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BYO......S?

MrsGreen92014MrsGreen92014 member
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Did anyone have a friend or brother (husbands/partners) donate sperm? How does that work?
We are hoping to use a friend that offered and looks a lot like my DH.
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Re: BYO......S?

  • refeek1refeek1 member
    I don't have any advice since we are using donor eggs, but I wanted to welcome you!

    TTC #1 since May 2010

    OE IVF #1  9/2/13 Cancelled- poor response

    DE IVF #1 3/12/14- BFP 3/17/14- ectopic, right tube removed 4/11/14 @ 7 weeks

    DE FET #1 7/3/14-Transferred 2 5AA 6 day embryos Beta 7/13/14 BFN

    DE FET #2 9/5/14-Transferred 2 4BB 5 day embryos Beta 9/15/14 BFN

    DE FET #3 in December- Cancelled, didn't respond to meds

    DE FET #3 (2nd try) 2/13/15- Transferred 1 4BB and 1 4BA 5 day embryos Beta 2/23/15  BFN again (CP)

    DE FET #4 - last 2 frosties....5/22/15- Transferred 1 4BA embryo...only one frostie thawed properly.  Beta scheduled for 6/1-  BFN (beta 2, 2.81, 6, 23, 49.4) 6/15/15 Discovered ectopic in left tube.  Methotrexate given. Moving on to a new donor. Hoping to transfer by the end of the year.

    Cant find a donor that is healthy and available.  Looking at being happy with just the two of us.

     

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  • StephieMKStephieMK member
    When we shared our story, pretty much most offered, which was weird to me (even FIL...creepy!) I think the only sperm I would have taken was if DH had a brother because it would have been closest, but for us a sperm bank was the way to go. I hope it works out for you! Knowing the person is a cheaper option, which would have been great!
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    Married April 9, 2011
    TTC since October 2011
    Me 34, DH 40

    IUI #5 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture Oct 24, 2014-->BFP!!! EDD July 17, 2015. Panorama=low risk...and it's a GIRL!
    DD born July 10, 2015
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    Trying for baby #2!
    IUI #1 w/ Tamoxifen+Ovidrel+Acupuncture July 10, 2017-->BFP!!! EDD Apr 2, 2018. Panorama=low risk...and another GIRL!

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  • IRRIRR member
    Think about what this "friend donor" will be to your child.  We have a friend that is our surrogate but I am not sure I would have wanted to know our donor unless it was a close family member.  It could be awkward or it could be great because you will always know your child's genetic history.
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    Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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  • 2MamazInSeattle2MamazInSeattle member
    If you're comfortable with it, post an ask about this on the LGBT board. Say you are considering a KD (know donor) and wanted to hear pros and cons from people who went that route. I am on that board too and people are usually happy to help. I can think of three people with kids who used KDs, and there are likely more. Good luck!
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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  • MrsGreen92014MrsGreen92014 member
    2MamazInSeattle said:

    If you're comfortable with it, post an ask about this on the LGBT board. Say you are considering a KD (know donor) and wanted to hear pros and cons from people who went that route. I am on that board too and people are usually happy to help. I can think of three people with kids who used KDs, and there are likely more. Good luck!

    Is it ok to post on the LGBT board as a straight couple?
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  • MrsGreen92014MrsGreen92014 member
    IRR said:

    Think about what this "friend donor" will be to your child.  We have a friend that is our surrogate but I am not sure I would have wanted to know our donor unless it was a close family member.  It could be awkward or it could be great because you will always know your child's genetic history.

    The potential donor is someone I've know for 15 years and would be an uncle ether way. We've already talked about it thankfully.
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  • 2MamazInSeattle2MamazInSeattle member
    MrsGreen92014 said:
    If you're comfortable with it, post an ask about this on the LGBT board. Say you are considering a KD (know donor) and wanted to hear pros and cons from people who went that route. I am on that board too and people are usually happy to help. I can think of three people with kids who used KDs, and there are likely more. Good luck!
    Is it ok to post on the LGBT board as a straight couple?
    Yes, just call it out that you're 'visiting' with a question in regard to the use of a Known Donor (KD) and wanted some input from folks whov'e chosen that route. People are super nice on our LGBT board :). Tell them 2Mamaz suggested you post after you posted on 3rd party repro. :)

    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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