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So...the H gives me a hard time for going to bed at 7:30 (usual bedtime is 8 due to my great schedule) bc I'm exhausted. The culmination of 4 nights of 5 hrs of sleep. He turns on the light when he puts DS down. He's super loud in spite of me and DD sleeping. Then when DS starts making noises around 9, he drops him off into bed with me where he begins kicking my head repeatedly with his little baby feet. Eventually the H comes to bed and sits on his phone while said kicking and laughing continue. After H's failure to act, I take DS back to his bed. DD proceeds to wake up Two more times at night. Both times the H wants me to feed her. Then, bc I'm up, he puts his arm around me for some "romance." AYFKM? That's "are you fing kidding me?" for future reference. I'll be using that often.
One boy (11.26.12) and one girl (2.28.14)
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Re: SOS
Vocalize that you are desperate for one night of good sleep. He needs to give you what you need. To him, sex may be very important but your needs (sleep for quality of life) are also extremely important.
DH learned early on to NEVER wake me for romance.
So DH is trying to help because he knows I am upset about my weight.
BFF sent us a box for thanksgiving. 1/2 way through he took them to his office. Okay fine, it's just the two of us and I really don't need them around.
Last week (thurs) we get a big box for Xmas. I shelve them without opening because we have my parents and two brothers coming to visit for Xmas plus my other friend and her family coming for Xmas dinner. I tell DH - don't touch the cookies up here they're for entertaining.
Last night as I'm getting ready for the week I see - cookies are gone.
HE TOOK THEM TO THE OFFICE THE NEXT DAY. THE VERY DAY AFTER I TOLD HIM TO LEAVE THEM ALONE.
he tells me: I just didn't think you needed them around the house; we can buy more.
Sure, DH, I can buy shitty grocery store cookies, but I can't just swing by a bakery and buy 36 gorgeous iced cookies suitable for guests. Now that's one more thing I have to add to my already-too-long holiday list.
And also - I just had your baby in September. Deal with me fat and love me for it (and really he does, he is just trying to help)
And yes, I get that I'm totally irrational about cookies. And no, I didn't vent like this to him.
Thanks for letting me get it off my chest.
DH is in NY. He left at 7:30 yesterday. At 2:30 today two out of three kids have dr. appointments. I also have to take the well child. This involves waking the youngest from nap at DC (no fever, he's there), pulling the oldest from a station that will determine A or B or C grade on report card and dragging the well one into the germ infested ped's office.
If DH were in town this week OR if he were here yesterday I could have done Urgent Care - but no way was I taking all three kids by myself to Urgent Care and skipping my evening out. It would be nice if DH wasn't travelling non stop before the holidays and over weekends.
However, all I hear is "woe is me, I'm having all this stress about one gift". Meanwhile I am decorating the entire house, shopping for my family's gifts, his family's gifts, our friends gifts, hostess gift for his friend's holiday party, planning our holiday meal menu's and shopping for all the food for said menu's. I haven't even gotten to wrapping any of the gifts yet which he will also not help with (he always has his mother wrap my gift) and the baking that needs to get done as well.
Seriously, He LOVES Christmas but never wants to do any of the work other than maybe putting up decorations outside and cutting down our tree and putting it up in the stand. No wonder he loves Christmas.
And before kids I was perfectly fine with letting the holiday fall flat on it's face because of his lack of effort. And it did fall flat in our home for pretty much 4 out of 6 years we were together/married before kids. We celebrated in all of our family's homes so really the only task we had was gift buying and wrapping.
I can't believe I keep falling for it.
Man cold...I don't think I need to elaborate.
DH's use of the Royal We is driving me insane. As in "Did we take care of xyz?" when he knows full well he didn't do it and probably won't do it, he just wants to know if I did it and thinks this is a nice way of asking.
For example last night it was "do WE want to decorate the mantle for Christmas this year?" because I haven't done it yet. Well yes WE do, honey, why don't you get cracking on that then? Oh right, because I am the one who actually does it and your mancold has rendered you completely useless.
I sometimes feel like my DH is also one of those that expects the Magic of Christmas to just happen.
You are not in this fight alone: For real, DH just opened our box of chocolates for DS' teacher.
WHAT?! WHAT?!!!! As if the cookies weren't bad enough!
He also hid the pretzels.
To be fair, I do always say that I don't want this kind of stuff in the house
I have to vent here or I will lose it on DH (over something trivial in the grand scheme of things).
This summer on the beach we collected sand dollars. I dried them and DH put them in the garage in a cup. I told him they were important and not to move them again. He transferred them from the cup to ????. Now they are ????
Each year our elf brings a family ornament. This year it was to be a clear globe with the sand dollars in it. Hard to do without the EMEFFING sand dollars. DH is of course in NY and texting me random places to look in the garage (which by the way is a DISASTER because he literally throws things out the back door then shoves to piles to make more room).
I swear I am going to take a day off and clean the garage the way I want it to be and then prohibit him from going in there.
If I buy sand dollars and pretend they are the ones from the beach is that awful??
ughh...I totally forgot to get something for DS2's preschool teachers. This thread just reminded me. DS1, DD, and I have all been sick for the last few days, and I am helping plan the Christmas party for DS1. I was so focused on that, I completely forgot about teacher gifts for DS2.
Maybe I can drop off a card with a gift card tomorrow.