Young mommy

jrecine · December 2014

hi ladies!
I'm a super young mom and I was just wondering if there are any other younger moms on here that can relate to me! I'm 19, I was a sophomore in college, obviously this was unplanned but I couldn't be happier!
So let me know if you're in a similar situation Id love to hear

lauranicole91 · December 2014

We have lots of younger moms on here.

I can't completely relate because I got married at 19 and planned my first pregnancy at 20. So on the unplanned part I can't say much. But from the public eye stand point I can relate. I was always the youngest at all the mommy meet up groups and felt looked down on. I've gotten nasty comments from strangers about how my husband and I tried to grow up too quickly and stuff like "kids raising kids" comments. But you toughen up quick and realize other people's opinions don't matter. Just do your best as a mom and you will be just fine.

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AidanMarlene · December 2014

I just turned 21 in October expecting my first unplanned baby. I wasn't in college during the time. I was still taking a break. You're not alone.

cassidyrae21 · December 2014

I'm 20, in school & have a full time job! This baby was definitely unplanned but we are excited! I have definitely had some negative comments since I announced my pregnancy for being so young & only being engaged & not married yet!

swiftrr · December 2014

Hi, I had my first at 16, that baby is now 16 and I'm having my second! Huge age gap and I feel bit like a ftm again lol. It's hard, you really are going in blind and winging it but to be honest you are at any age. My advice is it's your life and your baby, you will know more than anyone if you need help and support or if what you are doing is for the best or feels wrong. Trust your gut, it doesn't lie and please Do not be afraid to ask for help:)

Edited because my phone makes up it's own words

rivers714 · December 2014

I was a sophmore in college with my first and 19. You just need to not give a fuck about peoples opinions. Its nice- pregnancy at 19 was a breeze compared to 28 lol... I used to write papers when i breastfed at night,it'll be hard, but the best thing you can do is FINISH SCHOOL.

My biggest thing since I had my son was making sure he was never an excuse as to why I didn't accomplish something, rather he's been my driving force why I push myself to suceed. Its great your SO is supportive, I hope your family is too!

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swiftrr · December 2014

rivers714 said:
I was a sophmore in college with my first and 19. You just need to not give a fuck about peoples opinions. Its nice- pregnancy at 19 was a breeze compared to 28 lol... I used to write papers when i breastfed at night,itll be hard, but the best thing you can do is FINISH SCHOOL.

My biggest thing since i had my son was making sure he was never an excuse why i didn't accomplish something, rather a driving force why I pushed myself. Its great your SO is supportive, I hope your family is too!

I agree, I dropped out of school had my daughter went back to high school at 19, then went in and have a bachelor of design. Make sure you finish your school or whatever it is you are doing. Child is huge driving force to succeed and prove any nay Sayers wrong. I had a old man in a shop tell me I was "fucking disgusting" because I was 7 months pregnant. I told him " your fucking disgusting, look at your rotten beer guts! Least mine is natural" and you have to be strong like that because everyone has to have and feel the need to voice their opinions. Who cares what they think

Haileychristine32 · December 2014

Hi

I'm 21. Pregnancy was definitely unplanned, and we would have liked to get married before having kids. But I've really come to find that nothing is done the "conventional way" anymore and there is no right or wrong way to do this. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people and enjoy being young and pregnant.

kimmeenoelle · December 2014

Ftm I just turned 20 yesterday and I'm 18weeks. Unplanned, but I've been with my s\o for three years, we have a house, both employed, and were both ecstatic even though certain family members have been a little judgy!

catmentzer21 · December 2014

I was pregnant with my first at 19. My advise to you would be to ask lots of questions and don't let people treat you like a child. I had a lot of doctors and others look down on me for bring a "teen mom". Just make sure people know you are smart and just as ready as any other parent! I loved having my first at 19! It was so much fun! Now I am having number 3 at 29 and man this body just does not hold up as well lol.

themdimplesthoo · December 2014

I'm 18!

clarever · December 2014

I had my almost 7 year old at 19. Unplanned. We were only together a few months. I went to school and got my college diploma after he was born and married my sons dad a year after he was born. Now we are on our third child and so very happy. I look even younger then I am so used to the young mom comments and always the youngest at mom groups but absolutely love my life and boys and wouldn't change a thing.

