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My terrible U/S

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edited December 2014 in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
I'm sorry - I hope this is OK but I need someone / somewhere to vent. 

Yesterday I had my U/S to confirm no tissue has been retained. 

I get in and she looks at me and says, "You're 11 weeks pregnant?" 

I said no, I had a miscarriage. I am not 11 weeks pregnant.

She says, "well your paperwork says your LMP was Sept 29th."

I said yes, but I had a miscarriage.

Then she says, "well no one told me."

Honestly - that's what she said... No sorry about the mixup, no sorry this happened to you...

Anyway we move on...

The T/V U/S was the most uncomfortable of my life. I just lay there bawling my eyes out and she was such a bitch. She kept saying open your legs wider, and then eventually literally took her elbows and forced them apart.

I went out to reception afterwards and complained to the receptionist who took me into the lunch room so I could have some privacy while I relived the story and my ordeal. At least this woman was kind. She let me tell what happened, then hugged me and stroked my hair while apologizing as I was sobbing like a baby.

I hope this tech gets fired so no one else goes through this. It was seriously one of the worst parts of this whole ordeal.
DS#1: born Dec 29, 2013 
TTC#2 since Sept 2014 - unexplained secondary IF
BFP #2: 11.7.14  M/C: 11.27.14 @ 6w3days
BFP #3: 04.19.2015 M/C 04.27.15 @ 4w3days
BFP #4: 10.05.2015 C/P @ 3w4days
Oct 11, 2015: Cycle 13. Starting Femara (2.5mg). HSG this cycle (all clear) - BFN
Nov 12, 2015: Cyle 14. Femara 5mg + IUI - BFN
Dec 10, 2015: Cycle 15. Femara 5mg + IUI #2 - BFP #5! C/P 4w4d
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17.  No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.

Re: My terrible U/S

  • I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I have been taken aback by the lack of sensitivity I've seen from some of the healthcare workers I've been in contact with as well. I don't know if they just become callous to the situation or what. Either way, it's inexcusable. *hugs*
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  • Oh that's awful. I'm so sorry!


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  • I am so sorry you were treated that way. I just don't understand some people. I know that they are used to dealing with this type of stuff but you would think people would have better bedside manners. 

    During my last MC I was seeing a new Dr an I guess no one told her I was going through a MC. She did the U/S and was like...there is still a chance, maybe you're just earlier along than you thought. At least she was very sympathetic when I told her that I actually had MC'ed. 

    So many *hugs* to you. 
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



  • I'm so sorry for your experience. I would look into a different doc office. Not everyone is like that I find it inexcusable. I would write a letter, online review, and switch.
    I am a healthcare professional myself and know how difficult it can be to stay sensitive to each patient. But I've told dh that is I ever act like that to tell me to take a break.

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  • Omg I'm so sorry you had to go through that :'( that's terrible! Ugh! Some ppl have no consideration. Just know we are all here for you whenever you need to vent. Xo
  • That's messed up... I'm so sorry.
  • I'm so sorry! I would have been bawling too. Good for you to make your feelings known to someone. It was nice of the receptionist to listen to you. I had a horrible nurse during my first loss who was rude and dismissive. I was not brave enough to say anything. She isn't there anymore so I think others may have complained. I'm so sorry you went through that. It's amazing to me that some people go into the ob specialty only to be rude and unfeeling.

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    Married to DH June 2013
    BFP #1 07/23/14 lost heartbeat @ 9w
    BFP #2 11/07/14 mmc @ 9w
    BFP #3 due February 2016!
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