my first baby

candy192 · December 2014

Am Due in february on the 18th Am 20 years old. Am scared of giving birth i would like some tips from mums with experience it might help thanks x

Alygohome · December 2014

Don't poop on the table.

Smyers2girls · December 2014

Unfortunately, there's not much advice we can give you that will make the idea of birth any less scary. Sometimes it's still a little scary to us too, even having been through it before. Like others said, trust your doctor, and know when it's all said and done, you'll be so happy to have your LO that the birth process you went through will seem like nothing.

cndupree15 · December 2014

I had my DD at 20 and that was 7 years ago... I remember bits and pieces of labor(the dr told me his grandma pushed harder after her 2nd stroke and he wouldn't come back until I got serious. He was totally kidding and it gave me motivation) but I don't remember the pain, the contractions... anything. I remember that the nurses are more helpful than your dr. They are the ones with you for endless hours. Say thank you. Take their advice. I mean obviously take the drs advice too. Just don't be shitty to the nurses. They can make or break your delivery.

Basically after all that rambling... you wont remember much. I just remember going home with a beautiful little girl.

jennjilljo · December 2014

Listen to the Dr and your body. Don't be afraid to get the epidural if you need it. Come to terms with the fact that this is out of your hands. All you can do is go in and push. Trust in the medical professionals you choose to have around you.

Beth.1212 · December 2014

You know yourself best, but for me, making sure that I was knowledgable about what can happen and what is likely to happen helped me. Consider taking a childbirth class. It doesn't have to be lengthy or advocate a specific pain management technique - it just has to get you familiar with the stages of labor, what to expect, what happens in a trouble free birth, what can go wrong, how the doctors address that to keep you and baby safe, etc. The fear of the unknown is greater than the fear of the known!

I have to be a slight voice of dissent on the "trust your doctor" front. Consider doing some reading on best practices. There are a lot of great OBs who provide excellent care. There are also a lot of OBs that heavily overuse interventions and their patients pay the price. I really highly recommend the book "Obstetric myths vs. research realities." It's pricey, so that'd probably be something to ask your librarian to try and get through interlibrary loan if you're interested.

Definitely listen to what your doctor has to say and give it due weight, but also consider what you've learned and don't be afraid to ask questions and advocate for yourself. For example, for a healthy mother having a problem-free pregnancy, there is generally no need to induce if you're only days past your due date. (Now if there's something specifically wrong, ex. preeclempsia, then that's a totally different story!) Some doctors will push for mothers to schedule an induction just after their due date, but most women with uncomplicated pregnancies will spontaneously go into labor when they're ready to, and that can happen a couple of *weeks* after your due date. Every situation is unique and I'm betting there are situations where an induction is the best option for a healthy mother with a previously uncomplicated pregnancy. You need to make sure that you understand why any given medical procedure / intervention is needed, though, and that you're comfortable with it. If time allows, don't be afraid to ask for a second opinion, too.

Think about what specifically makes you nervous. Is it the pain? Then look into pain management techniques and different drug options, the pros and the cons, and make informed decisions about how you're going to handle the pain. Is the the prospective health risks to you and/or the baby? Look at the stats on the incidence of problems in developed nations - L&D is really pretty darn safe - and at all of the facilities and specialists that your hospital has on hand to help with any problems. Whatever is scaring you, try to gather the info you need to calm yourself down.

GL!

candy192 · December 2014

Thank you everyone for replying bk its help me in a way.by birth is going to be hard no boby said it going to be easy but that Part of birth am glad am having my little girl Matilda that will make me go weak at the knees seing my little angle xx

mle106 · December 2014

candy192 said:
Thank you everyone for replying bk its help me in a way.by birth is going to be hard no boby said it going to be easy but that Part of birth am glad am having my little girl Matilda that will make me go weak at the knees seing my little angle xx

Good luck! I bet she'll be a really acute angle.

chicagojackie · December 2014

Well...

Meggy82 · December 2014

I've read that most women poop while giving natural birth. That's the last thing I'd be worried about. These nurses change bed pans and diapers on patients all the time. If you try to get your baby out while trying to keep the poop in your just not going to be able to relax down there. I say let it go

nbad311 · December 2014

poop.

jennjilljo · December 2014

Meggy82 said:

I've read that most women poop while giving natural birth. That's the last thing I'd be worried about. These nurses change bed pans and diapers on patients all the time. If you try to get your baby out while trying to keep the poop in your just not going to be able to relax down there. I say let it go

Agreed.

acpruchnik · December 2014

jennjilljoite said:

Meggy82 said:

I've read that most women poop while giving natural birth. That's the last thing I'd be worried about. These nurses change bed pans and diapers on patients all the time. If you try to get your baby out while trying to keep the poop in your just not going to be able to relax down there. I say let it go

Agreed.