mommatif · December 2014

Im lurking from A15 (due date is the 26th and I figure I should start reading the May board as well because I could have a May baby.) But I am also 19! I turn 20 in March. My boyfriend and I were only dating 6 months when I found out I was pregnant, so it was a surprise but we are both very excited for our little boy! Both of us work full time jobs and have been saving money like crazy! My biggest dream at the moment is to give my son the best life possible, even though he's got young parents

briannaortega13 · December 2014

I got engaged at 19, married at 20, pregnant at 21, and I'll be 22 when my daughter gets here! I started dating my husband when I was a junior in high school and 17 years old. I still consider myself a young FTM, even though I'm not as young as you are! Also, I'm not sure where you are from, but here in Texas, many people get married and have families this young! At least, many of my friends from high school do. Lol.

briannaortega13 · December 2014

@kendra1992‌ I know! I heard that from A LOT of people. My dad wasn't too happy that I got married that young, but he got over it

briannaortega13 · December 2014

I know! I am nervous about how it will change everything, but still very excited! We had decided that we were ready to start trying to conceive in August, but I ended up being pregnant already. Lol. She is due to arrive May 5th. When is your baby due? @kendra1992‌

branders74 · December 2014

swiftrr I had my first at 15 and he is now 16. I was concerned about the age gap between him and this LO but I think he will do great now. Have you noticed that this pregnancy is alot different than your first? I wonder sometimes if it has just been so long that I forgot about some of these "symptoms" or is this pregnancy really different.

jrecine If you have a really good support system you will be able to accomplish anything. I graduated from college and held a full time job at the same time. I was stretched really thin sometimes but I made it through it with the help of my family and friends. Now I don't know what I would do without my DS!

mommaham14 · December 2014

I'm a young mom (22) and my husband and I are expecting our second! We were high school sweethearts and could not be happier about baby number 2! It does make you grow up fast and it changes your life a ton, but I am so happy! I love being a mom. Ask for help and advice when needed and stick together. You'll be great!

stark01938209 · December 2014

I'm 30 and in denial that I'm not a "young mommy." Does that count? Best decision I ever made: not taking a break from school when my son was a baby. I would have never went back. It would only get harder. Not to reiterate... But you don't want any bad feelings about not following through.

Edited because English is hard.

obimom · December 2014

I'm in a different situation but all of DH family had children in their teens.
PPs have given wonderful advice; make this baby your reason to accomplish everything you wanted before you were pregnant.
My MIL had DH when she was barely 17. She dropped out of high school and against all odds managed to provide a really good life for him. To this day she regrets never finishing high school and has tried to fit in doing her credits after work but hasn't been able to yet. She adores DH more than anything in the world and would not change what happened, but she has said many times she wished she was able to find a way to stay in school.
Best of luck to you!!

ambarnett1 · December 2014

I'm 21 and this is #2. I had DS when I was 20 and DH and I got married when I was 32 weeks. We are very happy and can't wait to welcome DS2 into the world. Being a young mom is hard, but definitely worth it.

stephbrett2015 · December 2014

I'm 23, and although that isn't that young, I'm unmarried and attending university full time so I guess I feel young. (I started uni at 21). I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years, we have our own house and he owns a successful business. We have been getting so many comments from people about not being married and how I'm still at uni but seriously screw what other people think! We are over the moon so that's all that matters!

babyrandolph2015 · December 2014

Hi there! 19 and a sophomore in college with a full time job! Totally unplanned but I can't wait for my miracle to be here! Not engaged or married and get lots of flack for it. I live in "the Bible Belt" where you're damned to hell for getting pregnant and not married! I like the pervious advice to just not give a shit about others opinions. It makes me a happier person to just not care what they all think! Married or not my baby will be loved just as much by my boyfriend and I!

saralynn91 · December 2014

I'm not as young as you but like pp I'm 23 and attend a university full time plus have a full time job. I'm also not married but I've been with my bf for almost 5 years and have an awesome support system.
Have you checked into what your school does for pregnancy/babies for students? Mine offers free daycare (the students majoring in childcare get experience) and my professors are extremely helpful with anything I need. Since I'm due the weekend before finals week all my professors have agreed to let me either take my finals early or wait till I'm ready after the baby to take them, totally up to me!
Yes I'm getting some flack for being young/unmarried/still in school but I ignore them and concentrate on all the support and understanding I get from those who matter. Everyone just wants us to succeed!

