FFFC

stephaniesee · December 2014

Oh and.....

I'm straight up obsessed with the bump now. It has taken place of checking Twitter and gossip sites....

katiebug66 · December 2014

Snapdragon750 said:

katiebug66 said:

I hate when my kids are in my bed - 6 and 3 y/o. Not that I think it's wrong, not that I haven't done it to try to get sleep but I do not sleep if they are in my bed. So I end up moving them back to their bed. I feel like I am the only parent who doesn't like sleeping in the bed with their child but I need my space.

I'm kind of surprised to see this as a confession--a lot of people feel this way. I've never slept with my kids in my bed and I really can't even understand how other people make it work. I get it with newborns who just sleep better when they're with you, but as my kids got past the newborn phase this was no longer the case at all. I feel like with my family we'd just be waking each other up all night long. I don't judge people who co-sleep/bedshare, but it's not for everyone!!

Blame it on mom guilt - I guess I am feeling guilty for everything/anything no matter how silly. Mom guilt + pregnancy hormones + tired + holidays = paranoid freak

lakingsfan2015 · December 2014

shmeell25 said:
I have another. I work in a plaza and there is a dollar store a few doors down from me. Every day after lunch I try to think of 10 reasons I need to stop over there, but really it's just because I want candy. I have got to stop doing this. It's going to be no surprise when I get diagnosed with GD in a few months.

I hate mobile bumping. I want to bold and highlight your last sentence! That is me! I went to dinner with a friend and she said "you don't have to watch your sugar intake?" After I devoured panna cotta, my response was once I am diagnosed with GD I will till then I shall enjoy it!

CoPilot2012 · December 2014

Oh oh I have a confession!

I had the rational fear of trisomy since we have a half brother with one, but then the genetic test came back healthy.

Now I'm afraid that the genetic test said girl, but the anatomy scan may say boy on Monday and that we could have a hermophrodite, not that I wouldn't love my baby, I would, no matter what.

But with all the other fears about screwing up my kid, It would break my heart to have to decide about which gender to call my baby. You can't very well call the kid an "it" for 7 years till you know he wants to be a he or she wants to be a she. Then if I dress her in a dress but she wants to be a he, will she be mad at me for putting her in a dress when she was 2. Or if I give her trucks and when she looks back at pictures she's all wtf did you give me trucks for my 1st bday mom, I wanted a princess.

Oh man, irrational fears suck. 3 more days.

mlbrooks619 · December 2014

All week I usually think of all my FFFC and then when Friday rolls around I have completely forgotten them. Pregnancy Brain for the win.

lgsdesigner · December 2014

jerica14 said:

FFFC: I'm more scared of BFing and failing at it then I am of labor. I want so desperately to be able to BF. I've been putting coconut oil on my nips every night already, in hopes that it will help in the future. I have not been anxious about pregnancy or labor, but I'm incredibly nervous/anxious about BFing.

Edit: to add words

@jerica14
I think it would beneficial to you to take a Breastfeeding course. It can teach you everything you need to know in order to be successful with BFing (if you are able to), and will calm your anxiety a little.
Trust me-- I was TERRIFIED before BFing the first time, but after taking the class, I had more confidence and did great.

I took a blank journal with me, and wrote down everything in class along with some helpful visual illustrations (I'm artsy like that).

You've got this!

lala5507 · December 2014

smilesp said:

I have no strong feelings boy/girl but I kinda have a slight preference... Using the poll daily to check who is ahead and tell myself if there are less girls they will tell me girl, if less boys they'll say boy. I hate not having a feeling even if it's a wrong one. But I don't want my "preference" to be my instinct because I could be wrong and don't want to feel disappointment. It's super annoying.
I understand this because it seems like everyone I know IRL who's pregnant is having a boy which makes me think I must be having a girl.

I was convinced we were having a girl because we know soooo many people having boys right now (I know that's not how it works). Also, we have 2 girls and dh read something that if you have 2 kids of the same sex you are more likely to have another. But, I was wrong.

lupineaura · December 2014

My FFC:

I'm going to an elective ultrasound place on Tuesday even though I just had a scan yesterday. The tech was pretty sure baby A is a girl but wasn't sure about baby B. I'm seeing my whole family on the 26th and want to tell them in person. I found a deal and it will only cost $46, but I still feel guilty for the frivolous expense.

I also think 3D ultrasound pics are creepy and couldn't care less about every other frilly thing the scan comes with.

FreddyisReady · December 2014

My FFFC: Don't hate me!

I feel like I look cuter pregnant than non-pregnant. I wish I could look exactly like this for the rest of my life. My bump is the perfect size (not too big yet, but def noticeable). Every time I pass a mirror I think "omg! I'm sooo cute!"

