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TTC after 35
Nikolie93
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First I want to say thank you to everyone who was thinking about me for my first RE visit today
My RE visit really wasn't an RE visit at all (RAGE!) *previous losses mentioned*
Nikolie93
member
in TTC after 35
I copy and pasted this from the TTCAL board because if I have to type it all out again I may break something!
First I want to say thank you to everyone who was thinking about me for my first RE visit today
Second, I want to rage right now. I have been waiting for this appointment of 2 months. I go into the office and the Dr seems nice enough. He starts talking about what testing they would do throughout my pregnancy to ensure everything was ok, like a check at so many weeks to monitor the hearbeat, etc., etc.
It took me a minute and then it clicked. I asked him what type of Dr he was and he said a high risk pregnancy Dr. I said "you aren't an RE?", and he said no. What. The. FUCK?
He told me that, to be honest, he was a little confused as to why I was there. Yeah, you and me both buddy! He told me that normally you see an RE and THEN a high risk Dr. No shit, I am not pregnant and have had no tests done so why would I even need to see you right now??
He felt really bad for me, because I was so frustrated I started to cry. I could tell that MH was getting upset. Here we are, finally after 2 months, to get this show on the road and it was for nothing.
He felt really bad for me, because I was so frustrated I started to cry. I could tell that MH was getting upset. Here we are, finally after 2 months, to get this show on the road and it was for nothing.
I called my OBGYN office and they swore to me that they send you there first. I asked why in the hell would they do that if someone doesn't even know if they can have a viable pregnancy. Bah!
I called the RE that the high risk Dr. recommended and have an appointment for January 21st...so more waiting. Their office was also confused as to why my OB sent me to a high risk Dr before seeing an RE.
On a side note, the Dr I saw was very nice but I felt there were a couple of red flags:
I called the RE that the high risk Dr. recommended and have an appointment for January 21st...so more waiting. Their office was also confused as to why my OB sent me to a high risk Dr before seeing an RE.
On a side note, the Dr I saw was very nice but I felt there were a couple of red flags:
1. He told me that he really thinks this will work out for me and patients that come see him usually end up coming back with good news (wtf, really??)
2. He sees no reason why I won't have a successful pregnancy (with no testing at all!?!?)
3. He told me that since I got pregnant 3 times, he sees no reason why we need to wait to TTC again. Ummm, maybe because I have no idea if there is anything wrong with me or MH yet??
Sorry so long, and if you read this I really appreciate it. If you didn't I completely understand, I really just needed to get this off my chest because the couple of people I've talked to IRL don't seem to think this waiting game is a big deal.
Sorry so long, and if you read this I really appreciate it. If you didn't I completely understand, I really just needed to get this off my chest because the couple of people I've talked to IRL don't seem to think this waiting game is a big deal.
I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site.
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Re: My RE visit really wasn't an RE visit at all (RAGE!) *previous losses mentioned*
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Sucks that this all takes so much time to figure uou what might be going on anyway...without a total waste if time thrown in!
Hugs and here's to next time being the charm!
I know you have an appt already set up with the RE suggested by the high risk doc, but if you're not sure about him, are you sure about the doc he recommended? Maybe since you have some time between now that that next appt, you can see if there are any other REs in the area who might have an open spot sooner?
When I asked the RE about cancellations she said they don't have a list and I would have to call. I guess that means call and bother them ever day? :-/ I am sure that will go over well! lol
@flyliceandcoffee I was going to do some research on this one to see what feedback they have. Good idea to call around in the meantime to see if someone else can get me in!
It seems to be the norm around her to have a month or longer wait for this.
Gah, I'm so sorry. That is ridiculous!
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
~X(
Would you like me to unleash my inner bitch on your doctors office. Cause I'm feelin extra bitchy today.
Me:39, DH:40
DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04
TTC#3
NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13
Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks
CP 2/14
All welcome
@Hooligans4 I could probably use you. When I got frustrated and cried I said I was sorry and the Dr said "no need to apologize, you're actually taking this much better than I thought and better than most have"
Then I called my OB's office and ended up saying I was sorry for being so frustrated.
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
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***TW****MC mentioned & BFP mentioned***
TTC#1 since July 2014
AMH 0.1, DOR, Poor responder
Moved to Prague, Czech Republic for IVF
DE attempt in Czech Republic!!
March trip to Prague canceled due to Pancreatitis.
Headed to Prague April 30
3 different donors resulted in 1 PGS tested embryo and 1 fresh embryo
BFP on 5/15/16 at 5dp5dt
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Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
CD 3, FSH of 15, E2 67, AMH 0.43, LH 6.2, normal HSG test
DH good count but low volume, 87% motility, 1% morphology
IUI#1 - Nov 2014, 100 mg clomid and HCG, 2 large follies 20 & 16mm (7 follies total). BFN
IVF# 1 Jan 2014, 225 Gonal F, 225 Menopur, Ganirelix, 4R/3M/1F w/ICSI - PUPO!
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I'm sorry!
How on earth can he say you shouldn't have any issues? What a dumb fuck!
TTC #1 with IUI and donor sperm
First IUI May, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
Second IUI July, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
Third IUI Dec, 2014, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = BFN
Fourth IUI Feb 2015, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = C/P
Oh honey I am so sorry. What a horrible mix up to have happen. I am so sorry you had such an incompetent doctor. The waiting game is horrible. FX this next appt gets you the answers you need. Big hugs for you.
Me 36 DH 39
BFP 11/28/14 ~ MMC 12/29/14
TTCAL Siggy Challenge
My next appointment is Jan 21st so another month. And then if my cycle isn't at the right time for the tests, that will be mean ANOTHER month.
I just don't know right now. Sometimes I wonder if I should just throw in the towel and move on with our lives.
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Me(38)PCOS/Hypothyroid DH(43)Low T/ED
MMC at 10 weeks 03/2011 DD born 01/2012 TTC #2 since 04/2014
BFP 8/26/2016