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Pregnant after a Loss
MrsSnyder124
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Cautiously Optimistic - An Intro
MrsSnyder124
member
Hello ladies,
I am moving over from the beautiful place that is TTCAL. I joined them back in May after losing our October angel. Yesterday I had a squinter. I'm still in shock and almost disbelief. I have so many walls up to protect my oh so sensitive heart that I haven't let myself get excited about it yet.
I love the mantras. And Im going to be looking back at those often 
I am looking forward to getting to know all of you ladies. And opening myself up to the idea that a rainbow is coming in August.
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Re: Cautiously Optimistic - An Intro
Me (34); DH (35)
BFP 11/25/13; Heard strong heartbeats for 3 weeks; Natural MC (1/15/14)
BFP 11/11/14 EDD 07/21/15 hoping for our rainbow!
Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
TTC #1 since November 2013
BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14
BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14
BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15
January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing
/:) serious side-eye over here
You just re-intro'd on TTCAL 7 days ago after not participating for months. So it's slightly misleading to say you are "moving over from the beautiful place that is TTCAL".
Oh and thanks for "rejoining" us during your 2ww. Super classy.
Best of luck.
TTC since Sept 2012
M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks
AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera
Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13
Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely
BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/14...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14
My Chart
***** All ALers welcome *****
You're not stealing my little bit of hope I'm holding onto . Sorry. Find a different way to make yourself feel good.
I fucking wished you well.
eta and if you've lurked for so many months, you would know that (re)introing during your 2ww is HIGHLY frowned upon. Good job following proper board etiquette; thanks for being such a good, upstanding TTCAL member.
TTC since Sept 2012
M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks
AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera
Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13
Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely
BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/14...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14
My Chart
***** All ALers welcome *****
Well you're a peach.
TTC since March 2012
BFP #1 1/29/13, EDD 10/9/13
BFP #3 8/11/14 EDD 4/22/14
I didn't originally re intro because it had been less than 6 months since I posted last and I never left the bump. I'm sorry I'm not hugely active but I don't post and expect support than give none . I have responded more than I have posted.
If my presence is not welcome here because my most recent post was during my 2ww I will get support elsewhere.
I'm sorry if I stepped on toes and you think my etiquette was poor. I have been nothing but positive and wished nothing but the best for everyone.
Thank you for the warmest of wishes. Especially since I'm too scared to announce to anyone other than my husband so this is the only reaction I've gotten. It was a super comforting one.
I'm pretty sure I get how you are feeling.
What I can't get on board with is you being extremely rude to a loved member of TTCAL who rightly pointed out how shitty it was of you to 1) pretend to have been an active member of TTCAL when you clearly weren't and 2) intro in your TWW.
But, clearly you don't want to understand because you've become super defensive, condescending and really abrasive when the honest truth was presented to you.
TTC since March 2012
BFP #1 1/29/13, EDD 10/9/13
BFP #3 8/11/14 EDD 4/22/14
No one knows what your life outside TB is like if you don't post and share with us. At any given time we knew who was having a hard time IRL. They are a community that support each other through losses of any sort. Family, pregnancies, children, even jobs. They are an amazing group of woman that got me through one of my darkest times. A time when if you were an active member I would of seen around.
You are more then welcome to apologize and stick around. Most of us get called out or flamed at some point in our bump journey. Hang around and learning board etiquette. This is a beautiful community just like TTCAL is. We just don't do well with flyby's.
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
So you had a squinter yesterday?? You were posting on the Oct. Angel mamas check-in yesterday and you also posted on another thread on the board today. Do you not see how hurtful that is? You had a BFP and were still posting over on TTCAL. That's not how it works.
I get being scared and having your walls up. But that does NOT give you the right to hurt ladies here and on TTCAL. Speaking for myself, I'm not in the best place right now, and this crap seriously brought up alot of emotions for me.
So good for you. I hope this is your rainbow.
AFM, I'm going to go back to TTCAL where I belong and mourn my two angels. Then tonight I'm going to drink wine and cry myself to sleep bc that's what I do "to make myself feel good".
TTC since Sept 2012
M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks
AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera
Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13
Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely
BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/14...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14
My Chart
***** All ALers welcome *****
I rejoined because all of the 2ww that were failing were getting to be too much and getting hard to deal with alone . I needed support. I won't apologize that this one didn't go as expected .
OP, no one is shaming you. I pointed out in your post on TTCAL that you titled "MIA" that you should re-intro not only because it had been over six months from your last post but also because you had barely posted prior to "disappearing" from the board. You popped in last week to say "hey, I'm back" and we had no idea who you were. Thanks for the re-intro.
You now admitted that you used us in your last week of your 2WW because it was hard on you to get BFN after BFN. Glad we were there for you to use.
Generally, when someone says they are from TTCAL it implies they were an active supportive member. Being from TTCAL is not a requirement to be on PgAL - but don't blow smoke up people's asses and make it sound like you were a supportive member of a community when you were not.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
Edit: This is what I get for responding without reading the other responses. OP, take a step back and stop being so rude to our beloved members of TTCAL who are actually active and supportive.
Yet you said
I don't understand how this does not imply that you were a poster there??? @LaRomana09 and @uromys gave you good advice about apologizing. I strongly suggest you follow it.
(((Hugs)) for all the TTCALers who were hurt by seeing this today. Especially @blackbird818, @CFearsy, @ktlovess, @PinkCamino, @HoldingOutHope
TTC since Sept 2012
M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks
AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera
Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13
Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely
BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/14...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14
My Chart
***** All ALers welcome *****
BFP #1 12/23/13 MMC 01/24/14 @ 9w5days
TTC since Sept 2012
M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks
AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera
Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13
Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely
BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/14...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14
My Chart
***** All ALers welcome *****
Please read these responses tomorrow and take a second or two to really think about why the ladies of TTCAL are upset.
You came back from being MIA during the end of your 2WW in order for us to give you support.
You got your positive but decided to go in and post a good luck to someone who does not know you because your very first post in her check-in happened the day before. The day before. Plus, she is having surgery and is still very much not pregnant. It was the height of insensitivity for you to do this. Try to understand that. Please try.
You immediately updated your siggy to include your BFP - with zero regard to the ladies in TTCAL who will see that siggy without any sort of warning. This includes the person that you felt it was so important for you to go back and wish luck to.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
I take it very seriously that you treated ladies that i have known, loved, cried with, and celebrated with such disdain. Truly, I wish you the best, but you need an attitude adjustment. Take some time, breathe. If you can't do that, don't post. Simple as that.