TTC troubles

MrsDouglasRN · December 2014

Hi Ladies,

My husband are I are trying to conceive after a miscarriage resulting in a D&C on Aug 31st of this year. I know it hasnt been long since that happened, but getting pregnant the first time was pretty easy (it only took once)... and now that we are REALLY TRYING, it seems to not work out, although I know 3 months to some is nothing, and I am VERY sorry for those of you that have been dealing with this a lot longer then we have. I started tracking my BBT this month (i feel its all over the place) and my cervical mucous (which feels the same to me everyday... sticky/creamy)... my cervical position is higher over the last few days though. and I started taking dollar store ovulation tests on 12/9 and so far all negative. (i figure if my dr. told me the dollar store pregnancy tests were just like ones in the office, then the ovulation tests would be fine too). We also currently have sex every other day to better our odds. My cycle this month started on 12/1 and it is my 3rd cycle since my D&C, my first period after my D&C was 10/1-10/4, and my cycles average 30 days. Any advice you all have would be GREATLY appreciated. I am hoping this cycle does the trick... but I just dont have positive thoughts on it. I think I am in my head so much, and worried my D&C might have caused problems, even though my Dr. said it went GREAT!

welly01 · December 2014

melissadouglas said:

Hi Ladies,

My husband are I are trying to conceive after a miscarriage resulting in a D&C on Aug 31st of this year. I know it hasnt been long since that happened, but getting pregnant the first time was SO EASY (it only took once)... and now that we are REALLY TRYING, it seems to not work out. I started tracking my BBT this month (i feel its all over the place) and my cervical mucous (which feels the same to me everyday... sticky/creamy)... my cervical position is higher over the last few days though. and I started taking dollar store ovulation tests on 12/9 and so far all negative. (i figure if my dr. told me the dollar store pregnancy tests were just like ones in the office, then the ovulation tests would be fine too). My cycle this month started on 12/1 and it is my 3rd cycle since my D&C, my first period after my D&C was 10/1-10/4, and my cycles average 30 days. Any advice you all have would be GREATLY appreciated. I am hoping this cycle does the trick... but I just dont have positive thoughts on it. I think I am in my head so much, and worried my D&C might have caused problems, even though my Dr. said it went GREAT!

I'm sorry for your loss. There's really no "trick". Just keep charting and making sure you're having well-timed sex. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive. Also, even though its already been a few months, your body might still be getting back to normal after the D&C.

flyoffeve · December 2014

Welcome. I am so sorry for your loss.

Read the blog linked at the top of the page.

Post a link to your chart.

Ask questions like this in the Crazy Train.

blackbird818 · December 2014

Welcome. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Can you post a link to your chart? We can get more info if we can see your chart.

Honestly, as far as advice goes, just know that your worries & thoughts are normal. We can all relate to stressing about TTC. I would suggest reading thru some posts and offering support where appropriate. This is a great community of supportive women with incredible knowledge.

buggirl72 · December 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

EOD more than covers your bases. It also can make telling your cervical mucous hard to read. I'm not experienced with dollar store OPKs but I would just make sure you are following the direction for the OPKs that you have (do they tell you to use FMU or do they tell you to hold for at least 3-4 hours and test in the afternoon).

If you have a chart link that would help people give you their interpretation - especially since you are saying that it is all over the place.

Finally, @flyoffeve, this question does not have to be in the CT. The CT is for waiting to O and 2WW posts that are of the variety of vents/I'm-going-crazy, etc. OP is giving an intro and asking for advice. Yes, she provides a bunch of data about what's going on with her body but that does not kick her question to the crazy train.

Nikolie93 · December 2014

I am sorry for your loss. I have to echo what others have said, it can take up to a year for a healthy couple to conceive. Unfortunately just because it happened quickly the first time does not mean it will the second.

You said your temps are all over the place. Are you temping at the same time every morning, are you doing it before you get out of bed, and have you had a good 3 hours of sleep prior? I had no idea those things were so important when I first thought about temping!

welly01 · December 2014

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.

ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

buggirl72 · December 2014

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.
ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

I know. It kind of sucks but as far as the medical community is concerned, you achieved pregnancy.

welly01 · December 2014

buggirl72 said:

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.
ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

I know. It kind of sucks but as far as the medical community is concerned, you achieved pregnancy.

