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MIL probs

ajv1008ajv1008 member
in October 2014 Moms
Forgive me if this turns into a rant...I find it so difficult to put up with my MIL. She visits about every 2 weeks and usually stays the night since she lives 3 hours away. My husband and I are very calm and easy going and that's what DS is used to. MIL however is very high strung and fidgety. Whenever she is in town she is constantly talking to him, bouncing him, rocking him, changing him into 4 +different outfits a day etc. He can't even fall asleep because on the rare chance that she's not holding him, she'll pick him up WHILE HE'S SLEEPING just so she can hold him. When I take him to his room to take a nap she goes to check on him and wakes him up. I feel so bad for the lil guy and it takes a good day or two to get him back to normal after she leaves. When I ask her nicely to let him sleep, or keep him calm she says "I know, I just never get to see him" then as soon as I leave the room she's back at it. Also, her favorite phrase is "He likes....." like she really knows better than me what he likes. End Rant. Anyone else have similar issues or advice?
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Re: MIL probs

  • sabby2sabby2 member
    edited December 2014
    Yup. Been there. My mil ' s favorite phrase seems to be "well she doesn't get that from me". No duh, you didn't make her.

    This is the same lady who swung my dd through the air by our stairs because the baby was crying. I almost lost it on her but my husband rescued dd before I flipped.

    Eta I have NO IDEA why she chose by the stairs. She's insane and we have much safer places to do that. DD was hungry which I had told mil 45 minutes prior to her escapades and she refused to accept that. I was livid.
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  • bumpuser10309732bumpuser10309732 member
    Sounds like you need to put your foot down. In hindsight there are worse things in the world than a grandparent that loves their grandchild too much. Mine are way over the top too and it's annoying but they just love her. Try to tell her how the things she does make you feel so maybe she'll understand where you're coming from. No one likes when other people criticize their parenting decisions.
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  • lvcpatt84lvcpatt84 member

    Yup. I feel your pain. I get that grandparents love their grandchildren, and they might not get to see them as often as they want to because of distance, but that doesn't give them permission to step all over boundaries. Changing LO 4 times in one day? Geeze, he's not a dang doll! I would get super irritated with anyone if they did this.

    My advice would for you and H to have a united front, and let MIL know what's up. Not being pushy about it, but when people are visiting my house, I tell them that we have a very strict schedule for LO, and for the sake of everyone in the household, we have to follow it. (It's not true- we're pretty laid back, but if I feel like DD is overstimulated and needs an uninterrupted nap, I enforce my made up schedule) If they start giving me crap about it, I politely ask them if they would be so kind as to get up with her 5 times in the MOTN.


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