Attended a gender reveal party?

supersarah77 · December 2014

Has anyone actually attended a gender reveal party? Was it fun? I have never known anyone that has had one. Maybe it's a regional thing?

peteresa · December 2014

They are especially exciting if the parents don't even know the sex of the baby, it's a really special time for everyone involved

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squeezebean · December 2014

nope nope nope nope nope

CorryS12 · December 2014

I've only been to one. I brought flowers instead of a baby gift. I known the couple struggled a little to get pregnant so I was super happy for them and didn't mind celebrating the reveal of their baby's gender. Depending on how close u are to the couple or either parent it can be special to be included in this type of event. It was wine and appetizers and just socializing. So it just felt like a cocktail party.

Cant say I would be equally excited to partake in a not so close friend or acquaintance or co-worker's gender reveal.

I plan to do something for my immediate family only because they are SO EXCITED about my LO. They love hearing about any detail regarding LO. And since I cant leave out the in laws I guess they will be there too. But it's less of a party and more of a "hey-u all get to find out at the same time." No formal invite or gifts or games.

Lezzie82 · December 2014

CorryS12 said:
I've only been to one. I brought flowers instead of a baby gift. I known the couple struggled a little to get pregnant so I was super happy for them and didn't mind celebrating the reveal of their baby's gender. Depending on how close u are to the couple or either parent it can be special to be included in this type of event. It was wine and appetizers and just socializing. So it just felt like a cocktail party.

Cant say I would be equally excited to partake in a not so close friend or acquaintance or co-worker's gender reveal.

I plan to do something for my immediate family only because they are SO EXCITED about my LO. They love hearing about any detail regarding LO. And since I cant leave out the in laws I guess they will be there too. But it's less of a party and more of a "hey-u all get to find out at the same time." No formal invite or gifts or games.

This is what I wanted to do but I don't think I'll be well enough to do it anymore

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I wanted to have a basic get together with my close family (mom, dad, grandmother and DH's dad) and two friend couples that we have both known for forever pretty much. Have a nice dinner, fajita bar, and then bring out a surprise cake at the end and say "here we go, time to find out!" And cut into it. I want the element of surprise because so far with both pregnancies I haven't left anything a mystery to my family.... I called my mom three minutes after the double lines appeared lol. I just think it sounds fun! But I have a very strict no present rule. Were trying to get rid of stuff, our garage is an episode of Hoarders.

CorryS12 · December 2014

@Lezzie82‌ u just described my perfect gender reveal "party."

I'm sorry ur not feeling so great. Hope something gives and u can go thru w a gender reveal of some type.

stephaniesee · December 2014

I've been invited but never attended. TBH I didn't care about the sex of their baby either way and I'm sure no one cares about the sex of ours. PLUS I was confused by theirs, they already knew the sex.... Doesnt that defeat the purpose?

Here's my two cents (bc I know you all care SO much) - I compare this experience to our wedding. No one cares as much as you do, and that's ok, so enjoy this time for yourself and when you do host a party for it, make it a damn good one so everyone has fun :-bd

a316b · December 2014

Our best friends had one for their twins after struggling with infertility. No one brought gifts, or was expected to. It was pizza and cheesecake, hangout with your friends.

Before they revealed, they took bets as to who knew correct gender combo (2boys) and had prizes (gift cards to starbucks) for those who got it right.

If it wasn't family or really close friends I would probably skip it.

stephaniesee · December 2014

@a316b‌ SEE! Now that's a cute and fun idea!

alleycat39 · December 2014

Never been to an actual "party" but we did do a gender reveal cake with our family at Thanksgiving. I felt that parties were a little AW-ish, but I felt an intimate thing with family only would be more special.

mylittleladies1229 · December 2014

I had one for my first which were twins. We struggled with infertility and were excited to be having children, damn it. We only invited family, no one brought gifts (nor would I have thought they would) and we offered lots of desserts. I don't see the big deal in having a party for your first child, especially because grandparents and aunties are usually as excited as you are to have children in the family.

SassyPants150 · December 2014

I actually don't mind them...I think it's fun to see the excitement for the parents. They are small and simple here. Just family and close friends with food. The last one was planned by one of our other friends (who begged me to let her plan one for me). I do care for my close friends and family. An acquaintance not so much.

smontz · December 2014

So far all of my friends have either had a reveal party or been on team green (I am from New Orleans). I've always loved going to them...especially if the parents find out at the same time with everyone. I know it's not everyone's favorite thing to attend, but I just love celebrating that special moment with the parents.

We are having one in a week and although we are trying to keep it small, I'm actually having a lot of our friends and extended family expressing that they want to be there. I thought it would be more of a "no one except the immediate family really cares" situation, but for some reason a lot of people have been saying "I want to come!" whenever they hear about it. I genuinely thought it would be the opposite response.