So if you keep getting pregnant but can't stay pregnant, how do you gauge when you should see an RE? After 3 losses?

rmpar29 · December 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss. PP have told you exactly what I was going to...it can take up to a year for a healthy couple. @Nikolie93 also addressed the temping questions I was going to ask. I hope that your charts will make more sense after you've temped for awhile.

buggirl72 · December 2014

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.
ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

I know. It kind of sucks but as far as the medical community is concerned, you achieved pregnancy.

So if you keep getting pregnant but can't stay pregnant, how do you gauge when you should see an RE? After 3 losses?

Pretty much - 3 early losses (sometimes 2 depending on doctor/insurance) earn you a trip to an RE for RPL testing. That's a pretty generalized statement but holds true for most people.

bfonz619 · December 2014

Welcome and I am sorry for your loss. While there aren't any "tricks" you can count on, you can learn a lot of great information from TB. Best of luck to you.

aswedishbee · December 2014

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.
ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

I didn't know that either - it makes sense that it would start over though. Ugh.

to the OP :: Sorry for your loss and GL with your charting; capturing and recording accurate data is a major step in the process.

catvaughn5002 · December 2014

Welcome to the board! I'm very sorry for your loss. Although there are no great secrets that make TTC any easier if you stick around this board you will see a wealth of information.

kreardon11 · December 2014

aswedishbee said:

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.
ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

I didn't know that either - it makes sense that it would start over though. Ugh.

to the OP :: Sorry for your loss and GL with your charting; capturing and recording accurate data is a major step in the process.

Crap. I didn't know that either..

buggirl72 · December 2014

OP, I just saw your post on PgAL where you had asked the same question and they had directed you over here. Since you have only been charting two weeks it is quite normal for your chart to be all over the place. It's really about seeing a pattern at the end of your cycle. Charting is not used to predict ovulation - only to confirm.

Since CD1 was on 12/1 (and it looks like that is when you started charting) it would be completely normal for your temps to be rocky/higher for the first 5 days or so during AF. If you are not using Fertility Friend, I encourage you to start an account on that site. The free version works fine and it is what the vast majority of ladies on the bump use.

[Deleted User] · December 2014

furrypaws said:

buggirl72 said:

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

welly01 said:

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

I didn't know this.
ETA: remove stupid smiley face.

I know. It kind of sucks but as far as the medical community is concerned, you achieved pregnancy.

So if you keep getting pregnant but can't stay pregnant, how do you gauge when you should see an RE? After 3 losses?

Pretty much - 3 early losses (sometimes 2 depending on doctor/insurance) earn you a trip to an RE for RPL testing. That's a pretty generalized statement but holds true for most people.

Yup. They wouldn't start any testing for us until 3 losses. It often seems to be an insurance issue...fuckers...

I starting seeing an RE after 1 loss. It all depends on your overall health and the regularity of your cycle.

Insurance depends on what codes your dr bills. Testing by my OB was covered because it was billed under miscarriage. Testing at my RE was billed infertility and not covered. Testing going forward will be under repeat miscarriage so it will be covered again.

flyoffeve · December 2014

buggirl72 said:

I'm sorry for your loss. You are right, three months of trying is nothing. As @welly01 said, it can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. For you, this twelve months starts again from after your m/c.

EOD more than covers your bases. It also can make telling your cervical mucous hard to read. I'm not experienced with dollar store OPKs but I would just make sure you are following the direction for the OPKs that you have (do they tell you to use FMU or do they tell you to hold for at least 3-4 hours and test in the afternoon).

If you have a chart link that would help people give you their interpretation - especially since you are saying that it is all over the place.

Finally, @flyoffeve, this question does not have to be in the CT. The CT is for waiting to O and 2WW posts that are of the variety of vents/I'm-going-crazy, etc. OP is giving an intro and asking for advice. Yes, she provides a bunch of data about what's going on with her body but that does not kick her question to the crazy train.

I'm sorry. She has not come back and read the replies. I posted quickly and saw it as a non-intro first post, "just going to ask my question for my situation and run kind of post." Thanks for clarification on the CT.

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