This is so embarrassing to type.

bethypoo83 · December 2014

Came to the mall after work to finish Christmas shopping but have spent the last 60 minutes eating a poutine and bumping!

stephaniesee · December 2014

FreddyisReady said:
My FFFC: Don't hate me!

I feel like I look cuter pregnant than non-pregnant. I wish I could look exactly like this for the rest of my life. My bump is the perfect size (not too big yet, but def noticeable). Every time I pass a mirror I think "omg! I'm sooo cute!"

This is so embarrassing to type.

I didn't know I felt this way but I do too! I just bought a nothing special dress to show off my bump and I look way cuter than I do non-preg in my 'spensive dresses.

saralynn91 · December 2014

So I had to steal bf's truck earlier this week to put autostart in it for his Christmas present.

Well the original plan was to have his brother "borrow for moving" but my bf totally shot him down. So then I basically demanded his truck saying it was icy and I didn't feel safe in my car.

Apparently his truck is his baby. He sat and texted me the whole day about how it wasn't that icey out ect.

Well the truck was finally finished so I drove it back to his work for him and he started asking questions, and I needed a coverup, so I started getting angry (not really but i didn't know what else to do!) and he immediately felt bad and apologized and kept apologizing the rest of the day.

It made me feel terrible. I hate lying to him and I can't wait to give him his present and explain!

kandybarandco · December 2014

@jerica14‌ I got some breastfeeding books out from the library, read a couple bits of each, then picked my favourite and bought it.

The one I ended up with is called So That's What They're For, but your mileage may vary.

I've been eating all the leftover chocolate from the Advent calendar--two bags worth! No one's going to be surprised when I have GD either. Between this and Halloween...

Snapdragon750 · December 2014

@jerica14 Sorry to bump this, but I missed your comment before, and I have something to add. PPs gave you great resources, and more likely than not you WILL be able to BF, but you should also prepare yourself mentally for the possibility that you may not, and get to a place where you will be okay with that. I, too, had a huge fear of not being able to BF because I've always been self-conscious of my small breasts and didn't trust them to do what they were supposed to do, and everyone told me it would be fine and not to worry about it. As it turns out I did have low supply. Because I'd already had such fear about this beforehand, it was really bad for me emotionally. I drove myself crazy trying to get my supply where it needed to be, but nothing worked, I gave up in frustration, and in the end I had some real guilt and possibly depression (looking back on it) from having "failed just like I knew I would." It's almost impossible to deal well with those emotions PP, so if you start to look at it logically now and forgive yourself in advance just in case, it will go a long way for preparing you for EVERY scenario.

Not being able to BF is truly not the end of the world. Just like an unexpected c-section when you always pictured a vaginal delivery, what really matters is your happy, healthy baby.

Snapdragon750 · December 2014

GFJ48 said:

@jerica14 Sorry to bump this, but I missed your comment before, and I have something to add. PPs gave you great resources, and more likely than not you WILL be able to BF, but you should also prepare yourself mentally for the possibility that you may not, and get to a place where you will be okay with that. I, too, had a huge fear of not being able to BF because I've always been self-conscious of my small breasts and didn't trust them to do what they were supposed to do, and everyone told me it would be fine and not to worry about it. As it turns out I did have low supply. Because I'd already had such fear about this beforehand, it was really bad for me emotionally. I drove myself crazy trying to get my supply where it needed to be, but nothing worked, I gave up in frustration, and in the end I had some real guilt and possibly depression (looking back on it) from having "failed just like I knew I would." It's almost impossible to deal well with those emotions PP, so if you start to look at it logically now and forgive yourself in advance just in case, it will go a long way for preparing you for EVERY scenario.

Not being able to BF is truly not the end of the world. Just like an unexpected c-section when you always pictured a vaginal delivery, what really matters is your happy, healthy baby.
Thank you for saying that! I feel so bad when people set such firm expectations when things are so unknown. As a FTM I'm going in with the attitude of whatever happens happens. Vaginal, c-section, medicated, unmedicated, breastfeeding, pumping, formula feeding....Doesn't matter as long as I'm healthy & baby is healthy and that baby is fed!

What really helps for me is a psychological "trick" used to help with phobias: Imagining myself in this "worst case scenario" that I was so afraid of and picturing myself happy and calm while doing it. With my first I had such a difficult time feeling anything but guilt when I gave my baby a bottle because I had always pictured BFing, but I was holding my brand-new baby in my arms, and I was feeding her, and it was beautiful. I wish I could have seen that at the time.

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