October 2014 Moms

PP Sex Positions

Inspired by some of the talk in the randoms, help a girl out. My H comes home this week and I know we'll likely try to DTD. What works? What doesn't work for you? Any tips?

Besides booze. I plan on booze already.

Re: PP Sex Positions

  • I had a c-section and it didn't matter what position we tried they were all uncomfortable. We did a lot of foreplay and lube.

    I can't remember if you were the one who said you didn't like fingers in there (was it anyone's fingers, or just their fingers. My brain sucks. Sorry who ever that was!). But starting with that before moving on to penetration was really helpful.
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  • edited December 2014
    I also preferred me on top. I could control the depth, angle, speed, etcetera..
  • rosalie12rosalie12 member
    edited December 2014
    Me on top is the only option. Still hurt at first but not for that long. But is anyone else like numb? I could have gone on forever..

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  • Me on top...as usual. That's the normal position.
  • I second the fingers first to help stretch you out. Think of it as similar to your first time and that your DH needs to make sure that you are fully stretched and lubed before proceeding. Also, plain lube. I had some minor tearing at birth but by 6 weeks, it was healed so it was mainly an issue with lack of use/needing to stretch those tissues before proceeding for me.

    Married 10/06

    Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)


     

  • Missbee86Missbee86 member
    edited December 2014
    Pretty much any position goes, a little discomfort at first. But nothing a little lube couldn't help :blush:
  • edited December 2014
    2nd attempt DTD yesterday at 3 months. He got about halfway in for a while and then we stopped. We did missionary with plenty of oral and lube. I had a 2nd degree tear. I didn't realize the recovery would be so long actually.

    DH: that wasn't as tight as I was expecting
    Me: well... (Thinking I had a baby with it...)
    DH: I mean, it wasn't like throwing a hotdog down a bowling alley. It was... It was fine.

    Sigh

    FTM - BFP: 1/23/14 - EDD: 10/5/14 - DD Born 9/13/14

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    I wonder if being told he can make good use of his hand would be 'fine' too?
    I think SO would know to say that whilst running away very fast.

    Edit : words

    To be fair, I had told him that I thought the Dr sewed me up tighter than I am supposed to be. The sensation was likely due to swelling. Also, 1st attempt at DTD he only got a finger in and I stopped him. So... Context

    FTM - BFP: 1/23/14 - EDD: 10/5/14 - DD Born 9/13/14

  • I am terrified to DTD. DH has been hinting for a while and I was waiting until I had my 6w pp but now I have no excuse. I had two tears with multiple stitches and I still have moments where it feels tender.
  • LindseyioneLindseyione member
    edited December 2014
    After I had DD it hurt any position other than me being on top. Doggie style was the absolute worst and hurt for 6 months or more! I had a c section this time and had no problem when we DTD the first time 6 weeks pp.

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  • Me on top and DH lying down or sitting. We waited until 8 weeks PP and it was totally normal (2nd degree tear). With my first two, we DTD sooner but it wasn't great the first few times.


    Peanut 1.23.11 ~ Bean 9.06.12 ~ Little Boy 9.24.14
  • serenbachserenbach member
    edited December 2014
    This is going to sound crazy but my sex drive has actually improved since giving birth even though I had an episiotomy. Before I never used to enjoy sex all that much (like 50/50 sometimes I liked it sometimes I was waiting for it it finish) but I think it was because SO was a bit large and it used to cause me discomfort, now that discomfort has gone it feels different in a good way, I think also the fact that we can't just do it whenever like we used to makes it better because now it's more of a suspense and a build up.

    Edit : forgot to say which position, me on top works best... With the lights on dim as my pp body selfesteem is pretty shit right now.
  • Thank you ladies for being so honest. You've all given me a lot to think about and a starting point to try this whole deal again.
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