Pregnant after a Loss

One year ago. Loss mentioned.

On dec 9 last year we learned that the heart had stopped beating on our first Fetey. It was supposed to be a 12 week ultrasound and the baby measured 8 weeks. They gave me two rounds of cytotec which didn't work till late at night on the 11th.

I thought i was gonna make it through okay. Last night around 11 as i walked out of the restroom where it happened one year ago i just burst into tears. My hubby rushed to me and just held me. Then he got out these paper lantern candle things he made a few weeks back and lit the candles and held me on the love seat while I cried. Then he promised we could do this lantern thing every year as a family holiday to remember Fetey. We talked of all the sad things from the year then all the happy things then all the things we learned over the year. We stayed that way for well over an hour.

I feel conflicted today. Happy to feel lots of kicks from peep-fetey 2, but feeling so sad over my first. Just wanted to share with someone who may understand.
-Megan


Started dating Hubby May 17 2005. Married since Aug 20 2011 
Me:30   Hubby:31
TTC since May 2012 
HSG Dec 2012 Fill no spill on left side, right side normal (most physically painful experience of my life..)
Metformin Started May 2013
PG#1: BFP 10-21-13. EDD 6-17-14 mmc 12-9-13 m/c occurred with cytotec on 12-11-13 
PG#2: BFP 07-25-14.  EDD 4-5-15   *Hoping this is my rainbow*
Diagnosed with PCOS, Hypothyroid,IBD/UC, (UC in remission as of July 2014)
*I will always love you Fetey the first.* 
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  • Lots and lots of big ((hugs)).  I love the paper lantern thing you guys are going to do. 
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  • I'm so sorry. It sounds like you have a wonderfully supportive hubby. ((hugs))
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  • Sending hugs your way. Anniversary of our losses are hard. Your hubby sounds like a sweetheart. Take care of yourself.
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  • Sending lots of Big ((Hugs)) your way. Loss anniversaries are rough.
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  • I completely understand how you feel.  Big (((hugs))).


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    So many (((hugs))).  You'll never forget Fetey the First, and it is okay to mourn the anniversary.  Thinking of you.
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  • Big hugs. I love the lanterns. I can see that being super special over the years.
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  • Lots of hugs to you. Those days are super hard but I'm glad you have a wonderful hubby by your side.

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  • Sending so many (((hugs)))

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