Swanky929 · December 2014

I've been to 2 of them. They seem to be pretty popular around me (Philadelphia area). We are doing a modified reveal. We are going to be with our parents and sibling on January 3rd so we decided to wait until then to look at our ultrasound results for 12/29. Nothing crazy, just a special moment that we can share with our immediate families.

smontz · December 2014

Also, I think what happens in my area is that our friends and family will use any excuse to get together and have a party. I just realized that may be why they are so common around here. :-)

lauranicole91 · December 2014

Yup! And it was a lot of fun. It was our next door neighbor. She's due 4 weeks before me. They didn't even know, only her mom knew.

Everyone wore a pin for if they thought it was boy or girl. There was pink and blue punch. I didn't stay long enough to see what food she had (I had to go to work, I definitely would have stayed).

Anyways when it came time to find out the mom handed out disguised cans of silly string. The parents to be stood in the middle of the room. We counted to three and then sprayed. Out came pink silly string and everyone starting squealing, cheering, or crying. It was so much fun.

But I know I'm in the minority. I really think it depends on your family and your circle of friends. I also think it's better when the parents to be don't know.

Eta: and fwiw I'm not super close with my next door neighbors, I just think babies are exciting. No one brought gifts.

adetheridge · December 2014

I have never been to one and honestly never heard of anyone doing one near me. (NC) If that is something that the couple wants to do then that's fine to me. I do feel like it is a little over the top though. Fiance and I are just going to take a picture for our family to announce the sex on Christmas. No need to invite a lot of people to a party they probably give two craps less about.

tiggyt · December 2014

My cousin had one a couple months ago. I saw the video of the "reveal" part on Facebook (they all bit into cupcakes) and it looked like a pretty chill "party." Just a group of people who normally get together for stuff anyway having a little barbecue in the yard and then eating these cupcakes with pink in the middle.

My mom thought that idea was so cute she wants to have one for us. I normally wouldn't suggest one or have one for ourselves, but since Mom wants to I think it will be fun. It will just be family and close family friends, after-dinner cocktail party, no gifts, and then we'll eat the cupcakes. It's Friday and I'm pretty excited for it. It's my parents' first grandchild, my grandmother's first great-grandchild, and basically the first baby anybody's seen in a long time, so people are pretty excited.

annerz22 · December 2014

I've been to one for my friend. She had a reveal because she was still upset over her first being a boy that she figured if she had a reveal party and it was another boy she would be forced to hide her disappointment and would have to keep herself from crying. Yikes. As you can guess, it was another boy, and it was super awkward for everyone involved.

I am in the camp that it's pretty AWish. People brought gifts and I thought that was weird. I guess I know my family and friends are excited for us but really DH and I are the only two who really fully care. It's going to be a boy or a girl, it's not like it's really THAT big of a surprise.

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gsancho · December 2014

The only time I've heard of one not being a pain in the ass for everyone was when it was super casual and more of a house party with a bonus of learning the sex. A friend of mine had a cookout and passed out cupcakes that revealed the sex. Nothing over the top.

lgsdesigner · December 2014

I've never been to one, but wouldn't mind going. I like going to baby showers and anything baby-related, so I think it would be fun. But-- it would have to be someone really close to me. Not some random coworker, etc.

brose1117 · December 2014

I've never been to one. I don't think they are that popular around here. We should find out Wednesday at our anatomy scan and are having a "sex party" Thursday night at our house for my immediate family (DH's family lives 4hrs away and will get a phone call). We weren't going to do anything but my mom and sisters are so excited to find out and all want to find out together. (We usually have dinner all together at least once a week sometimes twice already so this is not a big deal) I know they'd like for DH and I to find out with them too but I want that special moment to be shared between us at the u/s. I'm planning on making cupcakes with either blue or pink on the inside as well as having disguised silly string cans to have fun with post dinner. Everyone is planning on wearing blue or pink shirts. It will be very simple but I'm excited to have this moment with my favorite people.

lgsdesigner · December 2014

Smilz4782 said:

Absolutely not. I have friends who have had them, I do not attend. I've seen ballon out of a box, cake cutting (x2), betting boards and cupcakes filled with the right color from these parties I didn't attend in the FB pics and videos posted. I'm always annoyed they can't just say boy or girl or both (one set of twins) And I have to watch the video or look at the pics to know. Drives me crazy

@Smilz4782- It drives me batty too, but if a close relative or friend is having one, and it meant a lot to them, I would attend to show support.
But-- for me, I just tell people. I don't feel like spending the time, money or energy on some big extravagant party.

MAdams728 · December 2014

I have been invited to two, I have never gone. I think they are ridiculous.

