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Individual Updates:
@Towerclimberswife—How are you feeling this week? Any signs of AF?
@sweetcallittc1—How are the pains in your ovary area? I hope you’re feeling better, and I’m glad to see you back after you stepped away for a few days. ((hugs))
@kingscross145—Have you had any O signs (using OPKS?) after you had your suspected AF last week? I’m thinking of you ((hugs))
@Cherish1986—How did your move go this past Saturday? Have you thought of anything nice to help with the time apart after the loss? ((hugs))
@MrsBPhotographer—How did the interview go? Any signs of AF?
@CC1017—How are you holding up this week? ![]()
@Rcvb22—How was your holiday party this weekend? I hope you kicked ass at CAH (if you played!) mmmmm how was the wine???
@rosesarepink—I don’t see you much on the main board. How are you doing? I hope you become more active ![]()
QOTW - What is your favorite Christmas movie?
Mine is Either the original Home Alone, or Elf.





Re: ••TTCAL Newbie Check-in 12/15/15••
Hey! Thanks for the check in!
I'm angry at myself for not temping this cycle because I'm getting all sorts of mixed messages from my body. I'm technically on CD 26 post m/c. I've had EWCM for the last 5 or so days. Today it was just a tiny bit, but all my sources say that you judge by the "most fertile" CM for each day, so this would be it. It is confusing to me. I usually would only have 3-4 days of fertile CM each month, so extending that is a little weird. I was still spotting some, just dark brown discharge - but I consider that spotting. That seems to have slowed down some. Again, just wish I would have started temping from the beginning so I could have some solid info on what is going on now. It is so weird for me not to know when AF is coming and it is messing with my mind.
On a happier note, I went and had Maya Abdominal Massage. That was AMAZING! My uterus is off to the left, so hopefully we'll be able to coax it more center, and it is tilted backward, which is explained by the horseback riding. Even if all the hoopla about it is fake, I still feel good about it because I'm taking care of my body in a slow and meaningful way. The back massage that goes along with it is AMAZING! I really encourage anyone who is open to massage as a therapy to see if there is someone who does Maya near you!
edit: because I want this to make sense!!
!*All Welcome**!
Me 28 The Tower Climber 27
NTNP Since January 2014
BFP #1- Nov 10, 2014 EDD July 19, 2015 MC Nov 20, 2014 (5wk 4d)
Well I survived my first week back at work. It was a little easier than I thought it would be. I also survived the Christmas party DH through at our house on Saturday. And by survived, I mean barely survived. I went upstairs and hid in my room after about 2 hours. I just wasn't up for socializing. No new updates on ttc - still waiting for my appointment with the MFM.
My favorite Christmas movie is Home Alone. I remember getting that movie for Christmas as a kid (good ole VHS). I was SO excited. I picked up the movie and it slid out of the case and broke on the floor. I cried and cried. My Mom was like "it's just a movie! We'll get another one!" But I was so upset over that stupid movie.
I've mentioned this in my intro late last week but I had two losses in may and October.
My first due date was dec 4th. I was nervous about how to cope with the day itself not imagining how difficult the days and weeks after would be. My mind is now obsessed with the game "I know I am currently (xyz- working/grocery shopping/drinking/whatever), but I SHOULD be holding an infant in my arms instead."
I know it's cruel and unfair to both me and my husband (who's been such a good sport) but I just can't fight off that kind of thinking. Considering my next due date will be in April, I know it'll be a tough road to shake my feelings through the spring, short of getting pg again.
It's nice to have a place to actually admit to my destructive thoughts, though. My favorite Christmas movie is white Christmas- or love actually!
I'd like to join this check in also, please.
@rslh10 - Thanks for the check in.
@TowerClimbersWife - Your Maya massage sounds wonderful, I will have to look into that.
@CC1017 - I'm glad your first week back at work went ok. I'm sorry that you had a hard time at the Christmas party. ::hugs::
@kingscross145 - FX hope your appointment goes well! Hope your headache gets better.
@NOBB14 - I'm sorry you're having a rough time. ::hugs::
AFM... Today was my first day back to work, after taking last week off. It was a little harder than I thought. I found triggers EVERYWHERE, but held it together until after my shift. (I only work 3 hours 3 days a week)
It's been really hard for me to deal with people's reactions, or more like non-reactions. Only a handful of people know, but they've been kinda weird around me and haven't really said anything. I know they just don't what to say, but sometimes them saying nothing is kind of hurtful.
One family friend however left me a very thoughtful card and flowers on my door. She had gone through a mc also and wished "peace" for us, it was so sweet it made me cry.
QOTW : The Santa Clause (with Tim Allen) - kinda childish but a fun movie.
((Hugs)) lady and I hope you start to feel better soon.
I hope that your next few days at work go by quickly and you can start feeling better. What a thoughtful thing of your family friend to do. Those things mean the most. ((Hugs))
I started using OPK's yesterday twice a day as I have been and have fertile CM as of today so my cycle seems to be on track since the CP. I have read that it can go either way so I prepared myself to go with whatever happens.
It looks like the cycle of the other recipient our donor is working with is going to conflict with ours. At this point, we are doing our best to stay positive and understand that if it isn't meant to happen this month there is always next month. This has brought up the discussion of having a back up donor to avoid future issues but we are sure we want to go that route just yet.
Married: 10/4/2013
TTC Since September 2014
BFP 11/30/2014 ~ EDD 8/13/2015 ~ CP 12/5/2014
BFP #2 12/30/2014 ~ EDD 9/13/2015 Stick bean stick!
ETA- I'm just peachy. Thanks for asking
My cycle came back 1 week later than normal and I only knew it was AF because I had a +opk 2ish weeks before. Cycles after loss can be wonky.
I'm so so happy to hear your party went well
Could you check to verify which notifications you're getting?
Me: 28 MH: 28 Married: 10/27/2012
TTC Baby #1
BFP: 9/2014 EDD: 6/9/2015 MC: 10/13/2014
Me: 28 MH: 28 Married: 10/27/2012
TTC Baby #1
BFP: 9/2014 EDD: 6/9/2015 MC: 10/13/2014
I don't want to step on toes either but they are doing TONS of things wrong!!!! I sent two pages of walk notes last and let's just say I'm semi nervous to go in a few minutes.
I have not figured out anything to do during the move- he doesn't want to FaceTime, he won't check the mail, we've been texting more but that's about it.
I do love all the classics like, christmas story, national lampoons christmas, elf, home alone
But I love the cheesy movies they show on Ion and ABCFamily. I love love those cheesy made for tv movies
Also, I'm going house hunting- by myself tomorrow!!! It's exciting.
our little angel.
our little angel.
Um let's see I just got my BBT thermometer yesterday and used it today (98.45) so yay! My SO will get off the rig Monday evening so: 1 whole week with him! But I am waiting to start my cycle because I don't know what day I'm even on or when I should be expecting to start.
As for my favorite holiday movie: it's definitely the classic Rudolf.