) puts the right people in your life and you just need to discard the others or some such BS. You don't know ANY of my friends, have never been to the two houses I have lived in for the last 10 years, have met my 2 1/2 yr old twice because I arranged it and don't know what I do for a living. So let's not pretend...OK. Sorry for the rant and thanks for listening. It is keeping me up. I did send her a nice Harry and David basket for the holidays, so she should be happy.

tinavonsparkle · December 2014

In the wise words of Taylor Swift "haters gunna hate, shake it off, shake it off!"

Maybe you should have told her in a private email/text/phone call - if anything just to keep the peace - but it's done now so there is no point dwelling on it. She sounds like a pretty rubbish sister/auntie but your going to be even further away from her now so I wouldn't worry! x

leenziepops · December 2014

Sorry to hear you don't have a great r'ship with your sister. It must hurt you. However you can only do so much. If she's not going to be a positive aspect in your life then you probably will be happier in the long run distancing yourself.

amooraxo · December 2014

... why would you send her anything for the holiday's? Just sayin' ... maybe it's bitchy to say but someone who treats you that way for so long may be a biological sister, but she's not your "sister". I'm sure you have much better people in your life that deserve your attention more than that.

CYBURRCHIC · December 2014

@tinavonsparkle‌ I would have called her and told her privately if I would have thought about it. I just didn't even think about it when I posted it. We don't speak but maybe 2-3 times a year. When I send photos of my DS she tells our Mom she loves getting them but never responds to me. @amooraxo‌ you are right that I have filled my life with real sisters and they all know the happenings in my life. I know she values "things" so I do it mainly to keep the peace for my Mother. If it wasn't for my mother we wouldn't have the contact that I keep up and I would be fine with it. I feel sad for her because she doesn't even know what she is missing in life. But I don't feel guilty - I just would have in hindsight avoided the drama for my Mom.

kimmarie1105 · December 2014

I think your sister just unintentionally gave you some great advice! It sounds like your life is moving in a great direction. You've gotten this far without her.

KikiCohen · December 2014

Totally agree with @kimmarie1105‌! You have no reason to feel guilty.

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