Jillibean68 · December 2014

My B/SIL had one. It was, well, TBH, kinda lame. I know it was exciting for them, but if it weren't for the booze, I don't think many people would have showed. They did the frosting inside of a cupcake thing. They had some 'gender reveal games', and food and people stood around guessing what sex it would be for a couple hours.
I wouldn't have one, and I likely won't attend any others (only went to this one because of my brother).

tashad18 · December 2014

Most I've seen/been to are more like giant BBQs with a reveal thrown in. Still lots of fun.

peteresa · December 2014

Lezzie82 said:

CorryS12 said:
I've only been to one. I brought flowers instead of a baby gift. I known the couple struggled a little to get pregnant so I was super happy for them and didn't mind celebrating the reveal of their baby's gender. Depending on how close u are to the couple or either parent it can be special to be included in this type of event. It was wine and appetizers and just socializing. So it just felt like a cocktail party.

Cant say I would be equally excited to partake in a not so close friend or acquaintance or co-worker's gender reveal.

I plan to do something for my immediate family only because they are SO EXCITED about my LO. They love hearing about any detail regarding LO. And since I cant leave out the in laws I guess they will be there too. But it's less of a party and more of a "hey-u all get to find out at the same time." No formal invite or gifts or games.

This is what I wanted to do but I don't think I'll be well enough to do it anymore .

I wanted to have a basic get together with my close family (mom, dad, grandmother and DH's dad) and two friend couples that we have both known for forever pretty much. Have a nice dinner, fajita bar, and then bring out a surprise cake at the end and say "here we go, time to find out!" And cut into it. I want the element of surprise because so far with both pregnancies I haven't left anything a mystery to my family.... I called my mom three minutes after the double lines appeared lol. I just think it sounds fun! But I have a very strict no present rule. Were trying to get rid of stuff, our garage is an episode of Hoarders.

I think you should do it, especially with family and close friends, it is pretty special! If they don't care about what you're having they won't show up, but if they DO they will be there with bells on!!!! They may even wear pink or blue shirts to show what they think the baby will be

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soofttie · December 2014

I've been to a few and had one myself. They are fun!! We did game type stations and lots of yummy food. In mine and my friends it was a big party that you wandered around eating and doing stuff, if you wanted. We invited family and very close friends only.

Some of the games we played were: build a baby out of play dough, suggest the name (got some funny ones here) & washer toss (for the men) we let it fun and yea but here was a theme but not done up.

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Snapdragon750 · December 2014

I've never been invited to one. I'd go if it were a close friend or family member, like someone whose party I would attend even if she threw a party for no reason.

tinalovescauliflower · December 2014

I think BIL's wife had one when she was pregnant, but I am never invited to anything they do. Which is fine with me.

willadieselstm · December 2014

Two girls on my facebook (also both due in May) had theirs on Saturday. One couple did black and white handprint belly pics.. then a color one (boy) and then the others did a big production. I think the pics are cute... especially if it involves a sibling getting to find out they are going to have a sister or brother. The big production... not so much.

My sex reveal with my first?

Telling my immediate family after the ultrasound... and i put a "its a boy" graphic on facebook to tell the rest of the world. I just don't see the appeal.

katietopaz · December 2014

A close friend had one a couple months ago. She combined it with a housewarming party - it was charming since they hadn't actually unpacked yet. Some people would have thought it was a little tacky, but I thought they made it fun. Reveal parties are pretty common around here, but I can't really see having one for myself. And none of my other close friends have had one, but I'm not sure if I would go to one that wasn't rolled into something else.

beezybaby · December 2014

Ive been to one and it was tons of fun. They had a photo booth guessing game, where you dressed up in "boy" or "girl" accessories and put the photo strip on the boy board or the girl board, depending on what your guess was. There were pink and blue drinks (alcohol!), great music, beer pong with pink or blue solo cups, and it was just a great party in general. At some point the couple reached into a box a family member had filled with boas, and pulled out a pink one, telling them it was a girl. There were boas for everyone to wear, if they wanted, and it was so festive and celebratory, yet not just another name for a baby shower.

But, I am a sucker for any baby shower. They never get old to me. I love celebrating the mom, the baby, the family, no matter how many kids they have, how lame they are, what the etiquette says, blah blah blah...

dj99 · December 2014

They must not be that popular around here. Besides, I don't think I would go to one if I was invited.

Ballet80 · December 2014

I have attended a few of these. I think they are narcissistic, no one but your own family cares about your babies sex. This is my first pregnancy and I have had a lot of people who are surprised that I didn't do one, but I don't have the time. If people want to do a gender reveal that is fine, just don't be shocked when no one cares but your own family.

u197034 · December 2014

My mom threw a small one for us last week. Nobody knew the sex ahead of time (DH and I included) so it was a surprise for all.

What started out as a family-only party turned into something a little bigger. Once our friends and church family discovered what we were up to they started inviting themselves (all close enough to do so; known most of these people since I was a baby).

We didn't receive or expect any gifts, it was just a fun way of discovering if we were having a boy or girl this time around (boy!).

For us it was another great excuse to gather together, eat, and enjoy one another's company. We love reasons to party here in our community!!!

rositalynda2014 · December 2014

We just did dinner and then the cake reveal with our parents. It was really exciting. After we watched the ultrasound DVD.

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