The fact that you found that meme makes me love you even more :x

wirtlehm · December 2014

Alygohome said:

Don't poop on the table.

This is a legit fear of mine... I know, I know, everyone says you won't even know... but man I'll be super embarrassed if this happens to me

jeanzcarol · December 2014

Personally I'm pretty psyched about a great poop that someone else has to clean up.

misshart00 · December 2014

I didn't poop with the last one. But I definitely went to the bathroom before my epi. I'm nervous about it, but I'm also kind of whatever. It happens.

aybo · December 2014

My sister in law pooped but no one said anything. She asked the nurse and we'll the nurse said don't worry honey you will not be the last. So just don't worry or ask. How about never knowing won't hurt you. And you won't be embarrassed for dame sure. Best of luck to everyone! The PUSH is aproching fast!!!

jennjilljo · December 2014

aybo said:
My sister in law pooped but no one said anything. She asked the nurse and we'll the nurse said don't worry honey you will not be the last. So just don't worry or ask. How about never knowing won't hurt you. And you won't be embarrassed for dame sure. Best of luck to everyone! The PUSH is aproching fast!!!

I made it clear to DH and the nurses that if I or anyone else were to ask that the answer wad always to be no.

erobbins09 · December 2014

Isn't our last poop on the table probably the last somewhat enjoyable one we will have for a while? I'm FAR more terrified by pooping after I deliver...

lynnz52 · December 2014

This is my first baby and I have no idea what delivery is going to be like. I'm just imagining this bowling ball coming out and what that might involve. A little poop is the least of my worries. I just hope everything heals back together afterwards.

lynnz52 · December 2014

thedish0207 said:

lynnz52 said:

This is my first baby and I have no idea what delivery is going to be like. I'm just imagining this bowling ball coming out and what that might involve. A little poop is the least of my worries. I just hope everything heals back together afterwards.

I can honestly say I've never heard of someone comparing childbirth to a bowling ball coming out. That's a new one!

Haha, really?! Like I said.. it's my first. Would you say better or worse than a bowling ball? How about a watermelon? No I'm joking, you don't have to answer that. I'm sure he'll be the cutest bowling ball I will ever see!

misshart00 · December 2014

lynnz52 said:

thedish0207 said:

lynnz52 said:

This is my first baby and I have no idea what delivery is going to be like. I'm just imagining this bowling ball coming out and what that might involve. A little poop is the least of my worries. I just hope everything heals back together afterwards.

I can honestly say I've never heard of someone comparing childbirth to a bowling ball coming out. That's a new one!

Haha, really?! Like I said.. it's my first. Would you say better or worse than a bowling ball? How about a watermelon? No I'm joking, you don't have to answer that. I'm sure he'll be the cutest bowling ball I will ever see!

I've always compared it to a watermelon coming out your nostril. But that's usually when trying to explain it to a man.

acpruchnik · December 2014

I've spent the better part of a year wishing I could just manage one good poop and the first chance I get to have a good one will be go-time. Pushing my giant baby out of my poor vagina will be my own personal shit show. Literally.

And not a single fuck will be given

nbad311 · December 2014

I've been prepping DH by pooping with the bathroom door open.
JK...... or not?????

michelle142 · December 2014

I don't know about everyone else, but I'm more concerned with the baby that will be coming out of the front hole. The back hole doesn't concern me.

Boehrig2 · December 2014

I second pp's bit about a childbirth education class.
I'm also very excited about having a doula. Our first meeting with her was worth her weight in gold. She brought up a few things my DH hadn't thought about and other stuff we hadn't talked about. Great! And she recommended clearing out all my fears. I had just found an ebook that was about "birthing without fear" and takes you through some journaling to process those fears. It's win-win for me because I'm a writer and reflector by nature.
Maybe something like that could also help you?
And there's a difference between down right FEAR and a healthy dose of respect for what our bodies will go through. Me? I'm not there just but would love to respect what my body will do, trust it, and enter in with peace. ... Until I scream 3 hrs later

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