Dealing With People While Pregnant

Re: Dealing With People While Pregnant

• Beauxbaton member

  December 2014

  Tell em all to suck it.

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• Stephij1 member

  December 2014

  "That's interesting. I'll look into that/think about that/keep that in mind." Repeat until the pushy people get bored or take the hint, then go do whatever you feel is right for your family.
  
  As for the bump touching, if it's someone I know, I just back up and say that my belly is very sensitive since it's so stretched out (it may or may not be true that day). If it's a stranger, I'm not above pushing or smacking hands away. Imagine what your reaction would be if a stranger reached for your torso when you weren't pregnant and go from there.

   

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• sanbry member

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  Oddly enough this pregnancy, no one has tried to touch the bump without permission and I've gotten lots of nice comments. It was a nice change from all the crap the first time around. I just try to ignore it. People are always going to give you unsolicited advice now that you are a parent. You get to choose if it bothers you or not

  

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• Bigboneded member

  December 2014

  I got a book so they can write down their advice. Then I can reference it and they wont need to keep telling me :-) and lots of folks have good advice I might actually use!
  Haven't had belly grabs without permission, except for family. I am so excited to finally be pregnant that I am okay with their sharing my excitement. :-)

  

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• becks2012 member

  December 2014

  My two cents...
  
  Friends being pushy about babysitting...  Ignore them.
  

  Friends already disrespecting how you want to parent/discipline...  Ignore them.
  

  Parents constantly telling you what needs to be done...  Smile and Ignore them
  

  Random people giving the same advice...Give them a death glare and Ignore them.
  

  Strangers getting in your bubble and touching the bump...  Grin and touch their stomach and tell them they are being very rude by invading your personal space.  Unless it's a little old lady. Then you might just need to give her a pained smile and move on. 
  

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• speu511000 member

  December 2014

  Constantly being reminded how big I am, multiple times per day, every day by my best friend... I'm starting to hate her.

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• snowbaby1214 member

  December 2014

  I had my first nearly 12 years ago and I found that those most pushy about babysitting are the ones who are never around when you REALLY need them.  As for advice, ignore it!  People will always be excited to give out unsolicited advice but they don't need to know if you are following it.

  
  

  I personally hate dealing with people while pregnant.  I work retail and I am getting pretty snippy with customers.  I had one woman go off on a five minute tangent about how everything she picked didn't work with a coupon.  I just stood and shook my head in agreement.  Yes, it IS the end of the world because this cranky old bitch who is getting a $130 coat for $40 can't get any additional $ off...

  
  

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• Jellybean707 member

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  It only gets worse.

  
  

  My only advice for FTMs is that after you have the baby everyone(including strangers) is going to ask you "how is baby sleeping?" and  "how is baby eating?" and "how is baby doing?" and "how is baby<insert anything here>?"

  
  

  
  

  Warning    Warning     Warning

  
  

  
  

  This is their way of trying to get you to say something that will give them an in to give you advice. This is their opportunity to question you further and then lecture you for many hours on their superior parenting skills. 

  
  

  The ONLY correct answer to avoid this is "Baby, sleeps/eats/craps/etc so well! Thank you for asking!" followed by a big smile. When they push it just say "No we haven't had any of those problems. I guess we got really lucky with such a happy baby!" 

  
  

  
  

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• YaMrWhite member

  December 2014

  Just do this OP:

  
  

  
  

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• jmcmoe member

  December 2014

  becks2012 said:

  My two cents...
  
  Friends being pushy about babysitting...  Ignore them.
  

  Friends already disrespecting how you want to parent/discipline...  Ignore them.
  

  Parents constantly telling you what needs to be done...  Smile and Ignore them
  

  Random people giving the same advice...Give them a death glare and Ignore them.
  

  Strangers getting in your bubble and touching the bump...  Grin and touch their stomach and tell them they are being very rude by invading your personal space.  Unless it's a little old lady. Then you might just need to give her a pained smile and move on. 
  

  I agree with all of this except if they were to touch my belly and ask how long or something along those lines...I would touch their belly and ask them when they were due hahaha

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• peggels24 member

  December 2014

  I'm curious as to what your friends are saying about babysitting?  Like are they saying that they will babysit and when can they babysit?  

  
  

  As for strangers touching you - just scream Stranger Danger and run away

  BFP #1 09/26/2013 EDD 06/04/2013 MMC 11/01/2013

  BFP #2 05/15/2014 EDD 01/24/2015

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• 4littlebears member

  December 2014

  I'm blessed with resting bitch face, so no strangers have tried to touch me thank goodness! I hate being touched even sometimes by the people close to me (except my kids, I love when they want to be near). Always act like things are just hunky dory!

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• readyforround2 member

  December 2014

  @4littlebears‌ I too have been blessed with resting bitch face so I avoid a lot of unwanted advice and touching from strangers. There was one time at my 3 hour glucose test where it didn't work. An older Greek lady touched my belly without asking and said a Greek blessing then gave me a big hug...It took all I had not to cry lol that's the only time I didn't mind a stranger touching me.
  
  OP, I've learned to tune out a lot. Most of my friends have had children so they know how annoying comments about belly size are but I have a few that I told flat out "I don't get dressed in the dark, and all the mirrors in my house are clean, so I know how big I'm getting.'" That shut them up pretty quick. If I meet someone new and I have to be good then I say "thanks, I'll consider it" if they give me advice but other than that sarcasm is my second language

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• texasmama786 member

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  I'm not a bitch about the belly touching, it's usually women I work with or elderly women at the grocery store and I couldn't imagine swatting a poor little grandmas hand away. I'm good at nodding my head and ignoring the unsolicited opinions/advice. I think it's rude when people have good intentions to disagree/argue with them. Choose your battles and try to use tact.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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