My husband and I have been together for a little over 6 years. We dated for 5 1/2 and been married almost 9 months. I have always had a great relationship with his mother. However, it seemed like something snapped after our wedding. She has new views and thoughts about our everyday actions. So since we have told my parents and his parents the news that we are expecting random comments have been made from my mother in law. She called me mother to tell her how excited she was that I was pregnant. She then asked my mother what she was getting my husband and I for Christmas. She told them a swing for the baby. Which happened to be a swing I personally picked out with my mother. I figured we could get some big items out of the way early since my husband and I didn't really need or want anything. Immediately my mother in law said "why? She should be more worried about getting maternity clothes and buying clothes in general that fit better." Needless to say my mom changed the subject. Just so we are all on the same page I am a plus sized women who only wears jeans and shirts that are three quarter sleeves. I cover myself up and generally wear clothes a bit looser to be comfortable. Also the second we told my in laws we were pregnant my father in law started making a crib for us. I was also told by my doctor that for my weight I only need to gain 11 to 20 pounds. I am also eating extremely healthy and not eating empty calories. I had a previous conversation with my mother in law about this and all she could say is that she gained 50 pounds while pregnant and not to be surprised if I do too. I know this sounds like ranting but there have been other warning signs that this is just the beginning. An example would be when I was showing everyone my wedding ring/engagement ring at my wedding I made the comment how much my ring sparkled and her only comment was well mine does that too. So really I'm look for suggestions if I should disregard what she says and just pretend these things are being said or if I should take it to another level. She doesn't talk to her siblings due to sibling rivalry so I am worried a conversation with her will make things way worse. I want this pregnancy to go smoothly without the extra stress. Not to mention next week we are having Christmas at our house with my parents and in laws. So yeah, any ideas?
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Re: How to deal with an envious/competitive mother in law... Ideas?
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Unfortunately it sounds like your MIL knows exactly what she is doing and possible doesn't care. I think you are right a confrontation will most likely make it worse.
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If her comments are mean or particularly invasive that's when I'd ask DH to talk to her.
It seems like so far "no harm, no foul". Hope it stays that way.
Good luck