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TTC After a Loss
CC1017
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Stupid survey!
CC1017
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I am never answering a survey honestly ever again!!!
Two weeks after my loss I saw my OB and she had me fill out a postpartum depression survey. It asked questions about if I was sad, if I cry a lot, if I have trouble concentrating, etc. My OB added up my score and said it was a hell of a lot better than she would have done.
So this woman from the county calls me today to tell me that I'm depressed. I told her I'm not depressed. And she said something about my feelings of sadness and crying indicate that I have depression. Of course I'm sad and crying! My baby just died! Then she starts asking me questions about my loss history, pregnancy complications, if I have bulimia or anxiety, if I've been offered medication to deal with my feelings... And I started to get so upset. I had to explain to her why I feel I'm not depressed and that I'm working with a therapist and how she thinks I'm doing really well.
I feel like crap now. Why didnt I just hang up on her?
BFP #1 DS born 10/16/12 at 39w6d
BFP #2 DD lost 11/17/14 at 17w2d
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Re: Stupid survey!
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I remember her saying someone would call to check in on me and offer me resources if I needed them. Some kind of public health initiative. But I guess I thought my feelings were pretty normal given the circumstances, and this lady from the county made me feel like there was something wrong with me for being sad.
Um... Maybe you should stop talking because I don't give a fuck I just miscarried, thanks.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that! I want to go TP that OB of yours for sending the survey (who the fuck makes a woman who just miscarried take a fucking survey about postpartum depression ?) to the fucking county! Ugh!
Sorry I'm upset for you! People are so dumb and insensitive!
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I have absolutely no idea if this is relevant or helpful (I can edit this out if I offend you! I promise it's not my intention, I do just want to help) but my husband is a college professor and does a ton of research in the public health field. He often gets info on folks he's researching from surveys that are similar to what you're describing; although it sounds totally invasive and inappropriate with the way the conversation was handled, is it possible you've somehow gotten signed up for a research group of sorts? Hearing the county is involved is what made me think of MH's work- he often works through local offices to get info. ((Hugs)) not trying to make light of that conversation, just hoping there's more to the story! I would hate to think there are people who just call others and blindly attack them for their honesty in a tough time.