I am super fucking pissed off. Hurt. Sad. All of it.
Long story short - DH and I ended up inviting MIL to go for DDs pictures with Santa. While we were there she was looking at the photos on the computer and said she didn't like the best one (where she is smiling and the one we were choosing) and asked the photographer if we could take another one. We like it, we don't want another one - but thanks? No big deal was made.
Fast forward to last night where DH was with his brother and brother's g/f and apparently - MIL told brother's g/f that she didn't like the picture of Zoey we chose because "She looked too FAT and she's going to get a complex."
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. My 4 month old baby is too fat? SHE'S A BABY! I know my baby is perfect - that's not what upsets me. I'm upset that she's being talked about behind my back in a negative way, that her grandmother is more concerned about how she looks and shes only 4 months, that she's implying i'm giving her a complex because I chose a picture where she is smiling with Santa.
Background: MIL always says we are going to give her a complex if we call her "Chubby" endearingly. As if we are going to be calling out 13 year old DD, "Chubby."
I can roll a lot of shit off my back. DH doesn't think it's a big deal because he's used to his mom and her behavior/lack of filter. 10 years in - I thought I was used to it too, but this is unacceptable. I don't know what to do. I'm not a confrontational person, especially with family. I'm more passive aggressive - I don't know if this is something to speak up about because If I don't will it just go on and on.
Guess she won't be getting a picture of Zoey with Santa - since she doesn't like it anyway.