melodysmommy09 · December 2014

had my first at 21. Now pregnant with second at 27.

swiftrr · December 2014

@branders74 yes! It's complete opposite to my daughter, that made me think I was carrying a boy. Scan on Thursday said girl, I was shocked but I guess I was so young when I had her did I notice all the symptoms? Or was it the same just easier?

kaylapowell95 · December 2014

I've been a lurker for awhile now but this post has given me a little boost of confidence! I'm 19 due May 21st with my first. I know its possible to do anything you want, baby or not. but its just nice to hear about other moms doing it! so thanks!

nickijachelski · December 2014

I'm 19 and I am due May 9th. This is my first child! I got married at 17, and my husband and I live in germany where we are stationed, he is in the military. We're so excited ☺️

averynate · December 2014

Hello I had my first 16 he's now 22 and in the Marines I have my daughter I was 22 she's going to be 17 years old and have a five year old four-year-old Three year old boy one-year-old girl I'm due May 16 harmony test said 99 percent boy Love a big family much harder when you're younger enjoy it more now when I'm older

rivers714 · December 2014

averynate said:

Hello I had my first 16 he's now 22 and in the Marines I have my daughter I was 22 she's going to be 17 years old and have a five year old four-year-old Three year old boy one-year-old girl I'm due May 16 harmony test said 99 percent boy Love a big family much harder when you're younger enjoy it more now when I'm older

My mom has 28,26,25,and 11.

It's nice because the 11 yr old is an uncle to a 7 yr old and 5yr old. So we can do a " rent a sibling"... I can borrow my niece or my brother whenever I want my son to have a buddy

mooregirl2014 · December 2014

I am 20 and 19 weeks pregnant with my first child. There are always those people who will make rude comments. But then there are those who genuinely want to give you good advice. Being 20 and pregnant is a lot different for me. I'm in school and working full time so I get all sorts of comments. You just have to seek out the ones who really care and block out the negative stuff. Congratulations and I hope all goes well for you and your family!

kayledbury · December 2014

I'm a FTM and I'm 20 I got married to my husband at 18 he was 24 and he came with my 2yr old stepson who I adore we married after being together for about 3 months everyone told me and tells me still how crazy I was to marry not only at 18 but also to a man with a child already who lived with him 99% of the time they said I was a child who now had to raise a child and that my life was over I have to say my life was deffinatly not over but just beginning iv had more adventures and experiances with them in the last 2 years then I thought possible I'm so excited to add our baby to our lil family he was deffinatly planned for and wanted we have tried since we married to have a baby but thought we never would after my first pregnacy ended in a miscarriage and we were in able to conceive for the next 2 years so this baby was very wanted and hoped for. I lost my job shortly after getting pregnant Bc I was pregnant and have been unable to find another so it's kinda all on my DH right now to support us and due to a series of unfortunate events the 3 of us had to recently move into my dad's house. So we have recived much criticism as of late for how our lives r going at this moment and time but thankfully my dad understands and is supportive

cortneyjayde · December 2014

I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant with my second little boy! I'm only 19. I had my first when I was 16 years old. I personally love being a young mom & we are very excited! I am to currently deciding what I want to take in college; as soon as baby is born I'm gonna go back!

good luck you'll love it!

menta84 · December 2014

AlwaysLastZZ said:

That's not very young! Do you and your boyfriend/husband live together? And are you working or going to school? Financially stable? Can't relate to your "similar situation" if we have no deets!

19 is very young in my opinion. Not judging you OP, not at all but I think 19 is a young age in general. I got married when I was 19, Husband was 20. We also got a lot of people that would judge us but we were determined to succeed, no matter what they had to say. We both have finished school and have successful careers, savings accounts, investments, etc. Now we are expecting our first baby and couldn't be happier. When people ask how long we've been married, they always open their eyes and start doing the math in their heads lol We are 30 and 31 now, but we made it work. My point is, you can do anything you are determined to do. Don't let people bring you down with their judgements, even though I think you are young, that doesn't mean anything bad. For the contrary, it means you have more time to achieve your dreams. Good luck with everything!

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