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KH7337 · December 2014

Hi, December 1 I got a BFP and started miscarrying yesterday. My husband was very supportive and asked if we could try again soon. I was pretty surprised, but I don't think that it hit him as much as it did for me. I'm still having a hard time with this part, but know that we can try again. I hope that I can get to know you all, and pray for 2015 babies!

PinkCamino · December 2014

I'm sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here.

The title? Remove it. It's horribly offensive to ladies like myself who have real "baby dust" because we've had to cremate our children.

ETA: Just an FYI - after reading your threads elsewhere I see that you are very much convinced that your loss was "god's plan". I'm glad that brings you comfort but please be cautioned about using that to console the ladies here. There are many of us who don't respond to well to it.

welly01 · December 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome.

rubysi · December 2014

Welcome. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you find some support here. I will warn you that "babydust" can be offensive to some people here. I would advise editing your title. Please take the time to read the post at the top of our main page.

kreardon11 · December 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like PP - Can we please edit the title?

catvaughn5002 · December 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. However, I agree with the other ladies that the title of your post is offensive to many and should be changed ASAP!!!

rslh10 · December 2014

I will just echo what everyone else has said. +1000000 for the warning pink gave you about your loss being gods plan. Nope.

eta-clarification

Nikolie93 · December 2014

Welcome and I am sorry for your loss.

I echo what others are saying about removing that from your title. I understand that you're new and you didn't know but it is hurtful to many ladies on there.

Here is the link to the blog that was mentioned above, I found it very helpful when I first got here!

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12383490/read-this-before-posting-here#latest

buggirl72 · December 2014

I'm sorry for your loss.

Have you seen your doctor and been cleared to TTC again so soon after your loss? Since your loss started two weeks after getting your positive, I would be shocked if your doctor did not advice you to not only avoid anything in your vagina for at least two weeks after bleeding stops (including no baths) but to avoid getting pregnant for one or more normal cycles.

While it's great your husband wants to jump on the band wagon again, there is nothing wrong with saying that you need to wait to heal emotionally as well as physically.

I also echo what the PPs have said about baby dust. If you are unsure of how to edit a post title, you should see what looks like a cog next to your post that when you click on it gives you the option to edit. Thank you in advance for doing this. I cannot even begin to explain to you how it makes my heart race when I see that term (second tri loss mom with cremated child).

flyoffeve · December 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. Still need that title edit. While you are at it, also change your profile pic.

megrae12 · December 2014

I am sorry for your loss, but the title has got to go. Make sure you read the blog and lurk a little more before posting again, this will give you a chance to know your audience better.

catvaughn5002 · December 2014

I would just like to add that I hate people that post and run!!!! Especially when the post is SO STUPID @-)

PinkCamino · December 2014

catvaughn5002 said:
I would just like to add that I hate people that post and run!!!! Especially when the post is SO STUPID @-)

Woah! I wouldn't say the post is stupid. Insensitive maybe but stupid! Nope, that's harsh.

catvaughn5002 · December 2014

@PinkCamino - Insensitive I agree! I apologize for sounding too harsh that wasn't my intention.

edit:wording

buggirl72 · December 2014

PinkCamino said:

I would just like to add that I hate people that post and run!!!! Especially when the post is SO STUPID @-)
Woah! I wouldn't say the post is stupid. Insensitive maybe but stupid! Nope, that's harsh.

I agree - and only the title was insensitive.Her post was a short intro where she avoided mentioning that she has an LC at home so maybe she did read the post at top first. The term she used in her title is an unfortunate one that is common on other forums. She's not the first person to come here and be surprised that people find it an offensive term.

As far as the avatar, yes, if she is going to become a member of this community it would be nice if she changed it because it does include her newborn son and pictures of babies is one thing this board tries to keep members safe from seeing.

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