Hello to all, Can I please post here? TTCAL yelled at me.

LilLizzy1487 · December 2014

Looking for permission to post here.

BethKate2 · December 2014

1. You weren't yelled at.

2. Starting your first post here with "TTCAL yelled at me" isn't going to make people want to welcome you with open arms.

3. You posted there saying you might be pregnant. The fact that you don't see the problem with that is a problem for me.

beemaya83 · December 2014

I went back to TTCAL and I don't see where they yelled at you. Reading the "read this before posting" would have gone a long way.

There are women over at TTCAL that have spent years of trying for their rainbow baby. It is hurtful to post that you might be pregnant or are pregnant.

With that beeing said, the ladies here can empathize with you and all of us are scared wondering if this will be our take home baby. If you plan to continue on this board, please read the posts at the beginning of the board.

dawnstar898 · December 2014

Where do you think people from TTCAL go after they've become pregnant???
Well.......they come here! So yeah, we are one in the same, so if you've done something to make them angry, you probably won't get much support here until you've made right with them.
TTCAL and PGAL are a very tight knit group which you are welcome to join but please be respectful and follow the rules!

uneek1323 · December 2014

Oh JFC. First, no one yelled at you. And second, if you really felt like that was yelling, I don't think you'll find any board on the bump appropriate for you. Many, many of us came from TTCAL - a place we called home for many months and even years. So posting here about TTCAL in the way you did isn't going to fly. Be grateful for the feedback you received on TTCAL and then go to babygaga. There they will most likely blow the smoke you are looking for.

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Nikolie93 · December 2014

This title sounds like we are in elementary school :-/

I really wish you the best but "asking permission to post here. TTCAL yelled at me"... Is this serious?

CreechMommy · December 2014

BethKate2 said:

1. You weren't yelled at.
2. Starting your first post here with "TTCAL yelled at me" isn't going to make people want to welcome you with open arms.
3. You posted there saying you might be pregnant. The fact that you don't see the problem with that is a problem for me.

This.

dawnstar898 said:

Where do you think people from TTCAL go after they've become pregnant???
Well.......they come here! So yeah, we are one in the same, so if you've done something to make them angry, you probably won't get much support here until you've made right with them.
TTCAL and PGAL are a very tight knit group which you are welcome to join but please be respectful and follow the rules!

And this.

Mel&John2013 · December 2014

I read your post on TTCAL and I thought they were very nice in explaining how that board works. I don't understand your anger. If I knew someone in "real life" was struggling to conceive I would not introduce myself by talking about how I might be pregnant, so I don't understand why someone would do that in an online format. And if someone did introduce themselves in such a way without thinking, I don't understand why they wouldn't apologize once they were told that what they did hurt another's feelings.

I don't say this because I came from TTCAL and know some secret society code. I was never an active participant there because the struggles of those women were different from mine (I knew this by reading the READ THIS BEFORE POSTING sticky post at the top of the board). I say this because it's common sense and courtesy.

psychmajormom · December 2014

THIS IS YELLING OVER TEXT.... The only person that used "YELLING" text would be you.... So please stop trying to play the victim. There are so many wonderful ladies over there and you offended them, you need to apologize. Yes, pregnancy after a loss is scary but how would you feel if someone you knew nothing about came up to you and said, "hey, I'm pregnant and you should support me no matter what's going on with you!"?? That's basically what you did to them.... So either a) grow a pair, apologize and move on or b) go cry to someone who gives a crap that a bunch of internet strangers "yelled" at you....

That is all, peace!

jjbmstinco · December 2014

((Hugs)) TTCAL ladies.

mpiemont · December 2014

Oh puh-leeeez.

stinybean · December 2014

CFearsy said:
I'm going to ignore the fuckery happening on this post and instead say haiiiiiii to all the PGAL lovelies. So...haiiiiiii!!!!

Hi Fearsy!

stinybean · December 2014

@CFearsy‌ and the lovely ladies of TTCAL xoxoxox

rslh10 · December 2014

Thanks for the support ladies....I mean, because we don't ever speak to each other after you graduate? /:)

Roxycc55 · December 2014

LilLizzy1487 said:
Looking for permission to post here.

Permission denied.

Cocoasushi · December 2014

Uhhhhhhhgggg... This isn't kindergarten.

CreechMommy · December 2014

Hi @CFearsy

smagglebit · December 2014

I agree with others that you need to apologize. You didn't know the etiquette of the board before posting, and you obviously didn't read the sticky topic at the top of the board. TTCAL is a board where no one is pregnant, and to post that you could be pregnant is hurtful to the ladies there. I'm sorry for your loss. The emotions after a loss suck, and I'm sorry that you're going through that. But it really sucks when you're TTC for months, and someone invades your board and starts talking about how they could be pregnant. You hurt their feelings, and they deserve an apology. Apparently you don't see it that way, which is why you're not going to be welcome here either.

luciddreamer106 · December 2014

No one yelled at you. They were kindly informing you of the etiquette of that board, which is there to protect other members, especially when some may be having a bad day. Many of us here are graduates of TTCAL, so coming in here claiming that you were yelled at is not the best way to make friends.

BackstreetPixie · December 2014

TTCAL are our friends. We love them and support them. Starting a post telling me you got "yelled at by TTCAL" makes me think "well what did you do to them?" Besides that they did not yell at you. The loss community has a particular way of talking about things and telling a bunch of women struggling to get pregnant, especially after a loss (or several), that you might be pregnant is not only ignorant, it is also rude and cruel. I have no sympathy for that.